Shrimps On The Barbie
#121
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I agree. I don't even use my real name on Facebook, and I know if I had been told to register in my real name on this (or any other) forum, I would have kept walking and never registered.
I did get a load of very personal abuse from one person who used to be a member here a few years back - after I had met several local expats, and he knew my real name. The abuse I got as a mod from a few members was more anonymous as they only knew my screen persona, and hence it was much easier to shrug off. One person I do remember though was so desperate to send me abuse that she contacted a migration agent with whom I had chatted on here, and demanded that he tell her my contact details and/or pass on her messages! Fortunately he had more sense and loyalty!!
I did get a load of very personal abuse from one person who used to be a member here a few years back - after I had met several local expats, and he knew my real name. The abuse I got as a mod from a few members was more anonymous as they only knew my screen persona, and hence it was much easier to shrug off. One person I do remember though was so desperate to send me abuse that she contacted a migration agent with whom I had chatted on here, and demanded that he tell her my contact details and/or pass on her messages! Fortunately he had more sense and loyalty!!
#122
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I agree. I don't even use my real name on Facebook, and I know if I had been told to register in my real name on this (or any other) forum, I would have kept walking and never registered.
I did get a load of very personal abuse from one person who used to be a member here a few years back - after I had met several local expats, and he knew my real name. The abuse I got as a mod from a few members was more anonymous as they only knew my screen persona, and hence it was much easier to shrug off. One person I do remember though was so desperate to send me abuse that she contacted a migration agent with whom I had chatted on here, and demanded that he tell her my contact details and/or pass on her messages! Fortunately he had more sense and loyalty!!
I did get a load of very personal abuse from one person who used to be a member here a few years back - after I had met several local expats, and he knew my real name. The abuse I got as a mod from a few members was more anonymous as they only knew my screen persona, and hence it was much easier to shrug off. One person I do remember though was so desperate to send me abuse that she contacted a migration agent with whom I had chatted on here, and demanded that he tell her my contact details and/or pass on her messages! Fortunately he had more sense and loyalty!!
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental. There is so much dodginess out there it's not funny. The less info you divuldge, the better
#123
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I did get a load of very personal abuse from one person who used to be a member here a few years back - after I had met several local expats, and he knew my real name. The abuse I got as a mod from a few members was more anonymous as they only knew my screen persona, and hence it was much easier to shrug off. One person I do remember though was so desperate to send me abuse that she contacted a migration agent with whom I had chatted on here, and demanded that he tell her my contact details and/or pass on her messages! Fortunately he had more sense and loyalty!!
So yeah, the 'real name' thing is a no brainer for me.
#124
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
People can be just awful sometimes, and forum members would be appalled if they knew what goes on I'm sure. I've had similar, including somebody who sent me the most horrendous video and threats via my business website - no idea if he just got lucky and guessed it from the little info I've given on here, or if somebody I know both on and off the forum gave it to him. Either way, he was banned pretty quickly and then all the regulars were up in arms at him being banned because they thought he was lovely and we were evil.
So yeah, the 'real name' thing is a no brainer for me.
So yeah, the 'real name' thing is a no brainer for me.
I agree about anonymity. Is my real name really Jerseygirl, or has everything I have posted been based on someone else.
#125
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re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I think anybody that does so is mad
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
#126
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I think anybody that does so is mad
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
#127
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I think anybody that does so is mad
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
If I'm going to insult you, you'll reply to your post directly and insult you that way
Hope this helps
#128
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re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I think anybody that does so is mad
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
#129
#131
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
I think anybody that does so is mad
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
Putting your real name online, apart from a few limited instances is mental
Well...!! Look at that. I've been insulted twice within 24 hours! Whatever next?
(Joke! I'll take my chances. But still... "mad"?? "mental"?? Me?? Heavy manners, people!)
Hopefully as you're not a mod you won't get the charming missives which make our lives so exciting, so all will be good even if it is your real name.
#133
re: Shrimps On The Barbie
All that said, I am a faily private person and certainly don't want to be traced by people related to either my employment or business, as far as possible. At one of my previous employers, one colleague (I never knew or met) "disappeared" (not in either the US or UK/ Europe) while on an assignment, and I would sooner not run too much of a risk of that happening to me. I do cross paths, albeit usually distantly, with a few unsavoury characters - I know of two murderers currently imprisoned in NC - one I used to work with and knew on first name terms, and the another was the son of a client who I met many times. I also knew two people who were killed - including the victim of the client's son.
On the filp side, I did inadvertently spook one of the BE regulars some years ago after he shared, over a period of several years, enough snippets of information to nail down his home address, despite him being registered under a totally ficticious name on BE! He published his location as a relatively small (pop c20,000) city, which was his first, but arguably his biggest mistake. Then one day he described in one of his posts something about the shape/ design of his street and the number of immediate neighbours he had, so that narrowed his address down to just a handful of possible roads in the city where he lived. Then another time he mentioned that people commonly mispelled/ misheard his street name (obviously he gave only the part of the name which caused problems - but it was like "chase" or "passage"), but that only overlapped with less than a handful of houses that also fit with the previous description of his immediate neighbors homes. From there it was easy to find his real name, his wife's name, and her registered business ..... so even using a fake user name on BE is no guarantee that you can't be traced if you are careless with other personal information.
Last edited by Pulaski; Aug 8th 2022 at 3:14 pm.
#134
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re: Shrimps On The Barbie
Hey, Pulaski. If you're ever down in Grand Cayman, give me a ring and come over for a cuppa and a chat! My address and phone number are in the book. Open house, man!
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