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Old Jun 13th 2007, 12:43 pm
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Hi,
I know this is not what some of you may want to read but it needs to be said.

For a long time now, I have wanted to take my wife and kids to a new life down under. We made the decision to apply and spent the money. The application, the medicals, new pasports eveything. Our house has been done up to sell and its now like a palace. The visa's are here and The kids were dead excited too.

I lost my job last week and I was about two weeks away from booking flights.

My wife has now walked out. She can't handle it any more. Too much pressure, she has made herself ill but when asked if she was OK she would always say "yes".

I'm gutted, hollow, empty and lost.

I have no job, no wife and no dream.

I hope this never happens to anyone else, please make sure you both want to go before you apply.

Thanks for listening.

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Old Jun 13th 2007, 12:48 pm
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I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I know it might not seem like it now but things will get brighter. Life is a bitch sometimes. If your wife loves you she will come round and if not then at least you know now when you have the support of others, rather than being thousands of miles away across the world.
Keep your spirits up!!
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Hi,
I know this is not what some of you may want to read but it needs to be said.

For a long time now, I have wanted to take my wife and kids to a new life down under. We made the decision to apply and spent the money. The application, the medicals, new pasports eveything. Our house has been done up to sell and its now like a palace. The visa's are here and The kids were dead excited too.

I lost my job last week and I was about two weeks away from booking flights.

My wife has now walked out. She can't handle it any more. Too much pressure, she has made herself ill but when asked if she was OK she would always say "yes".

I'm gutted, hollow, empty and lost.

I have no job, no wife and no dream.

I hope this never happens to anyone else, please make sure you both want to go before you apply.

Thanks for listening.

Jazzys
God thats dreadful, My family are just beginning the process but can see how stressful its going to be. Hope things work out. You never know..
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Have you got your visa Jazzy? Maybe you could suggest a holiday down under and get the visa's validated?

Not sure if you have been to aussie before so maybe it would let her have a look-see for herself?

Just a thought....

Hope it all works out

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Old Jun 13th 2007, 12:51 pm
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I am sooo sorry to hear you are having a bad time at the minute,
i no its hard to do but keep your chin up and good look for the future,
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Old Jun 13th 2007, 1:14 pm
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I'm sorry to hear your news. Life can sometimes throw us a "low baller".
I agree with a previous poster,that maybe a holiday out there is what you all need as a start, and maybe some honest talking.Maybe you both just need some time to get a clear head. I hope it works out for you all.
Best wishes and keep fighting,
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Hi,
I know this is not what some of you may want to read but it needs to be said.

For a long time now, I have wanted to take my wife and kids to a new life down under. We made the decision to apply and spent the money. The application, the medicals, new pasports eveything. Our house has been done up to sell and its now like a palace. The visa's are here and The kids were dead excited too.

I lost my job last week and I was about two weeks away from booking flights.

My wife has now walked out. She can't handle it any more. Too much pressure, she has made herself ill but when asked if she was OK she would always say "yes".

I'm gutted, hollow, empty and lost.

I have no job, no wife and no dream.

I hope this never happens to anyone else, please make sure you both want to go before you apply.

Thanks for listening.

Jazzys

So sorry to hear that

Do you think she's got cold feet about the move, or do you think it's just all the stress of it? Either way, just give her a bit of space to clear her head, hopefully she'll be back after a little break from it all.
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Sorry to hear that... don't give up hope....

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Have just PM'd ya mate.
Speak soon

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Hey man thats not the end of everything.

have the faith, things will get better.

There are people in more msery then you can imagine. So dont break your heart. Cheer up.. things will definately get better.

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Hi,
I know this is not what some of you may want to read but it needs to be said.

For a long time now, I have wanted to take my wife and kids to a new life down under. We made the decision to apply and spent the money. The application, the medicals, new pasports eveything. Our house has been done up to sell and its now like a palace. The visa's are here and The kids were dead excited too.

I lost my job last week and I was about two weeks away from booking flights.

My wife has now walked out. She can't handle it any more. Too much pressure, she has made herself ill but when asked if she was OK she would always say "yes".

I'm gutted, hollow, empty and lost.

I have no job, no wife and no dream.

I hope this never happens to anyone else, please make sure you both want to go before you apply.

Thanks for listening.

Jazzys
I am so sorry to hear you're going through such a really bad time. Sometimes, when the going gets tough, we simply need a breather, some space to work things out in our own minds without having the pressure of other peoples problems and needs. Allow your wife some time to gather her thoughts and at the same time take stock yourself. Don't allow yourself to sink into a pit of despair, it won't do anyone any good, in fact it will just worsen the situation. You do need to have a sit down with your wife at some point and it's best all round if your head is clear and your thoughts positive.

So you're out of work at the moment, if your wife was still with you would you be out looking for work or would you have brought your plans forward to move to oz? Maybe you need to visit oz yourself, with or without your wife, find a job and then look at making a fresh start. Your wife may just simply not be able to handle all the pressure and needs you to sort it out.

Whatever the situation, don't see the current events as 'the end'. If you walked into a brick wall, would you just stop walking or would you find a way around it? In this I'm not saying that you must strive to achieve the oz dream, but simply that you must keep moving.

All the best.

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Originally Posted by jazzys View Post
Hi,
I know this is not what some of you may want to read but it needs to be said.

For a long time now, I have wanted to take my wife and kids to a new life down under. We made the decision to apply and spent the money. The application, the medicals, new pasports eveything. Our house has been done up to sell and its now like a palace. The visa's are here and The kids were dead excited too.

I lost my job last week and I was about two weeks away from booking flights.

My wife has now walked out. She can't handle it any more. Too much pressure, she has made herself ill but when asked if she was OK she would always say "yes".

I'm gutted, hollow, empty and lost.

I have no job, no wife and no dream.

I hope this never happens to anyone else, please make sure you both want to go before you apply.

Thanks for listening.

Jazzys
Hi Jazz so sorry to hear your news but like other posts have said she may be getting cold feet seen as you are so close to going, just give her a lttle space and time im sure all will work out in the end sending you big hugs
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Thanks everyone, "honest talking" that would b nice!

Maybe she is getting cold feet, maybe she just doesn't want to go. But she should certainly have told me her thoughts before it got to this stage.

I'm almost out of the disbelief stage and its morphing into the really really angry stage.

The next stage will be to book flights for me n my little boy. Why should our dream die? If she wants to live in the UK she can but why should my lad be denied a better future.

I will kill me to leave my 15 yr old daughter and t'll hurt my lad to leave his siter and mam.

But I don't know what else to do.

Thanks for the support.

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Don't really know what to say Jazzys but I really hope things work out for you in the end.
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oh boy Sorry to hear that Jazz, here's hoping things work out for you.

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