eddie007

Mine have gone and put their house on the market...

Their cunning plan is to sell theirs and buy ours... then use the equity to fund regular trips to us here...

They have V NICE house that they are prepared to give up in order to 'support' our dream...

I feel really torn between we need to sell and I can't have them giving up their home/ friends/ village life to move into a terrace in town just to keep seeing us/ gradchildren

I have never felt as low as I do right now.

confuzzled

i dont think they would have siggested it if they didnt want to do it. they clearly love you all very much.

nightnurse2

Agree with confuzzled has said, they wouldn't offer unless they wanted too. Try not to feel too guilty and relish the fact that they'll be able to visit more often

confuzzled

FWIW, my parents were going to remortgage thier home last year to enable them (and siblings) to come to Uk if we had ended up getting married there. Luckily we were able to get a prospective marriage visa and get married at home instead (home for me=WA), but they were prepared to.

moneypenny20

Just because it's a very nice house doesn't mean they don't think it's time to move on. I assume they are downsizing which is a sensible move and it probably puts them closer to shops and help etc (judging by what you've said although I obviously have no idea really). Fantastic offer and one my parents would never have considered in a million years had we been in the same situation. What lovely people.

quoll

Good heavens no. How silly of them. I know we all like to give our kids the earth but at some stage the kids have to get on with their own lives and not be dependent on their parents. I would never have expected, nor accepted, that from my parents.

tum

Hi Eddie,

Well...your parents are grown ups and have been a far bit longer than you. So...don't feel guilty, they can decide for themselves what is best for them. Maybe I sound a bit harsh (don't mean to ) but your parents - if they go through with it - don't want you to feel guilty. And it's not for you to accept or not for that matter whatever they decide.

Miranda xx

confuzzled

wow, a little judgemental arent we? it is their choice- who are we to say they are silly. They would not have made the suggestion if it didnt work for them too. My parents are not rich,but we have never gone without but they dont 'everything' (had generic name toys as kids, bought our own first car, paid for own uni fees etc etc ); conversely- i NEVER accept or borrow money from them, i would rather eat my own foot. Recently for the first time in my 31 year i have to borrow a small amount of money for a short period (wedding expenses- paid for wedding ourselves too) and it nearly killed me.

But their pride is as strong as mine and if they made an offer such as that of Op's parents, i know it would not be offered without them having thought of all the effects etc. If i refused they would be heart broken. Its their choice and clearly something they have given a lot of thought to.

FluffyTheCampfireSlayer

That is awesome Eddie - awesome! You have some fantastic folks there!!!

My mum would have done that for me, sadly she's gone now.

Don't feel low, just be happy that they love you so much. I'm sure they are wise enough to know what they are doing.

jad n rich

I too would say a big NO, dont let them do it.

They sound like they terribly miss you and your children, but suppose in 2 years time you decide to move back to UK, suppose other family members get uptight about this plan and it causes a huge family rift, suppose your parents later regret their decision and it causes you to fall out.

Moving to australia is already too often a recipie for extended family relations to become strained without plans as drastic as that one!

eddie007

Have spoken further to them about this... they are not 'doing us any favours' apparently.

Their attitude is .... your house is on the market, we want to buy it....

They have been talking about downsizing for years and now tell me that they only kept their house BECAUSE we were all still local... They want to "adventure before dementia" with their savings that have been tied up all their lives in porperty..

we have a cheap house for sale in the uk... in the town centre with all facilities within walking, free bus services and churches nearby... They know it, the animals they have know it and now they want to buy it...

My only worry now is that my Dad (squeaks when he walks) doesn't play on my daughterly feelings to drive a hard bargain....

Ms_Fi

Sounds as if it'd be a great move for all concerned - certainly for your parents they be getting a property they know and they would know that it's been looked after properly (or at least wouldn't be worried what was being hidden from view!!).

If this is what they want to do then let them, it sounds like they've thought about it long and hard and are doing this for all the right reasons.

Could you sell it to them without using an estate agent? That would save some money for you.

Sally Simpson

Eddie, you have had your property on the market for a long time now which has given your folks plenty of time to consider what is best for them! They have obviously made a well thought through decision please don't beat yourself up about it! As a community nurse in a rural environment, their reasons make perfect sense to me & you know it too!
Enjoy that they will be able to visit & you know your former house will be in good hands

mark 'n' joe

Thats brilliant, it sounds like they know what they are doing and not just doing it as a favour. They will be able to visit you more often and have some money in the bank as well as getting a house that they know. It sounds a great idea to me.

Joex

tawkins1

My parents offered to do this for us as their house would definatley sell b4 ours does. There's is in a lovely little close and we are on a huge housing estate! Problem is my dad is in the middle of a bit of DIY which is taking a bit longer than expected
My mum loves our house & would move like a shot.
If its something they want to do for you then let them Sounds like you will be doing each other a favour