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I disagree actually. Sometimes its easier to get the negative stuff out of your system when talking to strangers. I would never dream of telling most of my family about some of my lowest moments, because it would upset THEM too much - much easier to say some things to people you are unlikely to meet.
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I disagree actually. Sometimes its easier to get the negative stuff out of your system when talking to strangers. I would never dream of telling most of my family about some of my lowest moments, because it would upset THEM too much - much easier to say some things to people you are unlikely to meet.
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Some people seem to get a kick out of others being unhappy, and even voice their disdain for such people, this may not make them unhappy themselves, but certainly sad
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I disagree actually. Sometimes its easier to get the negative stuff out of your system when talking to strangers. I would never dream of telling most of my family about some of my lowest moments, because it would upset THEM too much - much easier to say some things to people you are unlikely to meet.
Sometimes telling family and friends can make you feel a failure especialy if you are always the strong one who everyone relies. Sometimes people feel as though thier stress is not important enough to bother family especially if the family have some stress already. Also some people feel as though they should be able to cope ie are superwoman(man) some feel as though they should be independant hence the need sometimes to post as a invisable person on be where noone knows them as such. This can be seen as a safty valve for them and sometime strangers offer the best support because there is no comeback ever or reminding in the future of thier previous "failure" which I have seen family do.
Sorry waffled a bit wil get off my horse now and hide
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This is much more common than you think. Look at mental health. The nurses are strangers yet we expect the patients to tell us thier deepest darkest fears and secrets.
Sometimes telling family and friends can make you feel a failure especialy if you are always the strong one who everyone relies. Sometimes people feel as though thier stress is not important enough to bother family especially if the family have some stress already. Also some people feel as though they should be able to cope ie are superwoman(man) some feel as though they should be independant hence the need sometimes to post as a invisable person on be where noone knows them as such. This can be seen as a safty valve for them and sometime strangers offer the best support because there is no comeback ever or reminding in the future of thier previous "failure" which I have seen family do.
Sorry waffled a bit wil get off my horse now and hide
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Sometimes telling family and friends can make you feel a failure especialy if you are always the strong one who everyone relies. Sometimes people feel as though thier stress is not important enough to bother family especially if the family have some stress already. Also some people feel as though they should be able to cope ie are superwoman(man) some feel as though they should be independant hence the need sometimes to post as a invisable person on be where noone knows them as such. This can be seen as a safty valve for them and sometime strangers offer the best support because there is no comeback ever or reminding in the future of thier previous "failure" which I have seen family do.
Sorry waffled a bit wil get off my horse now and hide
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