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Re: Old fashioned, or....?

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Originally Posted by eddie007 (Post 10840867)

STOP IT IMMEDIATELY... He doesn't need to be encouraged to play with himself....
:D

:angel:

Re: Old fashioned, or....?

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Originally Posted by Kapri (Post 10840812)

I just don't believe that's true. I always say thank you if someone holds a door and I always hold doors for others. It's just good manners, nothing to do with male / female.

I agree with that. In fact, if someone doesn't thank me for holding the door open for them, I like to shout after them 'that'll be a telepathic thank you, then?'.

I like being rude to strangers who have no manners (no, the irony is not lost on me).

It has nothing to do with how I was brought up though :)

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Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 10839611)

Does anyone still........

Play board games (such as Monopoly, Scrabble, Cluedo)?yes my kids loved monopoly, trivial pursuits and scrabble, I hate them !

Write letters to family/friends (on paper, with pen)?yes we are all deaf in my family so letters it is as they are technophobes too.

Have meals round the dining table as a family (whenever possible)?yes but whenever possible gets fewer as schoolwork and studying takes over as they get older

Insist on children writing "thank you" letters for presents?No texts or phonecalls.

Refuse to allow TVs/computers in young children's bedrooms? yes until in secondary school when they needed computers.

Encourage their kids to read - and if possible buy - "real" books?yes I am a bookworm and that rubbed off on my eldest son but the younger took until age 20 to get the bug.

Based on a Lounge thread that got me thinking whether some families (like mine :o ) are rather old-fashioned? Or whether some of these practices are still "normal"?:)

Mine were taught computers from a young age and are savvy with technology in all forms at the ages of 24 and 25. However separating the autistic one from the computer was always a struggle

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Originally Posted by Dreamy (Post 10841698)

I agree with that. In fact, if someone doesn't thank me for holding the door open for them, I like to shout after them 'that'll be a telepathic thank you, then?'.

im amazed how many just don't get it either :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by Amazulu (Post 10840437)

Getting the balance between access to technology and traditional ways is a constant battle

I want my son to be tech savvy but not at the expense of social skills and non-tech abilities

It's hard sometimes

Agreed.

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Originally Posted by GarryP (Post 10840475)

It's one of my pet peeves - households, families, schools, etc. They all tend to look backward in terms of method of operation, but need to be forward looking in anticipating and preparing for the future.
#At the same time we are very much in a 'two wage earner' situation - if you can at all manage it. That changes the structure and nature of the household, and the mechanisms need to change with it.

I am of the opinion that 'old school' manners and ideals are a good barometer of how a person will hold up. Increasingly as everyone goes 'tech' and even rather mainstream it is these values which will be increasingly respected. Tech is only an enabler - people have always followed and caught up with tech - and increasingly tech is so specialist we can't all be expert.

The 2 wage earner is a blight on society arguably and has done immense damage in households who wouldn't eitherwise choose it.

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Originally Posted by Hebe (Post 10840488)

I agree about technology etc but good manners, being aware of other peoples feeling and politeness are nothing to do with looking backwards - just common courtesy and something that should be instilled in all of us.

Agreed.

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Originally Posted by Hebe (Post 10840206)

eating with your mouth closed and putting your knife and fork down between mouthfuls and the list goes on.

Having said that, you can overdo table manners - what's important is that by and large people are comfortable. There is nothing worse seeing the people who are so into table manners that they make everyone else feel uncomfortable. People who are overly silent at the table and hold their knife and fork like a pen, dancing them around their plate collecting and pressing their food together, all under the pretence of being 'dainty' tend to be at fault here. I would rather someone shovel their food in to their mouth, and have a slight gap when they chew and have a great line in conversation - being a good guest. There is an art form in entering the conversation when you've about to get rid of the last morsel in your mouth and the conversation won't wait!

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Originally Posted by jad n rich (Post 10840262)

Epic fail on the dining table, overseas friends are always shocked we eat main meals sitting on the floor. We have a lovely dining table, but its usually covered in plans. I guess due to the heat we are always sat on the floor leaning against the sofas, and eat dinner there. People are normally horrified :rofl:

What's important is that whatever you are doing, you are doing it together. Last night we all had soup on the sofa, watching Dance Academy - then the kids all spent an hour staying up creating their own choreography under the tutelage of M. Impressive!

Books yes, thankyou's on email - just - as they get old enough. The exuberance on WhatsApp more than makes up for any lack of writing.
One TV, one Pc in the house. No TV allowed in our bedroom either.

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Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 10839611)

Does anyone still........

Play board games (such as Monopoly, Scrabble, Cluedo)? Yup, also enjoy playing cards, especially Newmarket, although not so sure about ROMFT teachignthe boy how to play poker:unsure:

Write letters to family/friends (on paper, with pen)? Up until the advent of emails/texting, this was the only way to keep in touch with my deaf mum. She still loves proper letters and enjoys writing them, but I have always hated writign them. Saying that, I have kept most letters I have received from those close to me, and I found them all the other night including some from when ROMFT and I were courting and he was away :wub: . Really nostalgic:)

Have meals round the dining table as a family (whenever possible)? I insist on this far more than ROMFT. Roast dinners are always at the table.

Insist on children writing "thank you" letters for presents? They write them, I just forget to post them:o

Refuse to allow TVs/computers in young children's bedrooms? No TVs in bedrooms. TV in playroom which is adjacent to the kitchen. They both have tablets, but are restricted to what they can access and how long they are on them for.

Encourage their kids to read - and if possible buy - "real" books? Yes, yes, yes. S is an absolutely avid reader and has definitely found he genre - fantasy and sci-fi. He often has 3 or 4 books on the go. L also loves reading but is still on the short stories such as Charlie & Lola and Lauren Child books.

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Originally Posted by rasen78 (Post 10843550)

And having witnessed the table manners and general politeness of your two, its clear that its pays off to give them the attention :)

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Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 10844326)

And having witnessed the table manners and general politeness of your two, its clear that its pays off to give them the attention :)

Aw thanks:o They have their moments:)

Re: Old fashioned, or....?

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Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 10839611)

Does anyone still........

Play board games (such as Monopoly, Scrabble, Cluedo)?
Yes

Write letters to family/friends (on paper, with pen)?
DD does but she's at that age of loving to write (7)

Have meals round the dining table as a family (whenever possible)?
Dinner always, breakfast not so often

Insist on children writing "thank you" letters for presents?
I don't insist but DD does anyway, the 2 boys don't - they just than over the phone

Refuse to allow TVs/computers in young children's bedrooms?
Yes, but they are allowed to play their DSs on the weekends

Encourage their kids to read - and if possible buy - "real" books?
Yes

Based on a Lounge thread that got me thinking whether some families (like mine :o ) are rather old-fashioned? Or whether some of these practices are still "normal"?:)

I think we are quite normal (sometimes!)