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Nobody told me anything.. I still managed to fill a pram... twice. :)

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And you're right, but if your partner doesn't have emotional maturity, how is he going to do that? If he can't man up and deal with it, better it comes from the emotionally switched on parent so that security passes onto your sons.

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Give the feminist propaganda a break for a few minutes will you

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Basically girls mature faster so they can teach us all sorts of things:D

Now I remember the girls older than me quite fondly

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I've found the ads on the radio suggesting longer lasting sex is a great opening for questions :blink::lol: However the emotional side is far more complicated and if your husband didn't deal with that bit himself there's no way he's going to be able to explain it to the boys, he probably hasn't explained it to himself yet :lol:

To be honest, call me naive but as long as you are open and loving to them, a great deal of the emotional/physical side happens automatically. Its the children of repressed parents who struggle with working that bit out. I'm not sure it can be really explained because we are all individual anyway, you can go so far but if the child is Neanderthal they'll never get it and if they're not they will.

:D

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Completely agree

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That is some dry spell......

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I was thinking he must have been quite uncomfortable just prior!:blink:

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Feeling inadequate suddenly BS? :lol:

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My bold - Moneypenny I think you have hit the nail on the head! OH finds it hard to talk about feelings at the best of times although he is very affectionate with the children it is subtle rather than overt. I have accepted that he is not going to be able to do the explaining but I might make him be in the room at the same time and watch him squirm :rofl:

I've been expecting some comments from the kids because 92.9 are advertising Sperm Max all the time on the radio but they are too busy chilling in the back of the car after a hard day at school.

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Then they're not interested and not ready. Let them ask, don't tell until they do. I would imagine the first wet dream could be a start ;) Oh I'm glad I had girls, I 'get' them, I'm on their wavelength and it all makes sense to me but I guess it's not that different in the long run;).

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I think this is a fairly common misconception amongst mums. I dont think I've ever had a wet dream, and around the time of the sex ed at school, non of my mates owned up to it too (and believe me, they would, dirty bastards! :) )

You have to treat girls and boys differently, not only because girls are mentally ahead, they have to deal with hormones and the periods that come with them, and this can happen from quite a young age.

Boys tend to just get on with life, I never had 'that' conversation with my dad. I think if someone would have sat me down at the dinner table and laid all to bare i'd have been emotionally scarred :rofl:

Like most people have said, I'd let them ask first before giving them both barrels and scaring them off girls for life!

One thing I would like to add though, make sure you give both boys and girls the same content...so that boys have an understanding why girls turn into dragons every month....and that girls understand that boys will do anything to get into their pants.

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:rofl::rofl::rofl:

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Does that constitute a record?! I thought I knew the facts of life - something about death and taxes being a certainty.

Until I got to school and realised that there was going to be no practical after the theory.

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A bit early I'd say, give it a year or so.

Tell them now and you'll be forever doing laundry. Bed sheets like poppadums ...