Am I alone......????
 

Like a lot of other people on here I am in the queue waiting for my PR application to be processed.

When I think about moving to Canada I get really excited thinking about the kind of life we can have. But then on the other hand I get really nervous too, worrying about it all going wrong, and question why we have decided to move.

Am I alone in this or is anyone else going through the same thing?

I feel like I am going crazy at times :blink:

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I would say this is very normal although for several years we had made decision to move to the US and was prepared for it but due to US retrogression (no visas) and being affected and dh getting a new job the option came up for Canada with the company and absolutely love it and no regrets. Still had thoughts what if but I guess we have been lucky to find a house that we love and plenty of land for our dogs

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I thought I'd written that post for a second!!:p

You sound exactly as I do, one minute I'm looking forward to the excitement of moving to a new country, being close to my brother and his family and generally having a good feeling about it all........THEN I get the thoughts of I'll miss my parents, my best friend, a comfortable job, not sure what job prospects will be open to me when I get to Canada....blah blah blah :eek:

Apparently its very normal to have these thoughts/feelings, so whenever you feel nervous or scared just come on here and chat to the regulars, they always make you feel better about it all !


I just keep telling myself, if I don't try it, I'll always wonder what it might have been like ;)

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Me too. Went through all those emotions right until the end, but now 4 weeks on and we are loving it. I was asked the other night if I am missing friends and family and as awful as it sounds I said - no not yet. Life here is good. Its better to try it and find out you don't like it than not to try at all. Where are you looking to settle.

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Nope....you are not mad, crazy. losing your marbles, etc, etc....

You will be riding an emotional rollercoaster....some days the ride is good (Can't wait to get there, new adventure, different lifestyle....) and some days you wanna get off the ride (leaving friends, family...comfort zone)

All I can say is, you if don't try it, you will NEVER know....

Mrs Jaffa and I have been here just over a year, and we could not imagine going back to live there....visiting....yes....but nothing else!!

Take care

Jaffa

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No not crazy.............just normal!!

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I think everybody has the same feelings as you and it's only human nature to feel that way. We enjoy our new life in Canada and have no regrets about leaving the UK.

I wonder how many people have felt the way you do and decided not to go through with it. It must be awful living a life of (If only I had gone) !!!!!!!!!

I'm flying back to the UK tonight for a mixture of business and pleasure. This will be my first time back for 2 years and I have very mixed emotions. How funny to think we are sat on two different sides of the world with the same nervous feelings. In 12 hours time I will be 30 miles from Basingstoke, so very close to you!!!!!!!!

I am looking forward to seeing my friends and family but I am also nervous. I now call Canada my home and it's sounds funny when friends in the UK say - Glad you are coming home, can't wait to see you!!!!!!!!!!!!

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We too, are having the exact same crazy emotional roller-coaster ride :unsure:

After 21/2 years of waiting, we just received our medical and ppr letter - very exciting - BUT in the last two months:
None of our friends want us to leave the UK

we've gained great new neighbours (2 lots)

the kids have made good friends with the new kids and been out each evening on their toboggans because:
England has had SNOW (the real, fine, squeaky kind! :thumbsup: )

Our little bit of the Yorkshire Dales has had crisp, cold weather with BLUE SKY!! - unheard of in normal winters (or even Sring, Autumn or Summer :rofl::rofl:)

OH is in a sinecure of a job where he wouldn't get made redundant (he gets paid for playing trains on a 1:1 scale model railway in an old-fashioned signal box :rofl: )


And yet
and yet...

My parents went to live in Canada 34 years ago then returned to the UK 3 years later. They're now in their 70s and STILL talk about it and wish they'd never left.

Good luck with the move - remember, nothing is forever unless you want it to be :thumbup:

Katie :D

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Sounds prefectly normal to me.:)

As one riding said rollercoaster at the mo, I completely understand what you are going through. :eek::eek::eek:

When emotions start to get a little out of hand, I just think, what would I rather do. Go and give it a try. Or sit there and wonder what if?:confused:

Perhaps it's a good idea to go over all the postive reasons why you made the choice to move in the first place.

Hang in there.:)

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If you are crazy then I should be in the nuthouse!

I find it worse when talking to family, I get really excited, see their faces then crash again!!

The fact that it is such a long drawn out process doesn't help either.

Good luck with your move.

S&B

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i am glad it isnt just me !! i was doing the ironing the orhwer day and thinking if we do get in , we will have to have a leaving do , and i know i will just blub :rofl: am really sorta dreading that part

we might just go and not tell anyone , haha xx

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same here too:eek:

Its starting to gradually reduce, the frequency that I think OMG what is happening, but then the days it does come back to bite you it doesn't hold back:rofl:

I just try to remember the reasons why, think about the fortunate position we are in to have PR visas and house sold and that if we don't go I know we will kick ourselves big time.

It is hard though the family heart strings :unsure:

You will get there, you are definitely not alone:thumbup:

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Just know that you will not be the only one with eye problems on D-Day.
I'm sure I'll be just the same then and if the time comes.
Just make sure you take plenty of tissuses.

And most importantly don't forget the world is a small place, with great phone, e-mail and VOIP connecting us all together.

Hope everything goes ok for you honey.

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Nope trust me, I most definitely feel the above quote could have been written by me.

I am on the skilled worker route and probably have two years left before i hear anything. I looked into alternate routes, but have put these on hold due to a health scare (still having tests) and personal reasons.

I have just spoken with a work colleague who lived in Canada (Alberta) for two years, is now back in UK and is planning on going back and she says if you don't do this it will be the biggest regret.

However leaving my family is the main hesitation for me, as i am doing this on my own.... :eek: and that is very very scary :eek: :eek:

I think being scared and unsure is okay, and whether you go or not, is entirely your choice - and trust me it is a difficult choice to make...

All the best no matter what you do :D

Emmjay

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I think it is normal to have those sort of feelings - I know we did.

And when you thikn about it, it is a very scarey process - you are upping your family and moving to the other side of the world. It is both exciting and terrifying