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Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 9470014)
I've actually read it now....if you read between the lines, and lay some of the gloss aside, the mother is actually bang on. Old school or not old school.
Some of the advice is actually correct. She should just have had a word...I mean people don't write letters so much anymore... I fu**cked up big time years ago in someone's house and I wrote a letter of apology to both the mother and grandmother who lived there. And I never forgot my little transgression.... |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by moneypenny20
(Post 9470013)
It's the MiL who's on the third marriage with the kid conceived out of wedlock, not the DiL :lol:
(Even a lady 'of breeding' can have a marriage end...as we all know too well).. |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by moneypenny20
(Post 9470016)
Considering the content of the email should she not have sent a hand written letter, thus showing the 'ignorant ladette' the way things should be done?
Of course, if it had been hand-written, this would never have broken - the ease with which content can be sent on....:p It's actually no big deal really. It's easy to construe choice references to 'Ladette to Lady' and finishing schools as being up yourself. How ironic was she being? Remove those and you would just have one very peeved mother. |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 9470014)
I fu**cked up big time years ago in someone's house and I wrote a letter of apology to both the mother and grandmother who lived there. And I never forgot my little transgression.... |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by spalen
(Post 9470024)
I do believe that was the essence of a playboy readers letter i may have skim read some time ago. Are you "Double Trouble" from Harringsgate?
The story is that I met a girl in Berlin and she invited me to her home in Scotland. A grand old one too... As I was a guest, I was offered the best rooms...unfortunately we had been on the lash and forgot to lock the door..and were ultimately discovered by her grandmother who figured what blokes get up to in people's houses... The atmosphere was electric for a few days. hmm... |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by BadgeIsBack
(Post 9470014)
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I fu**cked up big time years ago in someone's house and I wrote a letter of apology to both the mother and grandmother who lived there. And I never forgot my little transgression.... Was it you that told the story about being caught having a piss the the in-laws fireplace? JTL |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by JackTheLad
(Post 9470039)
Was it you that told the story about being caught having a piss the the in-laws fireplace?
JTL I am cringing as I write... File it away as life experience... |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
Why????? as a surgeon is it allways the inlaws that need to pay for the daughters wedding, what`s so wrong with the male paying for a change. it is not a tradition for anyone to pay for any wedding. If thats the case the groom and bride should decied for them selves.
:confused: I myself got married in astone circle in Keswick with tones of people champers flowing all day in a large castle, brilliant and husbands parents paid. Well done horray horray |
Re: Mother in Law form Hell
Originally Posted by Dorothy
(Post 9469013)
Quite frankly it annoys me that my future daughter in law could have the ghastly manners to post this private correspondence between the two of us for the unwashed masses to read.
Her manners are decidedly lacking with regard to our family's privacy. I have chastised her verbally so as not to allow her to further disparage my good name with her unmannerly sharing of private correspondence. If only my young Freddie had the good sense to see through her obvious lack of breeding and end this charade. |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
Originally Posted by shamus maginty
(Post 9470079)
Why????? as a surgeon is it allways the inlaws that need to pay for the daughters wedding, what`s so wrong with the male paying for a change. it is not a tradition for anyone to pay for any wedding. If thats the case the groom and bride should decied for them selves.
:confused: I myself got married in astone circle in Keswick with tones of people champers flowing all day in a large castle, brilliant and husbands parents paid. Well done horray horray |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
the email was unfortunate... But the fact that it has been splashed across the internet is just another example of this young lady's poor manners.
As a guest you fit in You dont dictate dinner requirements nor ask for tomato ketchup if its not on the table, if you have a true allergy inform your host apologetically BEFORE any food is prepared... as a host there is NOTHING worse than being told when you sit down to dinner that some one doesnt eat what you have lovingly prepared... Nibble on the bits you can, push the stuff you cant eat around the plate a little and dont draw attention to the fact you cant eat it... If your host has good manners they wont draw attention to it either... put your knife and fork together when you have finished eating... Preferably after a couple of other people at the table have first... So as not to draw attention to the fact you didnt eat it.... Sometimes you have to just suck it up... As a vegetarian I ate meat on numerous occassions as I was a weekend house guest at short notice... Cheese... i had to hide the fact I wasnt eating it... i have an anaphylactic reaction... So would have drawn attention to myself had I eaten it... THAT would have been bad manners... Requiring an ambulance and urgent hospitalization... How passe! If I wasnt a short notice I would politely explain BEFORE arriving about the cheese.... as for not sending a thank you note when you have stayed as a house guest... That IS just plain bad manners.... Poor woman... The MIL that is... That her son has chosen some one who doesnt fit in... And obviously wont make the effort to either.... And Has ridiculed the family I doubt the marriage will last My MIL doesnt approve of me, but I would never give her any cause... Other than splashing it across a public forum such as BE... To accuse me of anything other than the most superb manners and showing her the upmost respect when we are together... Even tho I cant stand the weevil biatch |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9470294)
the email was unfortunate... But the fact that it has been splashed across the internet is just another example of this young lady's poor manners.
