Originally Posted by knockoff nige (Post 10504050)

Depends on the circumstyances but generally ok, for both guys and girls.

Originally Posted by sasbear (Post 10504052)

girl (young adult) enters pub - chats and flirts with said young man - end up in night of passion - then leaves in morning without any further conversation/plans etc...?

Originally Posted by brissybee (Post 10504070)

Sadly, I think a woman who regularly has one night stands is regarded worse than a man who does the same... though neither is regarded highly imo.

I don't think it's what people think or moral standards that are the issues with one night stands... rather the potential risks associated with having sex with a relative stranger (ie physical/emotional dangers or health risks.)

People do it. They survive. It's just a risk probably best avoided if possible.

All the best. :)

Originally Posted by renth (Post 10504061)

Fine, so long as the female isn't my daughter.

Originally Posted by knockoff nige (Post 10504084)

I don't think the question was on regular one night stands. An occasional one is fine and very common. I'd say it wouyld be hard to find someone who hasn't had one.

Originally Posted by IvanM (Post 10504090)

I prefer girl on girl. Is it more acceptable than bloke on bloke?

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504093)

I think its fine for the individuals involved.

They will need to wear the cost, of any, reputation it might bring.

Once people know, and talk about it, and it happens all the time, then the rep might be called into question.

Originally Posted by sasbear (Post 10504107)

I agree - but does the reputation include how others see it being reflected upon them as close friend/family?

Originally Posted by renth (Post 10504061)

Fine, so long as the female isn't my daughter.

Originally Posted by sasbear (Post 10504027)

Just felt the need to ask this question.... I always thought I would be a progressive thinking parent but recently felt that this is not the case....

So - one night stands - ok? No cheating involved - free single young folk...Is it different and more acceptable for a bloke or a woman?

Your views please.

Originally Posted by brissybee (Post 10504118)

I don't think a persons sex life would affect how a family member might be perceived by other people.

I would be more concerned for the welfare of the person having casual sex than the person who worries about how it might make them look.

Originally Posted by Zen10 (Post 10504148)

Should be the same, but society generally labels the man "jack the lad" or "ladies man" depending on his class, and the woman a slapper, irrespective of class.

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504155)

Agree - but if my sons and daughters were demonstrably worse than their peers...across the board...



The reality is that attractive people meet attractive people and occasionally sparks fly.

With age and experience (ha!) I would say that do your thing but be reasonably discreet. It's still a fact that women are more likely to be judged so be careful but it takes 2 etc. I personally would be more miffed that my daughters would be making themselves ill with over indulgence if it all involved excess across the board...etc.

With age and experience (ha!) when you meet that partner of your dreams all previous fade to nothing...and that the old fashioned advice sort of rings true...but that's easy for me to say!

Originally Posted by Zen10 (Post 10504156)

I'm not a great believer in the true love partner of your dreams stuff, sorry...

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504169)

I am...cos it happened to me. What I mean is that, it was all worth it!:p
And that sometimes its worth telling your daughter or sons that pure excess (across the board) does not bring happiness....

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504169)

I am...cos it happened to me. What I mean is that, it was all worth it!:p
And that sometimes its worth telling your daughter or sons that pure excess (across the board) does not bring happiness....

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504155)

The reality is that attractive people meet attractive people and occasionally sparks fly.

Originally Posted by bcworld (Post 10504187)

Do guggit people not have one night stands then? :D

Originally Posted by ozzieeagle (Post 10504190)

Heh :) I wonder if they do as often ? I'd be amazed if they did eh ?

Originally Posted by Jan4kids (Post 10504223)

No harm in it as long as all aspects of safety are ensured............ie someone knows of whereabouts, condoms etc

Originally Posted by Jan4kids (Post 10504223)

Also that the behaviour is not covering an unmet need or emotional problem.

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504249)

Nail on head.

Originally Posted by knockoff nige (Post 10504229)

Yes, very important to know where the condoms are

Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack (Post 10504276)

This applies in any relationship......

Originally Posted by knockoff nige (Post 10504094)

Lets ask Bob Katter

Originally Posted by RedDragon2008 (Post 10506286)

If they are consenting adults using safe sex, what moral business is it of ours?

Perhaps the question is more of prude/jealousy than or moral high ground?


I certaintly did not mind during the ages of 18 to 28:sneaky: Plenty of nice memories;)

Originally Posted by sasbear (Post 10504088)

It was based on a single incident (I hope) and I have never had a one night stand - I couldn't think of anything worse/scarey/horrible.

I try not to judge but find it very difficult.

Originally Posted by Gordon Barlow (Post 10507506)

Here's a good YouTube link - a Country & Western song by a young Loretta Lynn on the subject of fooling around in a "mighty small town". The song starts at about 1.04: skip to there. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ChLtmalR_Dw

As she sings, about her fiance, "He's loved every woman in Jackson; ah, but Jackson ain't a very big place." Keeps it all in perspective!