Child abuse?
#91
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Re: Child abuse?
I take on board gryphea's point about the school my kids attended, and the general 'oil family-ness' of the area, but in my opinion, that's what makes it worse... I could perhaps understand telling disadvantaged kids that they're all as good as everyone else, but I'm talking about a bunch of solidly middle-class kids from relatively privileged homes, with allegedly well educated and ambitious parents.
It's almost as if the school is encouraging the kids to absolve for their advantages by trying to out-nice each other. Instead of telling the kids how hard work and determination breeds success, they're told that there are no losers and we're all the same. Canada seems to think that there's no such thing as too humble.
It's almost as if the school is encouraging the kids to absolve for their advantages by trying to out-nice each other. Instead of telling the kids how hard work and determination breeds success, they're told that there are no losers and we're all the same. Canada seems to think that there's no such thing as too humble.
#92
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But it doesn't make sense because their perfomance at winter olympics is outstanding.
I don't really understand your position at all. You celebrate all winners (i get that) but when anyone on here asks about Vancuver's schools and dares to mention they want a good one, you come all over mediocre on them and state all schools are the same. Why is celebrating 1st place a good thing, when asking for good schools a bad thing?
My daughter will not be a world leader; but that doesn't mean she can't reach her full potential or that I don't want her to. I believe she is encouraged to reach her full potential more here. However my son is more like Jing's experience here in school.
I don't really understand your position at all. You celebrate all winners (i get that) but when anyone on here asks about Vancuver's schools and dares to mention they want a good one, you come all over mediocre on them and state all schools are the same. Why is celebrating 1st place a good thing, when asking for good schools a bad thing?
My daughter will not be a world leader; but that doesn't mean she can't reach her full potential or that I don't want her to. I believe she is encouraged to reach her full potential more here. However my son is more like Jing's experience here in school.
#93
Re: Child abuse?
In a class of 30 there can only be one winner. Why put the other 29 down?
A schools job is to encourage and enable all the kids to reach their full potential and to do the best they can. Only one will be top, but as long as all the others reach their potential then its doing its job.
Kids have plenty of time before they become adults and have to face adult realities. Let them be kids, in time they will figure out the other stuff anyway. There is no need to hurry them into pidgeon holes as winners and losers.
Besides there are plenty of sporting and extra curricular activities where its perfectly clear that the aim is to win. But the aim of these sports and activities is as much to teach kids to try their best, have respect for others and to learn to win and loose with equal good grace as it is to win at all costs. That is really what life is about.
A schools job is to encourage and enable all the kids to reach their full potential and to do the best they can. Only one will be top, but as long as all the others reach their potential then its doing its job.
Kids have plenty of time before they become adults and have to face adult realities. Let them be kids, in time they will figure out the other stuff anyway. There is no need to hurry them into pidgeon holes as winners and losers.
Besides there are plenty of sporting and extra curricular activities where its perfectly clear that the aim is to win. But the aim of these sports and activities is as much to teach kids to try their best, have respect for others and to learn to win and loose with equal good grace as it is to win at all costs. That is really what life is about.
#95
Re: Child abuse?
If you dont think the average canadian parent is up for encouraging their kid to win, then you need to spend more time at your local arena!
#96
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Re: Child abuse?
I didn't read it as a personal at all....it was a question asking a general question.....I think its child abuse having kids and doing nothing with them...I was a child of RAF parentage.....I moved schools almost yearly up and down the UK.....lived in Scotland, Wales and all over most of England....moved to Gibraltar when I was 10 for 2 years.....i think its character building...imagine if I hadn't been to all those places, I wouldn't have progressed to "not the sharpest knife in the draw" status!!!!
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Re: Child abuse?
" Let them be kids, in time they will figure out the other stuff anyway."
See I'm a little suspicious of that.
Here's the problem: If you *let them be kids* and don't push them then they could very well end up spending all their time playing x-box and not e.g. learn to read or add up.
Then when they hit 18 they will *still* be unable to read or add up and they will be a *lot* less likely to catch up later.
See I'm a little suspicious of that.
Here's the problem: If you *let them be kids* and don't push them then they could very well end up spending all their time playing x-box and not e.g. learn to read or add up.
Then when they hit 18 they will *still* be unable to read or add up and they will be a *lot* less likely to catch up later.
#100
Re: Child abuse?
" Let them be kids, in time they will figure out the other stuff anyway."
See I'm a little suspicious of that.
Here's the problem: If you *let them be kids* and don't push them then they could very well end up spending all their time playing x-box and not e.g. learn to read or add up.
Then when they hit 18 they will *still* be unable to read or add up and they will be a *lot* less likely to catch up later.
