steve`o

so that's you targeted for a robbery then

BadgeIsBack

I would 'hit' on you if it's true you have that much money. You'll need it if you spend your best days in the IT financial services sector. Do you have a fast car?

januarymix

I think a lot of money is millions or billions of pounds Other than that, no worries mate. For those lucky enough to have found their soul mate, and love them (which let's face it is a blessing -- ah to be loved and to truly love another) I think the answer is: cherish it. Cherish your times now, your love, sharing, partnership, companionship, forgive their foibles quicker, laugh more, take care of them etc.

I think this is a good strategy to the hurt and potential regret of ever losing someone whom you truly love.

Alfresco

Excellent post.

ozzieeagle

Great advice.

Hebe

As I said before live for today but not for what might happen. We never know what is around the corner. My husband's first wife died. My gain!
Again harsh but true. Life goes on.

januarymix

There does seem to be a bit of harsh in this thread, unfortunately.

Bernieboy

januarymix

For someone to say that the death of another woman is "her gain" quite frankly just sounds rather inhumane to me. A woman died, and those that loved her were sad. It would have been better to just say that life goes on, which it does, but having some heart and genuine empathy helps for a happier life IMO.

Plus all the ones about sending children away, going after someone just because they have a little money, shame on us!

Kelli28

Doubt it! He can't even afford a move to Sydney... I wouldn't hit it!

If I were a gold digger I'd be deeply offended.

Bernieboy

You ain't been on BE for long have you,this thread is very lightweight

Kelli28

Having kids live in a different country, being brought up by different people is a cop out of being a parent, well that's what I think of my dad anyway and he done exactly the scenario your describing except we were in the same country. Did things turn out ok for me? Yes, eventually thanks to my auntie and uncle. It wasnt always easy though, as I got older I realised I didn't really have anyone who was in complete authority of me and basically done exactly what I wanted.
There were lots of other problems for the adults when I was younger, the main one for me though even though I was surrounded by people that loved me I felt like I didn't belong there in my aunts family and I didn't belong in my dads family either, I felt like I was on my own. Something to consider perhaps before you give your kids to someone else to raise they can still remain close with extended family and be brought up by yourself if you truly care about them if not, let the aunts look after them they might thank you for it in the long run.

januarymix

I don't have much experience with kids, but I imagine that the parents' love is very important for their well being. Sure they will get through, like all of us, and people will be who they are for a while I guess.

Best wishes to all, and love them loved ones. Life is short, especially in hindsight.

Cheers.

Pollyana

Losing someone I loved very much gave me a new way of thinking about this - ever since he died 10 years ago I have been ultra-cautious about loving anyone that much, and I won't even look for a relationship because of my deep fear of how I would cope if I found, then lost, my "soul mate".
Losing any of my close family would devastate me, same with my best mate (who I love like family). To fall in love with someone knowing that one day i would lose them is to open myself to a pain i don't want to deal with. Single is the way to go :

bakedbean

No, I think you deal with these scenarios in the best way that you can and if that be in a sarky fashion, why not. Unfortunately forums are one dimensional.