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Re: Strength
Originally Posted by curly
(Post 6264537)
Sending you my deepest condolences Chris.
Your Dad did a brilliant job, you don't need to change how you are, and your own kids know what a wonderful Dad they have. Niki X It takes time to sink in. My mind is going through so much, sometimes lost with so many emotions and other times crystal clear. I wish I could find that clarity to help me decide what to do next. Funeral in a few days time or stay with my wife and kids to get them through the move in the next fortnight. I just don't know, torn between responsibilities. |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6264673)
Thank you Niki and eveyone.
It takes time to sink in. My mind is going through so much, sometimes lost with so many emotions and other times crystal clear. I wish I could find that clarity to help me decide what to do next. Funeral in a few days time or stay with my wife and kids to get them through the move in the next fortnight. I just don't know, torn between responsibilities. |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by moneypen20
(Post 6264706)
I think we've been here before C. You know what your father would tell you. Any other time and it would make sense for you to go, but now whilst your big move is imminent, there's only one place he would want you to be.
And there is my mum to consider. |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6264724)
You only get one life.
Do your best. Don't have regrets. Live huge, love passionately and be true to yourself. Can't do much else. :wub: |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6264673)
Thank you Niki and eveyone.
It takes time to sink in. My mind is going through so much, sometimes lost with so many emotions and other times crystal clear. I wish I could find that clarity to help me decide what to do next. Funeral in a few days time or stay with my wife and kids to get them through the move in the next fortnight. I just don't know, torn between responsibilities. Your a good man :) YouTube - Luther Vandross Dance with my Father Again |
Re: Strength
My heart goes out to you Gedge....be strong for your family but dont forget about yourself.....do what you feel it right for you.
LibbyX |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6264724)
It's different this time. You only get one life.
And there is my mum to consider. |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by moneypen20
(Post 6264795)
Absolutely but there is no right answer. Whatever you do, you will be worrying that you should be somewhere else. Where do Jules and your mum think you should be?
i guess only i can decide what is best, maybe not right but right enough for me to live with |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6258617)
It took me a while to find the right way to begin this post.
My dad was a strong man, I looked up to him and respected him and will always remember him for his strength. Whatever knocks he took, he would waste no time in picking himself up again. I will try to be the same. To remember him in this way. Not to follow, but to take my own path carrying with me what he gave me. I hope my own children can one day do the same. Thank you dad for giving me strength in my heart and soul. best wishes Lee |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6266211)
opposite sides of the world, but then they would tell me that irrespective of their own feelings
i guess only i can decide what is best, maybe not right but right enough for me to live with I'm thinking of you, can understand why you are so torn, it's a horrible situation. |
Re: Strength
What a wonderful accolade for your dad - to have left a legacy of resilience is more than most of us can hope to achieve as parents.
I can understand your dilemma - my parents have always said not to bother getting there once they have gone because there is no point. I see it differently - not only would I be going for my own goodbyes but to be there for whoever is left behind. If my DH were in that situation I would be telling him to go even if that meant that a whole heap of stress then landed on me. I hope you can work out whatever is best for you and your family. |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6266211)
opposite sides of the world, but then they would tell me that irrespective of their own feelings
i guess only i can decide what is best, maybe not right but right enough for me to live with Only you know what is right for you - if you feel you can say your farewells in your own way, over here, then stay. For many people though - and I'm one - I have to be there, and say my farewells in their resting place. But there is the third option - don't go now, but go and say your farewells to him later, in his home, but at a better time for you and Jules. I lost one of the dearest people in my life just before I emigrated, I couldn't get to Tas for the funeral, but I waited, then went and said a private farewell later. Meant as much to me, and I'm sure it meant as much to him. Whatever you decide, be at peace with your decision Hugs Polly |
Re: Strength
I can't add anything extra Chris to that which has already been said. Thinking of you and yours and sending big hugs to you.
Carole x |
Re: Strength
My deepest condolances Chris.
xHx |
Re: Strength
Originally Posted by gedge
(Post 6258617)
It took me a while to find the right way to begin this post.
My dad was a strong man, I looked up to him and respected him and will always remember him for his strength. Whatever knocks he took, he would waste no time in picking himself up again. I will try to be the same. To remember him in this way. Not to follow, but to take my own path carrying with me what he gave me. I hope my own children can one day do the same. Thank you dad for giving me strength in my heart and soul. |
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