Why do i feel like this
 

just some random thoughts here

why do i feel that i want to go home:confused:

I have a good life here, i work just 4 mornings a week, we swim in our own pool most afternoons (week) and days (weekends)

I work because i want to not because i have too, although we dont have bucket loads of money we have enough to live off

My girls are happy

Alan - well he works far too hard but seems settled most of the time (not always though)

so why do i sometimes still want to go home

NOT always i will hasten to add, yesterday i was fine, today i was fine, just sitting here this evening and i thought.... humm i could go home

I won't but why do these feelings just creep up on you????


oh i could do without the silly sarcastic answers tonight as well please... thanks



and i haven't really put this into words very well, just why when i've had a good day at work adn all is settled around me....i'm feel i'm not???

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Sam, do you have any really good mates yet? You know the ones where you can just pick up the phone and have a good natter, whinge or just talk crap with? Or someone who you can just pop to their house for a coffee, or go to the shops with for a few hours?

I think they make all the difference. I was really lucky cos I met someone like that within a month of getting here and I'm sure she has helped me feel at home.

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Yeap got a couple of those

Just feeling really ??????? tonight:o


actually i suppose if i'm going to be honest

my brother (one up from me) is getting married,

We are going back for 2 weeks in Oct 2008 (booked the tickets)

He's planning the wedding around our dates ( how sweet)

He was on the phone earlier sorting out our arrival date and leaving date so he can accomodate us

I suppose i feel a bit out of it all, as if i was back in UK, i would be helping them sort it out (bless them both, love them dearly but piss up in a brewery springs to mind)

and yes i know for a fact that i would be helping them sort it as i was and am really really close to my brother

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Well tomorrow get on the phone to them and arrange something fun. Take a breather, put yourself first and make the rest of your family look after themselves for a few hours - cos I bet you're busy rushing around thinking of them and not yourself. Be selfish for a day.;)

And you know where I am if you need to talk about anything :)

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i have been here on and off for 20 years...i feel like that sometimes but just brush it off........enjoy each day for what it is.....you will always miss someone everyday...but make life mean something by really taking in all the little things you appreciate about each day nowhere is perfect and to be honest it's only recently that i really know that my home is Australia and i still miss UK but I just go with the feeling and it passes....so enjoy your day...appreciate what you have got and not what you haven't...bless you

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Thanks you two

I know what you mean why

i think that we'll head out somewhere on SUnday as Alan is off and both the girls are here:eek::rofl:

seriously though, some time together, chilling may just be in order




Wendy

I'd say expect a phone call tomorrow...... but i've lost your number:o if you fancy sending to me again, i'll give you a call when i get home from work about 1ish my time if your in!?

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Settle down now............ cheer up.......... you'll be right.:)

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Thanks Bobcat

At least i'm not moving or doing home improvements;) :rofl:


SOrry to have missed you on SUnday

Will you come to the Jan one???

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Not much to say Sam but.....

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Thank you Bixie Boy:)

Re: Why do i feel like this
 

Probably............. I really enjoyed myself on Sunday......... first Home-Open free weekend for ages.

Have you cheered up now?

I felt a bit down last week............ thought I was in with a chance of listing a magic property less than 5 minutes from our house......... but didn't get a look in. Hopefully this new Govt will bring about a pleasant change in the market and things will get back to how they were before?

If not.......... guess I'm going to have to get a proper job:eek::eek:

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Pleasant change means???????? for the home owner

I haven't really followed the policies as i couldnt vote

Do you hope the market will level out or keep going up???? and i'm sure you have a proper job just because its in real estate:eek: :rofl::thumbsup:

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Oh Sam!

I so know how you are feeling!

My daughter got married in March this year. In York!

We came out here in December 2004 because she had been out on the one year young persons visa in 2000 and came home to tell us that "no matter what else she did, she was coming back to Australia to live" We applied asap to get out here, before we were too old, and stayed for the first two years solid to be able to get citizenship to enable us to sponsor her.

Her brother, my eldest son, has now emigrated to New Zealand, with his wife and two children.

However, my daughter met a lovely guy not long after she got back from Oz and they got married in March 2007, as previously stated.

I felt so left out of the arrangements for her wedding, I thought that I would die. I felt so out of place at her wedding that I wished I hadn't gone. Now she is expecting her first child, my third grandchild, at the end of March next year. We have flights booked to go back in January so that I can buy a pram for my daughter's first baby, and all I can think of is that this baby will never really be mine. We came out here mainly because this is where my daughter said she wanted to be. I don't think she will ever come now. Problem is that I don't think we can afford to go back to UK and be in the same position that we were pre-Australia.


also, if we go back to UK, my son and two grandchildren will still be in New Zealand.

A rock and a hard place!

I wish I could go to bed and pull the duvet over my head and just wake up in a place where all my children and grandchildren were in the one place.

My thoughts are with you,

Maggie;)

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Sam - you feel like this because you are normal and you have the complicated network of emotions and feelings that come with being human!

For all of us being happy is partly about our surroundings and our day to day lives but it is also so much more than that - it is about our relationships with our friends and family, our sense of where we belong and what feels comfortable for us.

I think it's perfectly natural to have feelings like you do even though as you say your day to day life in Oz is good - hope the feeling passes soon - in the meantime just go with the flow and reassure yourself that your feelings are perfectly normal and you are just being human!

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You changed your answer :sneaky:

No wonder you're feeling crap. Major family events make you feel very isolated when you're all the way over here - since we've been here we've missed my MIL's 60th birthday bash and my FIL funeral and both these have made us feel very far away, very guilty for not being there for them and a little unsettled.

It's only natural that you feel like this honey, but don't feel guilty for not being there to help. Just concentrate on the lovely time you'll have when you get back for the wedding.

Take some time out for yourself. Whether that's a holiday somewhere, or a day out doing shopping or whatever you like doing. :)