Waah, I don't wanna go
We spent 7 years in Briz in the 90s, which I didn't enjoy, because of the far-awayness of England, the far-awayness of even the next town, the pommy-bashing, the blandness of the country and the lack of 'real' history.
Now our duaghter wants to go back with her husband and daughter, so obviously we'll go as well, but I'm really not looking forward to it. Yes, I know I should just Harden the F-- Up, stop whingeing, etc, but is anyone out there in the same situation? I got pretty homesick and resentful which is no fun for me or more importantly my family - how do you cope if you're a sensitive soul like what I am, with a love of history and green countryside and pubs? I like Australians and got on fine socially, by the way (I know, hard to believe), so it wasn't a general dislike of the locals. |
Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by VinoVeritas
(Post 10459786)
We spent 7 years in Briz in the 90s, which I didn't enjoy, because of the far-awayness of England, the far-awayness of even the next town, the pommy-bashing, the blandness of the country and the lack of 'real' history.
Now our duaghter wants to go back with her husband and daughter, so obviously we'll go as well, but I'm really not looking forward to it. Yes, I know I should just Harden the F-- Up, stop whingeing, etc, but is anyone out there in the same situation? I got pretty homesick and resentful which is no fun for me or more importantly my family - how do you cope if you're a sensitive soul like what I am, with a love of history and green countryside and pubs? I like Australians and got on fine socially, by the way (I know, hard to believe), so it wasn't a general dislike of the locals. It would seem obvious to me that you should: 1) Stay where you are 2) See 1) |
Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by DeadVim
(Post 10459790)
Why do you 'obviously' want to go?
It would seem obvious to me that you should: 1) Stay where you are 2) See 1) |
Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
As above. I am baffled as to why you "obviously" have to go just because your daughter is. If you don't want to go, then don't go, you will only make yourself unhappy. Holidays is the way forward for you.
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
You don't have to chase your kids around the world! If you don't want to go, don't go. You can have an occasional holiday and they can do the same. Having kids on the other side of the world is perfectly do-able! And you never know, what if they decide to move somewhere else in a few years time, would you up sticks and trot after them again? Nah, you like UK, then stay!
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It's not the first time I've seen the comment that Australia doesn't have any real history. As if everything before we got off the plane was merely a fairy tale. Australia has a fascinating history, like any country. Plenty to learn about.
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by knockoff nige
(Post 10460707)
It's not the first time I've seen the comment that Australia doesn't have any real history. As if everything before we got off the plane was merely a fairy tale. Australia has a fascinating history, like any country. Plenty to learn about.
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by VinoVeritas
(Post 10459786)
We spent 7 years in Briz in the 90s, which I didn't enjoy, because of the far-awayness of England, the far-awayness of even the next town, the pommy-bashing, the blandness of the country and the lack of 'real' history.
Now our duaghter wants to go back with her husband and daughter, so obviously we'll go as well, but I'm really not looking forward to it. Yes, I know I should just Harden the F-- Up, stop whingeing, etc, but is anyone out there in the same situation? I got pretty homesick and resentful which is no fun for me or more importantly my family - how do you cope if you're a sensitive soul like what I am, with a love of history and green countryside and pubs? I like Australians and got on fine socially, by the way (I know, hard to believe), so it wasn't a general dislike of the locals. I hate to verge on being rude but have you considered that your daughter may not want to be accompanied in this way? Nip down the pub and have a couple and a bit of a think. |
Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
I can't see why you have to follow your daughter either.
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
So if you follow your daughter and go, what if in say 3 years time she wants to move somewhere else - another country, any country other than the UK? Are you telling me you are going to follow them around the world wherever they go?
Because if so, have a think about it - your need to be with her is fine but to the extent you are prepared to follow her anywhere around the world is worrying, because she is choosing to move for her own adventure, to spread her own wings which she cant do properly if she has her parents following her everywhere. Why not stick with a solid home base in the UK that she knows she can come back to because a moving 'anchor' means you wont settle anywhere and she wont have that home base that many adult kids like to come back to. |
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OMG! I never realised we're supposed to follow our adult children around the world. Holy crap...Now I'm going to have to clone myself. Really, otherwise how will I be able to live close to both my kids here and the one in North America? :ohmy:
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by Dorothy
(Post 10461049)
OMG! I never realised we're supposed to follow our adult children around the world. Holy crap...Now I'm going to have to clone myself. Really, otherwise how will I be able to live close to both my kids here and the one in North America? :ohmy:
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
[QUOTE=Cheetah7;10460934]So if you follow your daughter and go, what if in say 3 years time she wants to move somewhere else - another country, any country other than the UK? Are you telling me you are going to follow them around the world wherever they go?
Because if so, have a think about it - your need to be with her is fine but to the extent you are prepared to follow her anywhere around the world is worrying, because she is choosing to move for her own adventure, to spread her own wings which she cant do properly if she has her parents following her everywhere. Why not stick with a solid home base in the UK that she knows she can come back to because a moving 'anchor' means you wont settle anywhere and she wont have that home base that many adult kids like to come back to.[/QUOTE] Agree. Stay happy where you are and give your daughter somewhere to come back to. If you don't believe she would be better off in Brisbane, don't enable her. |
Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 10461052)
A diagnosis of a split personality disorder may help you here Dotty....
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Re: Waah, I don't wanna go
Originally Posted by Dorothy
(Post 10461058)
That's what the voices in my head said as well. :D
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