Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
Oct 30th 2009, 5:11 pm
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
She wanted to go to Vancouver and it does look lovely. But I've promised her we can visit. She also wants to visit Forks and Port Angeles in Washington and some place in Arizona from the films too.
I considered BC but I'm keen to benefit from Calgary's low taxes for small business, after having to cough up 40% in the UK.
I considered BC but I'm keen to benefit from Calgary's low taxes for small business, after having to cough up 40% in the UK.
Oct 31st 2009, 1:38 pm
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
Personally I don't understand why people subject their teenage children to the trauma of emigrating to a foreign country, especially one as far away as North America. If they want adventure they should join a pottery class or the Rambling Association instead of putting their children through such emotional turmoil. It just seems a bit self-centered to me.
Oct 31st 2009, 7:36 pm
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
Thanks for the advice everyone. They have quickly changed their minds back and both keen to go again. We were leaning towards Toronto but we've decided on Calgary.
The eldest loves the idea as it has the biggest skatepark in the world. And the youngest likes that it is in driving distance to the biggest mall in the world. Also, the scenery is great and reminds her of the places in the "Twilight" films.
The eldest loves the idea as it has the biggest skatepark in the world. And the youngest likes that it is in driving distance to the biggest mall in the world. Also, the scenery is great and reminds her of the places in the "Twilight" films.
Oct 31st 2009, 7:59 pm
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
That's a daft thing to say. My children are in/approaching their teenage years. We've been talking about emigrating since they were babies. There is never an ideal time to emigrate for your children. As babies/toddlers/primary age I felt it a bit selfish of me to take them away from everything and everyone they knew and would forget. As teenagers they're involved in the decision making and discussions, which personally I find easier. And sometimes it's not until they get to that age that you realise the kind of life they are going to have is not what you want for them. I'm prepared to uproot my life for the sake of my children to have a better life. What's self-centred about that?
Oct 31st 2009, 11:25 pm
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
Apparently a lot of Brits aren't getting it either.
I thought his post was dripping with sarcasm.
Oct 31st 2009, 11:29 pm
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
Apologies then if that's what was meant. Maybe hit my raw nerve by mistake!
Nov 1st 2009, 12:01 am
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
Really? I thought he meant it.
Nov 1st 2009, 12:20 am
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I did mean it.
I doubt teenage children are really in any position to make major family decisions such as emigrating to foreign country. I would have thought it easier for little children to adapt, but older children have developed more relationships, have more invested in their culture and surroundings and thus would have a harder time assimilating.
I doubt teenage children are really in any position to make major family decisions such as emigrating to foreign country. I would have thought it easier for little children to adapt, but older children have developed more relationships, have more invested in their culture and surroundings and thus would have a harder time assimilating.
Nov 1st 2009, 12:24 am
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
What's wrong with the area you live now? What are the mechanics of a 'better future' in Canada look like? I'd have thought easier to change what you don't like about your life but in the UK.
Nov 1st 2009, 12:57 am
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
I did mean it.
I doubt teenage children are really in any position to make major family decisions such as emigrating to foreign country. I would have thought it easier for little children to adapt, but older children have developed more relationships, have more invested in their culture and surroundings and thus would have a harder time assimilating.
I doubt teenage children are really in any position to make major family decisions such as emigrating to foreign country. I would have thought it easier for little children to adapt, but older children have developed more relationships, have more invested in their culture and surroundings and thus would have a harder time assimilating.
I certainly didn't feel I had anything invested in ant sort of relationships or anything cultural and didn't have any difficulty fitting in once here.
Seriously I think the average teenager has more invested in themselves rather than any sort of culture or relationship.
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Nov 1st 2009, 1:01 am
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Re: Advice Needed - Kids Are Saying They Don't Want To Move
From personal experience albeit 45 years ago I had no problems moving to Canada at 16.
I certainly didn't feel I had anything invested in ant sort of relationships or anything cultural and didn't have any difficulty fitting in once here.
Seriously I think the average teenager has more invested in themselves rather than any sort of culture or relationship.
I certainly didn't feel I had anything invested in ant sort of relationships or anything cultural and didn't have any difficulty fitting in once here.
Seriously I think the average teenager has more invested in themselves rather than any sort of culture or relationship.
