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Alimony. I have no realistic prospect of getting a job that allows me to provide $48,000 in support payments from after tax income anywhere else but here. I could, of course, move to a house in the 'burbs so complaining about the work on the farm is crocodile tears but, really, I'm trapped in Ontario until my ex dies. I take pleasure in single-handedly redressing the excesses of the patriachy in Ontario.

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I worked in Slough, I meet lots of people in the industry here and in the US who did, it's not nice but there's all kinds of work there; a bit like San Jose or, good grief, the GTA.

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ah, thank you, the Buffalo News always has something horrible happening. Now I understand

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At the risk of stirring up a whole new argument on BE and thread hijacking, and being overly personal. Why do you have to support your ex? I understand you need to support your daughter but if the others are all now adults?? I would imagine that anyone who can take you on is perfectly capable of working for a living.

I am at school with divorced women, all retraining so they can go out and get jobs and be independent. Just a puzzle to me, apologies if I'm out of order here.

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Another UK basher. Come to McGinty's Ontario and see how great your job prospects are.

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Not out of order at all.

Firstly, I don't support my daughter, at least not in the eyes of the law, as an disabled adult she's the responsibility of the state; a responsibility met by paying a sum nominally sufficient to live on to her mother. There's no issue of child support.

I support my ex because, under Ontario law a wife is a responsibility forever (till death us do part and all). What's interesting to me about this is that the law has gradually shifted from a concept of division of assets followed by parting to one of ongoing sharing of assets (if I won the lottery tomorrow, my ex, with whom I have not lived since 1989, would have a claim on the money) at the behest of feminist lawyers. I suggest that this shift represents a change in feminist thinking from a position of wanting equal rights to a more Islamic concept of being a rewarded chattel.

Anyway, the short of it is that I married her and so I am obliged to support her until she is dead (if I die first and have insufficient insurance to maintain the payments then my estate, effectively my then partner, will have to provide the support). I have to say that while the lawyer suggested by my cowboy accountant was brutal he was quite correct in saying "a man should not divorce in Ontario. You have two sensible choices, have her whacked or flee the country".

I assume the women with whom you work either aspire to independence or have spouses who either cannot or will not support them. It's difficult to get more than a third of a man's gross income in support so, unless his income is substantial, it is likely that a divorced woman is going to have to consider some form of paid employment. It's also worth noting that while it's easy enough to get a court order for support payments actually collecting the money from someone determined not to pay is a whole other problem.

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So spousal support continues regardless of the ex's ability / willingness to earn?
I'm not sure where I stand on this, where the support goes on after the children have left home, and an exwife has had time to retrain and start to rebuild a career. I can see the argument that having stepped off a career ladder to raise children its hard to get back on. So the father of those children should contribute to even out that imbalance. I dont see that it should continue indefinitely tho. Too many variables. Does this mean someone in their 20's can expect to be supported forever? That doesnt seem very feminist to me.

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That's not quite the case. I know the recipient spouse can apply to the court for an increase in support if the payer's income increases so I suppose the payer could also apply for a reduction if the recipient earned more. That's not very likely to happen though. Firstly the recipient isn't likely to work harder if the increase in earned income is offset by a reduction in support and secondly few payers are going to see an advantage in a five year process costing tens of thousands of dollars which might lead to a reduction in support.

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I like the man I live with but I would fully expect him to take out a contract on me if I expected him to keep me if/after we got divorced. I had better add he wouldn't, I just think that is so unfair.

Children, yes, I've seen my friend struggle on £5 per week from her ex but if I was divorced and single, I'd have more self-respect! Law or no law, that's rubbish and I would say it is the very opposite of a feminist ideal....:thumbup:

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I can see a case that a woman who did not work during a marriage has nonetheless contributed, her husband could not have both looked after the children and worked, so being expected to provide some support isn't offensive to me. I do think though that once I'm dead the support should stop.

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http://techportjobs.com/en/home/JobS...p=bW9kZT0xOA__

Career limiting? Compared with the GTA, yes. But there are also more people searching for jobs in the GTA. Compared to other town/cities with 300K+ population I think it seems to do ok for IT jobs, in terms of amount advertised. There certainly seems to be a consistent amount of defense jobs in C/C++ development etc. if developing code to kill people is your bag. The odd .Net job seems to come up every so often on Techportjobs...