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Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by renth
(Post 10504061)
Fine, so long as the female isn't my daughter.
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Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Infinitely better and far less destructive than serial monogamy. Which tends to hurt plenty of people around those involved at break up stage. Very strong views personally on this.
Hence I'll put my hand up and say, I'd much prefer my daughters to carry on like this until they were absolutely and definitely certain of a partner. |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by sasbear
(Post 10504027)
Just felt the need to ask this question.... I always thought I would be a progressive thinking parent but recently felt that this is not the case....
So - one night stands - ok? No cheating involved - free single young folk...Is it different and more acceptable for a bloke or a woman? Your views please. |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by brissybee
(Post 10504118)
I don't think a persons sex life would affect how a family member might be perceived by other people.
I would be more concerned for the welfare of the person having casual sex than the person who worries about how it might make them look.
Originally Posted by Zen10
(Post 10504148)
Should be the same, but society generally labels the man "jack the lad" or "ladies man" depending on his class, and the woman a slapper, irrespective of class.
With age and experience (ha!) I would say that do your thing but be reasonably discreet. It's still a fact that women are more likely to be judged so be careful but it takes 2 etc. I personally would be more miffed that my daughters would be making themselves ill with over indulgence if it all involved excess across the board...etc. With age and experience (ha!) when you meet that partner of your dreams all previous fade to nothing...and that the old fashioned advice sort of rings true...but that's easy for me to say! |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 10504155)
Agree - but if my sons and daughters were demonstrably worse than their peers...across the board...
The reality is that attractive people meet attractive people and occasionally sparks fly. With age and experience (ha!) I would say that do your thing but be reasonably discreet. It's still a fact that women are more likely to be judged so be careful but it takes 2 etc. I personally would be more miffed that my daughters would be making themselves ill with over indulgence if it all involved excess across the board...etc. With age and experience (ha!) when you meet that partner of your dreams all previous fade to nothing...and that the old fashioned advice sort of rings true...but that's easy for me to say! |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by Zen10
(Post 10504156)
I'm not a great believer in the true love partner of your dreams stuff, sorry...
And that sometimes its worth telling your daughter or sons that pure excess (across the board) does not bring happiness.... |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 10504169)
I am...cos it happened to me. What I mean is that, it was all worth it!:p
And that sometimes its worth telling your daughter or sons that pure excess (across the board) does not bring happiness.... |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
I think coming from a very small (minded) community what a close friend/family member does seems to reflect on others.
When one person in our town slept with a few men (married men) then her sister was also classed as 'a bit easy with the loving' - just because one woman liked to behave that way - others presumed the sibling was the same. I am not saying I agree with this but I acknowledge that it is what happens. And yes concern for safety was one of my main concerns. Not just safety as in protection but in personal safety and also if the decison was made under the influence of alcohol. |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 10504169)
I am...cos it happened to me. What I mean is that, it was all worth it!:p
And that sometimes its worth telling your daughter or sons that pure excess (across the board) does not bring happiness.... Conversely it's also why some of the best and surprisingly successful marriages are those to people that others regarded as "the Town bike" etc etc. The otherside of the coin being the most destructive break up's being those involving "Childhood sweethearts" |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 10504155)
The reality is that attractive people meet attractive people and occasionally sparks fly.
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Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by bcworld
(Post 10504187)
Do guggit people not have one night stands then? :D
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Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by ozzieeagle
(Post 10504190)
Heh :) I wonder if they do as often ? I'd be amazed if they did eh ?
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Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
No harm in it as long as all aspects of safety are ensured............ie someone knows of whereabouts, condoms etc
Also that the behaviour is not covering an unmet need or emotional problem. Have fun whilst you are young.....:o ...and yes girls will always get a bad name doing this and guys a 'stud' status......unfair I reckon. but having said all that and knowing what I was like :o ...ask me again when my kids are sexually active :o:unsure::):) Jan |
Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by Jan4kids
(Post 10504223)
No harm in it as long as all aspects of safety are ensured............ie someone knows of whereabouts, condoms etc
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Re: Are my views 'out dated'?
Originally Posted by Jan4kids
(Post 10504223)
Also that the behaviour is not covering an unmet need or emotional problem.
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