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Hi, really need some advice from someone maybe that has been in similar situation, we have been in Oz now a couple of months, and my mum was really looking forward to coming over to stay with us after xmas for a a couple of months.
My mum has had troubled high blood pressure for the past ten years, one day it goes sky high, the next it is back to normal, the doctors have given her tablets but are finding it hard to stabilise it, also she does suffer at the moment with Oedema which is swelling in her ankles, but yet again some days they are really swollen and then other days they are fine. Anyway she spoke to her GP yesterday and said she is going to visit me, and they said No Way, they said that her ankles could swell up so much, and she is high risk for a clot, she is really really devastated, as she wants to see her grandchildren too, and I am devastated too, what do you reckon - is there any other thing she can do, or do we just listen to the Dr and she will never get to come over to Oz?
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Hi, really need some advice from someone maybe that has been in similar situation, we have been in Oz now a couple of months, and my mum was really looking forward to coming over to stay with us after xmas for a a couple of months.
My mum has had troubled high blood pressure for the past ten years, one day it goes sky high, the next it is back to normal, the doctors have given her tablets but are finding it hard to stabilise it, also she does suffer at the moment with Oedema which is swelling in her ankles, but yet again some days they are really swollen and then other days they are fine. Anyway she spoke to her GP yesterday and said she is going to visit me, and they said No Way, they said that her ankles could swell up so much, and she is high risk for a clot, she is really really devastated, as she wants to see her grandchildren too, and I am devastated too, what do you reckon - is there any other thing she can do, or do we just listen to the Dr and she will never get to come over to Oz?
Listen to the doctors, a visit is not worth the serious risk to her health. Hopefully soont he medication will start the stabilise her condition and then she will be able to come over.
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Pets -like a car or dog- are good for the blood pressure. Studies have shown that petting of an animal can reduce blood pressure (assuming you aren't scared or allergic!!)

I know I certain calm down when I pet a cat. Sounds a bit out there, but worth a try.
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There are lots of us who's parents will never come. My father is dying of cancer, so will not be going anywhere. My mother is 83, nearly 84 years old and not able to leave my dad alone. My in-laws are elderly as well, MIL brittle diabetic double amputee and father in law suffers from chronic prick syndrome. They wouldn't be welcome anyway, but that's not the point. We knew moving here that our families would be a long distance away from us and decided to come anyway. Is it really worth your mother's health for her to come here?
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Cruise ship to Oz?
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Cruise ship to Oz?
I would think with uncontrolled hypertension and edema even cruising would not be a safe option.
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ok this may come out wrong but please bear with me


mum has visited 2 times now, god how we miss her, she used to live next door to us in the UK!

she has been diagnosed with eye problems (can't spell the thing she has) Doc has said no flying !!!!

I have been devistated, there are no words i can use to describe my feelings that my mum can not visit me (dad died 8 years ago which still devistates me)


ok

on to day




doc says if she continues to put drops in (medication) and things improve she may be able to fly later, we are now looking at Oct 2009, so 18 months away


my point being


time and medication can have a great effect......wait and see, you may be surprised!!!!!!


my thoughts are with you... i do KNow how you feel
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There are lots of us who's parents will never come. My father is dying of cancer, so will not be going anywhere. My mother is 83, nearly 84 years old and not able to leave my dad alone. My in-laws are elderly as well, MIL brittle diabetic double amputee and father in law suffers from chronic prick syndrome. They wouldn't be welcome anyway, but that's not the point. We knew moving here that our families would be a long distance away from us and decided to come anyway. Is it really worth your mother's health for her to come here?

chronic prick syndrome......

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am so sorry D]




but this made me laugh toon (and i thank you coz its been a shit night)
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I would think with uncontrolled hypertension and edema even cruising would not be a safe option.
It would be no more dangerous than remaining at home, provided she remained on her medications and didn't start any new ones.
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can your mother afford a cruise to oz, i have heard of some people that are so afraid of flying have taken this route

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Hi, really need some advice from someone maybe that has been in similar situation, we have been in Oz now a couple of months, and my mum was really looking forward to coming over to stay with us after xmas for a a couple of months.
My mum has had troubled high blood pressure for the past ten years, one day it goes sky high, the next it is back to normal, the doctors have given her tablets but are finding it hard to stabilise it, also she does suffer at the moment with Oedema which is swelling in her ankles, but yet again some days they are really swollen and then other days they are fine. Anyway she spoke to her GP yesterday and said she is going to visit me, and they said No Way, they said that her ankles could swell up so much, and she is high risk for a clot, she is really really devastated, as she wants to see her grandchildren too, and I am devastated too, what do you reckon - is there any other thing she can do, or do we just listen to the Dr and she will never get to come over to Oz?

What is causing these problems?

Are they caused by age or complications of another health issue, or are they are being caused by being overweight or smoking or diet, if so quite often a whole lot can be done. Even type 2 diabeties can be cured by weight/diet changes. Its not unusual for patients to bring any of these issues under control by fairly big lifestyle changes if the motivation is great enough.
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Is she seeing a specialist? if so ask them to tell her the reasons why she should not fly and will this be the situation forever. Like previous posters have said, time and medication may be the answer.
MIL has now had the all clear to visit us for 3 months after some pretty major health issues.
Although we worry about the effects of a long flight on her health it is her choice and as she says 'you only live once, make the most of it'. She really enjoyed her previous visit and said that just seeing where we now live gave her peace of mind back home.
She got her travel insurance through Age Concern and they were really helpful.

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Just to add to this if anyone has older rellies wanting to come.

Even when my mother was advised that she was well enough to fly we had a really hard time getting her insurance as her stay was more than 28 days. In the end I used SAGA, they were fantastic and as long as you disclose any medical conditions they were fine. I also found them to be very economic and my mum ending up buy annual travel insurance through them.

Hope this helps.

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What is causing these problems?

Are they caused by age or complications of another health issue, or are they are being caused by being overweight or smoking or diet, if so quite often a whole lot can be done. Even type 2 diabeties can be cured by weight/diet changes. Its not unusual for patients to bring any of these issues under control by fairly big lifestyle changes if the motivation is great enough.
Evidence please!
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