When can you say enough is enough?
#61
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
Absolutely. I barely hear from one of my sisters now, only when she wants me to buy something and ship it over to Ireland. I know when we're in Oz I won't hear from her at all. It's a shame as there's only four of us but at the same time I'm done forcing it. My other sister and I get on great, we mail when we mail, when we don't I don't think anything of it. My mother keeps trying to force us all to get on and constantly asks if I've contacted her (clearly there's no onus on her to bother...) but you can't make it something it's not. And it causes only disappointment to try.
Tx
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#62
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Joined: Jan 2006
Location: Thornlands, Bayside
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Re: When can you say enough is enough?
Well love youve tried your best and they seem to not be arsed, concentrate on you and yours. You now know where you stand. So what you moved away, skype is free, phone calls arent that expensive. Weve been here for 2 yrs now, I can count on 1 hand the peeps who ring us and its not even mostly family that do. It really annoys me but now im thinking fk em, dont come to me with your problems if thats the only time you get in touch
big hugs ((()))
big hugs ((()))
#63
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
I think there is a major difference personally. All those connecting services to link up to get to and from work in the quickest time. I'm talking London commuting mostly I guess though. However thats 100 pct of my working life experience in the UK and the majority of people I knew there as well.
I think there is a lot more regime in peoples lives in the UK.... getting to the shops when their not crowded.... driving in the early hours to avoid Motorway snarls and planning their lives so they can move around at the most convenient times.
It may happen here to some degree, but nowhere to the extent of my experience in the UK... could be SEast living though I'll grant you that.
I think there is a lot more regime in peoples lives in the UK.... getting to the shops when their not crowded.... driving in the early hours to avoid Motorway snarls and planning their lives so they can move around at the most convenient times.
It may happen here to some degree, but nowhere to the extent of my experience in the UK... could be SEast living though I'll grant you that.
#64
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
I think this is a sad thread
I hope my family and friends will stay in touch when I get to Aus but I'm sure some will fall by the wayside. I use facebook a lot, do people find that makes a difference?
I hope my family and friends will stay in touch when I get to Aus but I'm sure some will fall by the wayside. I use facebook a lot, do people find that makes a difference?
#65
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
My sister goes on FB once in a blue moon. Every time she does, she messages me to ask why I'm never on FB.
#66
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Joined: Aug 2008
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Re: When can you say enough is enough?
Just a thought: Could it be that a different set of methods and reciprocal expectations needs to be applied to best adapt to the changed circumstances that migrants and their families/friends left behind have to face? What I mean is we all tend to leave this part of our transition to just fall naturally into place. Could a more pro-active and organised approach achieve better outcomes?
#67
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
We all keep in touch with Skype. I don't do Farcebook anymore. I've suspended my account (in case anyone was wondering). Too many old 'friends' trying to track me down.
My near-perfect wife informs me of any important rellies information.
My near-perfect wife informs me of any important rellies information.
#68
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
good luck with cancelling farcebook.....don't hold your breath
#69
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Re: When can you say enough is enough?
Pls say hi to your near perfect wife from me <frantic waving>
#71
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
I also have mixed feelings about Facebook. Have unsubscribed from it once but went back to it about six months later. Thinking of unsubscribing from it again. That is definately something that has to be managed otherwise friends can be left confused as to why you've un-friended them.
Pls say hi to your near perfect wife from me <frantic waving>
Pls say hi to your near perfect wife from me <frantic waving>
Thanks. I shall do.
#72
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Joined: Aug 2007
Posts: 1,253
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
I got on FB long enough to find those I wanted and got their email addresses and then cancelled the account. That was about 4 years ago long before all the crap it's become.
#73
Re: When can you say enough is enough?
its impossible to unsubscibe from farcebook
its easier to go to the moon on a chocolate biscuit