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Hi Guys i was wondering if anyone can help as from the above you can see im unsettled.
We have been here since Oct last year the Mrs has settled and so have the kids but i just dont know whats wrong with me i cant settle.
I dont want to go back to Scotland i dont know whats wrong.
I just wondered if anyone who has been in the same boat as me can give me some advice.
Its hard to explain as i have a job so does the OH the kids are settled in School and Day care.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i just dont know whats wrong and the OH is starting to notice my mood getting lower and lower i dont want to freak her out but i dont know what to do
Mick :(

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Try this bit of the forum, although sometimes it can make you feel worse:huh:

http://britishexpats.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=61

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Best thing to do is talk to her about it so she know's what's up, as i know hubby and I have had our up's and down's over the year's and we always made sure we talked about it when either of us felt like this.

Good luck :fingerscrossed:

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I can understand where you're coming from. We've been here since September & hubby & the kids are very happy & settled but I'm up & down with it. Like you I don't want to & can't see myself moving back to the UK but I'm missing my kids, family, best friend & my cat & dog & that's where my problem lies.

I have no words of wisdom I'm afraid. Some days are much worse than others & I've come close to using my credit card for a flight just so I can have a hug with my kids for a few hours. I do find a coffee by the beach tends to lift my spirits a bit & if I'm feeling down hubby has started telling me to go & buy a coffee now :o

As Lindzi has said talk to your wife. My hubby doesn't understand why I feel as I do but at least it gives me someone to talk to rather than bottling it up.

Alison x

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The wrist slitting section of BE

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Uprooting to another country is an awfully big risk, but once you make the move, you have to accept and embrace your new life. Settling in can take years for some people, my first year here was hellish, I couldn't settle, and didn't feel like I belonged or fitted in. It's only been 6 months for you guys, tis only a fraction of the time to give yourself to make a life here.

Just chill and take each day as it comes. It is a massive shock to the system, give yourself time.

Good luck :):fingerscrossed:

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I agree with SC, it takes time with some people & when you see others, like your family, settle quickly, you think there is something wrong with you. There isn't, it's normal & happens to lots of us.
I can't see myself moving back to the UK but after 2+ years, am still not sure if this is the place for me. I don't know though if that is just Cairns or Australia. My husband & kids are settled too, although they still miss friends & family.
Make sure you share it with your wife & as Alison suggests, go somewhere that you like, that gives you a lift, when it all starts to get too much.
Is there anything specific? I know there isn't really for me so generally I just try not to think about it all too much.

& with regard to MBTUK forum, try it but it just made me feel worse so I stay out now.

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or a comfort blanket, depending on your point of view ;)

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Fair enough, but you know my viewpoint on this - if people want to move back then they should just do it

Nike have a point

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But could you settle back into yer mud hut:confused:

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Find me a job and I'll be gone :thumbup:

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Dunno - i've never lived in Ireland

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Find your own job!

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:lol: I'm trying!!
Actually looked at a few in the mines but they all need first aid and stuff as well as emergency management skills :(

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Wait til i tell me mother what you said......................................when she has come back from getting water from the river;)