As a guest you fit in You dont dictate dinner requirements nor ask for tomato ketchup if its not on the table, if you have a true allergy inform your host apologetically BEFORE any food is prepared... as a host there is NOTHING worse than being told when you sit down to dinner that some one doesnt eat what you have lovingly prepared... Nibble on the bits you can, push the stuff you cant eat around the plate a little and dont draw attention to the fact you cant eat it... If your host has good manners they wont draw attention to it either... put your knife and fork together when you have finished eating... Preferably after a couple of other people at the table have first... So as not to draw attention to the fact you didnt eat it.... Sometimes you have to just suck it up... As a vegetarian I ate meat on numerous occassions as I was a weekend house guest at short notice... Cheese... i had to hide the fact I wasnt eating it... i have an anaphylactic reaction... So would have drawn attention to myself had I eaten it... THAT would have been bad manners... Requiring an ambulance and urgent hospitalization... How passe! If I wasnt a short notice I would politely explain BEFORE arriving about the cheese.... as for not sending a thank you note when you have stayed as a house guest... That IS just plain bad manners.... Poor woman... The MIL that is... That her son has chosen some one who doesnt fit in... And obviously wont make the effort to either.... And Has ridiculed the family I doubt the marriage will last My MIL doesnt approve of me, but I would never give her any cause... Other than splashing it across a public forum such as BE... To accuse me of anything other than the most superb manners and showing her the upmost respect when we are together... Even tho I cant stand the weevil biatch Was she given a timetable of when she should get up? A house guest of any description should either be given a timetable along with the request that she get up when required or be able to feel comfortable enough to get up when she wants. No idea what food she said she wanted or didn't want or couldn't eat. A decent host would have found out what a future inlaw liked to eat. Asking for seconds isn't rude, in fact it's praise for the food provided. The woman may have some valid points, I don't know as I don't know the girl but her letter smacks of self importance not class or breeding. |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
No matter how rude the girl was, the email to me is very bad manners, making her at least just as bad.
Diabetics do have to have a more specialised diet, including portion sizes. She may not have wanted to have to question the food and portions, but had no choice. By the sounds of it, she has tried to explain that at the time, which she gets moaned at for too. This sounds far more like mil from hell than rude daughter to me. The first time my mil decided to come stay with us was, an experiance. She bought her 8 year old grandson too with no warning at all! She knew two days before as they camped on the way down! Not to mention being a couple of hours earlier than she said she would be. I asked about food dislikes before making dinner (thinking more of the child). No, cook anything I was told. After I made it she told me it has cheese in it, so she would just make herself beans on toast! She wasn't impressed with my lack of entertainment for the kid (hello, I didn't know he was coming!). But the worst thing by far was her getting drunk and then the next morning, before setting off home chucking up in my bathroom sink. It was only after she left that I realised she had left all the chunks of puke for me to clean up!!!!! And you know, no thank you letter lol. |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
Originally Posted by moneypenny20
(Post 9470329)
I'd still say that a son's fiancee is not a guest. She seemed to be welcomed into the mother's house who said she was a charming and lovely girl. She's obviously gone to the father's house assuming she would be treated the same, but then found the step mother behaved differently.
Was she given a timetable of when she should get up? A house guest of any description should either be given a timetable along with the request that she get up when required or be able to feel comfortable enough to get up when she wants. No idea what food she said she wanted or didn't want or couldn't eat. A decent host would have found out what a future inlaw liked to eat. Asking for seconds isn't rude, in fact it's praise for the food provided. The woman may have some valid points, I don't know as I don't know the girl but her letter smacks of self importance not class or breeding. I suppose it depends upon the amount of contact they have had prior to this as to whether she is a "guest" still.... And also what kind of circles you are moving in... Remember Princess Di still had to call Charlie boy "Sir" until after they were married.... Dont suppose waity katy was allowed to lounge around til noon in bed when she was staying with The Firm... And lets face it, that family represent the very HEIGHT of middleclassness ..... Generally the schedule is made known... And one fits in with it.... The meals thing... If the MIL made no effort to accommodate a diabetic diet then that is just ignorant |
Re: Mother in Law from Hell
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 9470294)
the email was unfortunate... But the fact that it has been splashed across the internet is just another example of this young lady's poor manners.
As a guest you fit in You dont dictate dinner requirements nor ask for tomato ketchup if its not on the table, if you have a true allergy inform your host apologetically BEFORE any food is prepared... as a host there is NOTHING worse than being told when you sit down to dinner that some one doesnt eat what you have lovingly prepared... Nibble on the bits you can, push the stuff you cant eat around the plate a little and dont draw attention to the fact you cant eat it... If your host has good manners they wont draw attention to it either... put your knife and fork together when you have finished eating... Preferably after a couple of other people at the table have first... So as not to draw attention to the fact you didnt eat it.... Sometimes you have to just suck it up... As a vegetarian I ate meat on numerous occassions as I was a weekend house guest at short notice... Cheese... i had to hide the fact I wasnt eating it... i have an anaphylactic reaction... So would have drawn attention to myself had I eaten it... THAT would have been bad manners... Requiring an ambulance and urgent hospitalization... How passe! If I wasnt a short notice I would politely explain BEFORE arriving about the cheese.... as for not sending a thank you note when you have stayed as a house guest... That IS just plain bad manners.... Poor woman... The MIL that is... That her son has chosen some one who doesnt fit in... And obviously wont make the effort to either.... And Has ridiculed the family I doubt the marriage will last My MIL doesnt approve of me, but I would never give her any cause... Other than splashing it across a public forum such as BE... To accuse me of anything other than the most superb manners and showing her the upmost respect when we are together... Even tho I cant stand the weevil biatch They may smoke or be dirty in their own home - they do not get to treat mine like that. If they dont like certain food - then tell us, but to be honest if I was a guest round someones house, I would no way lounge in bed when I knew everyone was up, it makes sense to find out what time people get up in the morning and fit in with them. I remember my brother coming to see me when I was in the UK and lobbing bits of food onto the floor for my dog - despite me telling him not to. 'Oh I do it at home' he replied, well guess what, its not your home is it? Be respectful, offer to help, fit in and remember you are in someone else's house and what you may do in your own house might not be suitable in someone elses. |
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