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hi everyone,

its lovely to hear of all your storied emmigrating as families and couples. My boyfriend doesnt want to come with me though, so i was looking for some positive comments from single girls who have made it over there and can tell me its worth losing a guy over. :huh:

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Hi,

I can't tell you i've done it yet, or done it alone but welcome to the board. From my trips over there and from speaking to people recently on the phone or via e-mail, everyone appears really friendly and I would guess you wouldn't be without friends for long.

My brother recently moved to NY with work on his own, he is having a ball and doesn't regret moving at all.

Sharon

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I guess that depends on the guy... but my hunch is that if you want to go and he doesn't, you both might have very different approaches to life and different life goals anyway.

I moved both to England (I'm from Canada) and back to Canada on my own and, although very difficult at times, there is a huge sense of freedom and satisfaction in travelling/migrating solo.

I'd say go for it. :thumbup:

... although I should qualify this by saying I'm an independent sort.

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I came over single (not a girl though) now I have a canadian wife, couple of kids yadda yadda. Its all good.

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Hi Littletwinkle46,

Just wanted to say follow your heart, it will all work out. Good luck with everything :)
Tina

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Go for it. You only live once and it will be an adventure - full of ups and downs, and that's life. Being single will make it all the more of an adventure, and if it doesn't do it for you, come back - nothing lost, and a wonderful story to tell your kids one day when you have met Mr. right....clearly you haven't yet!

My Mum emmigrated to Northern Rhodesia, now Zambia to work for the Forestry Department way back in 1958 - she went all by herself. The flight took 7 days to get there in those days!!!:eek: (Now about 9 hours)
She learned how to drive in wildest Africa and even crashed her car into an Aardvark while taking her test!!!
She met my Dad there and the rest is history....
There was no email etc. then, letters took weeks, and phone calls had to booked weeks in advance and cost a fortune.
So, things are a bit easier today so you will be fine.
I moved here from SA 12 years ago on my own, now a citizen and have had a wonderful adventure, now it's time for the next one - role on Canada.:thumbsup:

Good luck to you.
Rob

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Hi there,

I may be in the same position very soon....I want to go OH doesn't. My heart says go for it, cos don't want to spen life in regret and YES I can always come back...suppose better to have tried than never tried at all.....So I'm going for it!!

Full of nerves as will arrive with no family, no friends but am sure that won't last for long..

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Hey Benjy

Well, just do it. Canada is a great place and surely worth a year for an adventure, and then who knows..... you may love it and want to stay for a while.:thumbsup:
Remember, being single it's easier to make friends, so you will have a good time.:thumbup:

Best of luck.
Rob.

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Thanks Rob,

Got a job with CPS so lots to look forward to...its not as if the family is all in the Uk, brother in Tazmania, one in Saudi and the other soon to France....so may as well keep it in the family!!

Cheers

Benjy

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Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.;)

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I am going it alone. Will be emigrating with my 15 year old son. I moved from South Africa to the UK and will be moving once more. Just believe in yourself and do what you feel is right for you. Never regret anything in this life. You only have one shot at it and this is real life is not a rehearsal.

RubyRose:)

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Well said RubyRose....and all the best with your move;)

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Hi,trust in yourself and your capabilities,im going it alone,and its just as hard for a man as a woman. Go For it:thumbsup:

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Such positive support from everyone....which is fantastic. I suppose its no different to being single over here than overthere....but much more exciting!!

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You bet it will be much more exciting ;) I just love the Canadian girls accents,WWWWWWWWWoWWWWWWWWWWWW they're like a vocal viagra.:wub::wub: Can't wait to try and chat one up :rofl::rofl:

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I'm not sure whether being single or having a family matters. The decision can be a big one however many of you there are intending to go. In our case it was my husband that wanted to go and started the application process over 3 1/2 years ago. In that time I have changed my mind a few times. However when our medical requests came through, it made me take notice and decide do I or don't I. I have made a definate decision that I want to go to now, and am becoming really excited about it. I believe I have come to a time in my life where I want a change and a challenge.

I believe that if it is what you want you should go for it.:)

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I was coming over here by myself, but hadn't decided where exactly, just Canada. Ended up meeting this lovely guy in the UK who had done an exchange whilst an under-grad to UBC.

