BadgeIsBack

Exactly. I'd be in shock for awhile. It would be coping day by day, minute by minute.... practicalities would be almost the easy bit.
You would know more about this than us. Does time heal?

jad n rich

But, you write such erm 'charming' stuff about her.

Every woman on this forum just went when they read your post, then decided to punch you on the nose if they ever meet you

BadgeIsBack

Now I see the problem....
only the battler women who have never known any better my dear....

perhaps you should punch her for the nice things she wrote!

the future I plan ensures her legacy continues....how can that be an insult...
she was very pleased to find that her family has always been central to our plans in any situation, that we agree.

Hebe

True and that is the same as most situations in life, particularly those involving loved ones - however, it doesn't stop the thoughts and we always assume we know how we will react - how many times as you heard people say "if someone touched my child I would kill them" etc etc - we all think we know how we will respond but the reality if often very different.

BadgeIsBack

there are parents who lose their kids to terrorist action, and forgive, there was a stop story in the 80s, I recall....
Did they anticipate that?

I have no idea how I would feel, really.

Dorothy

Oh I don't know. How about raising your children? If you died would you expect your wife to dump the kids on someone else and assess her next move?

I was going to say that sometimes you're a nob, but that would be incorrect. You're a nob all of the time.

Amazulu

My wife has a very big life insurance policy. I'm the only beneficiary........

Then find another one

Cheetah7

I too have started to wonder what I would do if Mr PP died, having nearly lost him back in 2009, I know only too well that awful feeling of 'what the hell do I do without him'.

I know life goes on and as long as I am alive I have to carry on but the thought of him not being in my life is actually quite painful.

To be honest, you never know how strong you are until you have to be and like others have said, you don't know what you would do until you are in this situation.

But for me and for the moment, I cannot imagine my life without him in it.

BadgeIsBack

And you are a nasty battler woman! I'll spell out the details for you : My family have made it quite clear that they would want the children as there is a massive support network. There would be access to schools, houses and me, of course.

Apart from the fact I might never need to work again (and I have a property there) and can't speak the language perhaps I would be considered lazy. The alternative is buying in support in Australia - is it not better that they stay with extended family?

There might be unfinished business to attend to in Australia so I might have to go back and forth - and whilst *we* decide.

If I died, the situation would be exactly the same only there would be more funds.

ozzieeagle

I really wish I could think like this..... Or maybe I dont.

Badge asked a very important question before..... "Does time heal" ? It's not one I'd ever be game to ask face to face.

I guess personal reaction is personal reaction and one cannot really know how they are going to react until they go through it. It's just that I dont reckon I'd be able to and maybe that thought should seek me to get help ? I can put it at the back of my mind however I've a feeling now I've asked it out loud it's going to be a prominent thought or fear.

Anyone else feel like this... I do realise everyone thinks differently.

Cheetah7

Yes I know exactly what you mean, you dont want to ask out aloud because it becomes more of a reality and now you have, it does become more prominent.

Perhaps these thoughts are normal and everyone gets them at some stage as they get older, perhaps not but as long as it doesnt take over your life and effect it, because if it does, then that is a problem.

Worrying about your partner wont make her live longer, won't protect her, wont help you or her and ultimately, the time you have spent worrying about her and something totally out of your control, is precious time wasted that you could be doing something else far more memorable.

So try and worry about only what is in your control, otherwise just let it go.

Treasure every second, and save your valuable time for things that are worthwhile rather than imagining the worst and your life without your partner, when it hasnt happened yet.

Look at what is in front of you right now, you only literally have that - the future is not promised to any of us.

(That's how I try and manage anyway )

BadgeIsBack

I'm happy that there are options which involve soulmates being provided for, and being happy.

Time won't heal the fact i've just effed a microwAve dish belonging to the soulmate.

But I will be forgiven!

ozzieeagle

I can generally do that. It's definitely all of my kids working at the same time that has triggered this. I felt such a sense of release and financial freedom that I started to really take a look at future options with total financial certainty and they were suddenly more real and much closer..... Then that uncertain thought loomed right into my bloody head...... Bugger it.

So I've got to work through this and occupying my mind is probably the only way I know.

The day they were all working was as big a day as the last of the baby days.... When the youngest could get into the car on his own and put on his own seatbelt.

Hebe

Ozzie. One thing is certain in life and that is death. Focus on living while you can - it's a privilege denied to many

Cheetah7