See I'm a little suspicious of that.
Here's the problem: If you *let them be kids* and don't push them then they could very well end up spending all their time playing x-box and not e.g. learn to read or add up.
Then when they hit 18 they will *still* be unable to read or add up and they will be a *lot* less likely to catch up later.
Then they'll end up on the dole and hanging around the back of the offy, drinking White Lighting, getting pregnant and not amounting to a hill of beans.
#101
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Re: Child abuse?
I suspect that the "don't push them" thing prevalent in Canadian dreams is more so that the teachers don't have to deal with unruly children.
I find the teachers here much less into teaching and much more into teaching as a "career". In other words they are career-minded poltically correct idiots who have no interest in actually making sure your kids get an education and just want a quiet life and the nice long vacations and the steady paycheque.
You get that back home too of course in lots of places but in the two schools my boys were at (in Glasgow of all places) the teachers were just brilliant compared to the teachers here.
#102
Re: Child abuse?
Welcome to the Canadian dream!
I suspect that the "don't push them" thing prevalent in Canadian dreams is more so that the teachers don't have to deal with unruly children.
I find the teachers here much less into teaching and much more into teaching as a "career". In other words they are career-minded poltically correct idiots who have no interest in actually making sure your kids get an education and just want a quiet life and the nice long vacations and the steady paycheque.
You get that back home too of course in lots of places but in the two schools my boys were at (in Glasgow of all places) the teachers were just brilliant compared to the teachers here.
I suspect that the "don't push them" thing prevalent in Canadian dreams is more so that the teachers don't have to deal with unruly children.
I find the teachers here much less into teaching and much more into teaching as a "career". In other words they are career-minded poltically correct idiots who have no interest in actually making sure your kids get an education and just want a quiet life and the nice long vacations and the steady paycheque.
You get that back home too of course in lots of places but in the two schools my boys were at (in Glasgow of all places) the teachers were just brilliant compared to the teachers here.
I have to disagree with this assertion. I have met lots and taught lots of Canadian teachers and the vast majority of them are professional, hard working, passionate, well-educated and really want the best for the children they teach and in the most part they're not hampered by the shackles of class consciousness. As individuals, I'd stack them up against any teachers in the world. The problem I find here is systemic and lies with the larger national spirit and viewpoint.
#103
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Re: Child abuse?
I have to disagree with this assertion. I have met lots and taught lots of Canadian teachers and the vast majority of them are professional, hard working, passionate, well-educated and really want the best for the children they teach and in the most part they're not hampered by the shackles of class consciousness. As individuals, I'd stack them up against any teachers in the world. The problem I find here is systemic and lies with the larger national spirit and viewpoint.
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#104
Re: Child abuse?
" Let them be kids, in time they will figure out the other stuff anyway."
See I'm a little suspicious of that.
Here's the problem: If you *let them be kids* and don't push them then they could very well end up spending all their time playing x-box and not e.g. learn to read or add up.
Then when they hit 18 they will *still* be unable to read or add up and they will be a *lot* less likely to catch up later.
See I'm a little suspicious of that.
Here's the problem: If you *let them be kids* and don't push them then they could very well end up spending all their time playing x-box and not e.g. learn to read or add up.
Then when they hit 18 they will *still* be unable to read or add up and they will be a *lot* less likely to catch up later.
I should point out Im not talking about teens here, by the time they are teens they should be pretty aware that some are going to do better than others in life.
You can let your kids be kids without an Xbox. In fact given the violence in the average Xbox game I suspect they will be kids longer without one. My kids spend far more time at the piano then playing Wii. I guess Im lucky. In fact I know I am.
#105
Re: Child abuse?
Welcome to the Canadian dream!
I suspect that the "don't push them" thing prevalent in Canadian dreams is more so that the teachers don't have to deal with unruly children.
I find the teachers here much less into teaching and much more into teaching as a "career". In other words they are career-minded poltically correct idiots who have no interest in actually making sure your kids get an education and just want a quiet life and the nice long vacations and the steady paycheque.
You get that back home too of course in lots of places but in the two schools my boys were at (in Glasgow of all places) the teachers were just brilliant compared to the teachers here.
I suspect that the "don't push them" thing prevalent in Canadian dreams is more so that the teachers don't have to deal with unruly children.
I find the teachers here much less into teaching and much more into teaching as a "career". In other words they are career-minded poltically correct idiots who have no interest in actually making sure your kids get an education and just want a quiet life and the nice long vacations and the steady paycheque.
You get that back home too of course in lots of places but in the two schools my boys were at (in Glasgow of all places) the teachers were just brilliant compared to the teachers here.