He talked me into coming to Vancouver as he loved the life out here so much with all the skiing, sailing and mountaining biking which is what I am into. A few months later we got to together, and it didn't take much for me to persuade him to come with me!

So you never know, you might meet your Mr Right following your dream, but if not you'll have a wicked time doing it alone.

I sometimes wonder how my experience in Vancouver would be different if I was single..........

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Obviously the best place to start. Presumably she has now progressed through the alphabet to Zebra?:D

George of the Jungle:cool:

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No, she's not that bad, of course that's not what that poor Wildebeest thought! :blink::eek:

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Hi, Just want to add my two-pence worth. If you don't go because of him you may end up spending your whole life regretting it and blame him. :thumbdown: It does happen. You only have one life, you've got to live it for yourself.
I'm lucky we both want to move to Canada, if he didn't want to then I wouldn't go, I wouldn't even have to think about it. The fact that you are undecided, makes me think "he isn't the one". "He's" probably in Canada waiting for you. :wub:

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Just thought I'd add my input here.
I am very much going it alone, and have no problem with that!
Will be getting off the plane with no job, limited $$$ and no where to live :rofl:
But it's all part of the experience, the adventure.
I can't imagine being held back by another person, the damn immigration rules are enough to contend with!

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What part of Canada are you going to? Are you just going to wait for PR or look for a job first. You really should you know.

BTW I am also from NI.

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Originally aimed towards GTA, ON as I know a couple of people who have lived around there. Now I'm more open, looking into NS or alternatives. Anywhere on the east side of things really.
I have looked at jobs non-stop! It's a catch-22 situation.
My experience is only admin stuff (not a career driven person) which is adequate to apply for PR, but not really realistic for getting a work permit. GRRRRRR!
Then there's the study permit option, but the international fees make it impossible.
Hoping to apply for a BUNAC visa to get out there and see what happens. Work that Irish charm :thumbsup:

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thanks loopylou,

hadnt said to boyf yet i was defo going, hes always known ive wanted to go though. Anyway he found out by accident (reading an email he shouldnt have) that ive actually made plans to get the ball rolling. He's ok about it, says we'll deal with it when we have too.
Im coming over in oct and have to come back in May for exam, so he now says he'll come for that. Previously said he wouldnt even come on holiday with me!
so we'll see.

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Someone else on this thread said that if you cant agree on a major thing like that then you have to question how compatable you will be on other big decisions which is probably sensible advice. But, its worth spending some time exploring why he doesn't want to go. It could be because he has an impression of Canada that isn't accurate or some other misconception. You would definitely need to do an exploratory visit together to see how you both feel about it. He may change his mind. My wife had some reservations but they pretty much went away after we spent a weeks holiday in the area we were thinkng of moving to.

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i think his main reservation is i have a lot of family in toronto im very close too whereas he has nooone and he probably feels a bit left out.
Almost got him to agree to a holiday in May, keep feeding him tim hortons coffee in the morning too!

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;) Before our 1st recce, I was sure it was what I wanted to do but my OH and 4 kids were totally against it:ohmy: after 2 weeks of visiting various places in NS hubby didn't want to come back to the UK and the kids loved it. It was me who was having doubts:p
Now 2 years later both me and OH can't wait, 2 kids have said definitely not, 1 is indifferent (she now has a boyfriend) and the other says just tell me when to pack !
So we're going for it, just waiting for OH's LMO :thumbsup:

Rosie

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I came over on a fiancee visa (although at the time of landing we had already married). Had wanted to live in Canada for a while, however my my boyfriend at the time was definately one those people who dislike travelling too far abroad.

Well that didn't work out and I met my future husband at a friends wedding in Victoria, and well the rest is history. Have been here 6 years, am a citizien and have contributed to an increase in the population to the effect of 3 boys.

Whilst we are trying to move to the UK to be closer to my family for a while, I certainly don't regret my decision to come over, and if the move does not work out it won't be a complete disappointment either as there is certainly no major dislike of this country.

Good luck

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I am a single bloke and you only get one shot at this life so make the most of it. My brother wil be going out with his wife but I will be on my own. You sound really excited about the whole thing. Get out there and have a ball!!