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When things get personal
I just wanted to raise my observation that, in my opinion, a few posters on BE (only a few) have over-stepped the mark recently with what I think are quite personal attacks on other posters.
Maybe it's just me, but there seem to me to be a few posters who are only too quick to jump in with a nasty remark when someone says something. I respect the World is full of people with many different views, and yes, sometimes people complain about things, but I don't think personal criticism of someone is warranted. |
Re: When things get personal
If you see someone posting something you consider to be 'overstepping the mark' hit the report button. However, as we are only reading words it's very hard to tell, unless you know someone's 'style', if they're being rude, sarcastic, humorous, honest. Also two readers can read a post in two completely different ways. I may see rudeness, someone else may see humour. One person's level of acceptable behaviour can be completely different to someone elses.
So, if in doubt, report. In my opinion, the main problems occur when a poster reads a post (generally aimed at someone else entirely), takes offense and starts complaining about that post in the thread and an argument ensues. It is a very public forum, with individuals posting who you would have absolutely nothing to do with in real life. If someone continually responds in a manner you don't like, use the 'ignore' button. Don't let them (unknowingly some of the time) wind you up. Disclaimer: There are also posters who have nothing better to do with their time than lob snotty posts about in order to get a rise but who manage to stay within the rules. |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by moneypenny20
(Post 9985972)
If you see someone posting something you consider to be 'overstepping the mark' hit the report button. However, as we are only reading words it's very hard to tell, unless you know someone's 'style', if they're being rude, sarcastic, humorous, honest. Also two readers can read a post in two completely different ways. I may see rudeness, someone else may see humour. One person's level of acceptable behaviour can be completely different to someone elses.
So, if in doubt, report. In my opinion, the main problems occur when a poster reads a post (generally aimed at someone else entirely), takes offense and starts complaining about that post in the thread and an argument ensues. It is a very public forum, with individuals posting who you would have absolutely nothing to do with in real life. If someone continually responds in a manner you don't like, use the 'ignore' button. Don't let them (unknowingly some of the time) wind you up. Disclaimer: There are also posters who have nothing better to do with their time than lob snotty posts about in order to get a rise but who manage to stay within the rules. |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by scottishcelts
(Post 9986007)
:amen::)
I have become accustomed to beatings.... |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 9986015)
In a fit of honesty I have dropped my trousers and present my bottom for the board to spank as they pass by....
I have become accustomed to beatings.... |
Re: When things get personal
Yes I have to agree, a whole thread was recently started about me by someone who knows nothing about me or our plans. I have no idea of his motives but it says much more about him than it does me, it was more than a little sad to be honest. They are just keyboard warriors and really not worth wasting any effort on, just rise above it :thumbup:
Originally Posted by brissybee
(Post 9985951)
I just wanted to raise my observation that, in my opinion, a few posters on BE (only a few) have over-stepped the mark recently with what I think are quite personal attacks on other posters.
Maybe it's just me, but there seem to me to be a few posters who are only too quick to jump in with a nasty remark when someone says something. I respect the World is full of people with many different views, and yes, sometimes people complain about things, but I don't think personal criticism of someone is warranted. |
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It seems that living in Perth affects a few posters perspective.
For people who are supposed to be so happy they sound awfully angry and bitter at times |
Re: When things get personal
Im sure it just coincidence that the nastiest are in Perth :D
Originally Posted by Grayling
(Post 9986030)
It seems that living in Perth affects a few posters perspective.
For people who are supposed to be so happy they sound awfully angry and bitter at times |
Re: When things get personal
And this, Brissy, is why threads like this turn into exactly what you don't like to see. ;)
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Re: When things get personal
Not at all, no one is getting personal ;)
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Re: When things get personal
Actually this is something I have thought about recently and in the past have been guilty of myself to a high degree :o.
But more recently I look at some of the bitchy posts with obvious hidden sarcastic messages aimed at certain posters and I think it is pretty bad. Many people on here are going through some shitty times that they may or may not choose to dislose, they come on here for company, a good laugh or just some banter and I reckon sometimes it is worth taking a step back before attacking them via the keyboard. If someone annoys you that much, you can bet your bottom dollar that you annoy the pants off them too - something worth thinking about when taking the moral highground. FWIW, I apologise to anyone I have upset or been horrible to, sometimes I just write stuff to get it off my chest and my fingers type quicker than I can keep up with. And really, if I annoy any of you and you feel a burning desire to slate me or make innuendo, put me on ignore or step away from the keyboard. |
Re: When things get personal
Good post Cheetah :thumbup:
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Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Cheetah7
(Post 9986040)
sometimes I just write stuff to get it off my chest and my fingers
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Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by brissybee
(Post 9985951)
I just wanted to raise my observation that, in my opinion, a few posters on BE (only a few) have over-stepped the mark recently with what I think are quite personal attacks on other posters.
Maybe it's just me, but there seem to me to be a few posters who are only too quick to jump in with a nasty remark when someone says something. I respect the World is full of people with many different views, and yes, sometimes people complain about things, but I don't think personal criticism of someone is warranted. |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Grayling
(Post 9986030)
It seems that living in Perth affects a few posters perspective.
For people who are supposed to be so happy they sound awfully angry and bitter at times I don't think her life in Perth comes into it. Nothing that is our business... |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Broad Shoulders
(Post 9986049)
no need to apologise for this. Feel free to do this with me anytime Cheetah
I love you Broad Shoulders, :thumbsup: |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Cheetah7
(Post 9986080)
:rofl:
I love you Broad Shoulders, :thumbsup: |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Broad Shoulders
(Post 9986090)
how much exactly?
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Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Cheetah7
(Post 9986095)
Ill show you - via the keyboard of course.:sneaky:
....ok, so, what are you wearing? |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Broad Shoulders
(Post 9986097)
cool! I love doing this. How about I get us started off.
....ok, so, what are you wearing? :thumbup: |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 9986064)
That poster often posts with a degree of irony and frustration brought about by besiegement...
I don't think her life in Perth comes into it. Nothing that is our business... :rofl::rofl::rofl: |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9986105)
**** me.... I thought this was a thread about NOT getting personal....:frown:
:rofl::rofl::rofl: |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by bcworld
(Post 9986109)
I don't think Grayling was even talking about a 'she'!? :confused:
Sorry badge... Shouldnt get personal about yoyr bedroom preferences :rofl: See.. A deliberate misinterpretation of my post!..... :frown: I can see this thread getting closed in a very short time..... Because by its very nature its doing exactly the same as other single posts... As the bosses say... You dont like a post..report it.... |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by moneypenny20
(Post 9985972)
If you see someone posting something you consider to be 'overstepping the mark' hit the report button. However, as we are only reading words it's very hard to tell, unless you know someone's 'style', if they're being rude, sarcastic, humorous, honest. Also two readers can read a post in two completely different ways. I may see rudeness, someone else may see humour. One person's level of acceptable behaviour can be completely different to someone elses.
So, if in doubt, report. In my opinion, the main problems occur when a poster reads a post (generally aimed at someone else entirely), takes offense and starts complaining about that post in the thread and an argument ensues. It is a very public forum, with individuals posting who you would have absolutely nothing to do with in real life. If someone continually responds in a manner you don't like, use the 'ignore' button. Don't let them (unknowingly some of the time) wind you up. Disclaimer: There are also posters who have nothing better to do with their time than lob snotty posts about in order to get a rise but who manage to stay within the rules. |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Dorothy
(Post 9986190)
I completely agree. Can you believe that people actually think I can be rude and sarcastic? :lol:
Hubble bubble toil and trouble...fire burn and couldren bubble,,,When will we three meet again..... How about next tuesday arvo in the moon n sixpence???:rofl: |
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Originally Posted by Dorothy
(Post 9986190)
I completely agree. Can you believe that people actually think I can be rude and sarcastic? :lol:
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Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9986194)
They were talking about you? I was convinced it was about me... Or at a stretch NB.....:blink:
Hubble bubble toil and trouble...fire burn and couldren bubble,,,When will we three meet again..... How about next tuesday arvo in the moon n sixpence???:rofl: I thought that they were talking about Amazulu and NB. However, I don't think either of them is particularly rude or nasty. Just tell things like they are.
Originally Posted by Broad Shoulders
(Post 9986199)
so you're saying you don't really love me then?
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Re: When things get personal
I think some people use BE as an outlet for negative aspects of their own life.
Is it a case of 'the dog kicks the cat, the cat kicks the mouse, the mouse comes on BE to sneer at someone' ? It's easy enough to ignore someone after all. |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Turban Explorer
(Post 9986228)
I think some people use BE as an outlet for negative aspects of their own life.
Is it a case of 'the dog kicks the cat, the cat kicks the mouse, the mouse comes on BE to sneer at someone' ? It's easy enough to ignore someone after all. |
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Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9986236)
Sorry... Did some one say something?:D
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Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Dorothy
(Post 9986216)
No, they weren't talking about me (I don't think). I'm just saying that some people on here think I'm a bit of a bitch.
I thought that they were talking about Amazulu and NB. However, I don't think either of them is particularly rude or nasty. Just tell things like they are. Of course I love you. :wub: ITS A PERSONAL ATTACK ON ANYONE WHO LIVES IN PERF... Ok we get it.... Some people dont like some posters posting style... Or dont understand long term friendly biatching at each other and think its serious.. Or dont get the humour... Or dont get the .... Well just dont get it... |
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Originally Posted by Turban Explorer
(Post 9986238)
I must be on ignore with almost everyone :ohmy:
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One thing that I do get irritated by is opening links to threads just to see very short negative quips, formulas (what's that about!?) or smilies. That's not value for my iPhone credit!
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Re: When things get personal
I love you one and all:nod::wub:
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Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Bernieboy
(Post 9986604)
I love you one and all:nod::wub:
Or should we not be taking you too literally? |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9986621)
Wot, even us that live in Haydes... Sorry, perf?
Or should we not be taking you too literally? |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by Bernieboy
(Post 9986629)
I esp love you cause yer a troubled soul and i want to give you a big hug and tell you everything will be ok:thumbup:
Should be always look on the the bright side of life te dum tedum tedum tedum.... " Brianboy" not "bernie boy...." And if anyone hugged me right now I'd probably BITE THEM..... Coz me back hurts... |
Re: When things get personal
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9986636)
You calling me mental?:frown:
Should be always look on the the bright side of life te dum tedum tedum tedum.... " Brianboy" not "bernie boy...." And if anyone hugged me right now I'd probably BITE THEM..... Coz me back hurts... |
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well it seems I missed all the fun...... obv in the wrong time zone to keep up..... :ohmy: however before one particular thread was closed I picked up a whiff of MNers- that's how they talk on there; I pop in & "watch" sometimes.... a bigger bunch of baby girls I've never met- ( & they're supposedly in charge of the next generation gawd elp us!) :D
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