I'm so fed up...
 

...and I don't know why?

I can't quite put my finger on it. I have been here almost 6 months so you would think I would have decided by now whether I like it or not but I can't decide. I have regular dreadful dreams about my life back home where I am back and am so relieved. I wake up and obviously I am still here. I actually feel sick when I wake up and realise I'm not home. Yet I think it is a better lifestyle here, I like where I live? I miss my friends so much though, I miss the familiarity of 'home' but that's about all. Maybe that is a lot to miss? I have days when I am so angry at being here almost to the point of being childish, complaining loudly in supermarkets about things that cost a fraction of the price in the UK, you know, the sort of person that you'd want to hit.
I think being back in work will make a difference, I am trying. This has been the longest period of time I have been out of work in 28 years. I have always earned my own money and I do worry that we won't get back to the financial stage we were at before we left. Our rent is 3 times the cost of our mortgage. I knew this before we came but in our case the economy spiralled downwards pretty fast and because of our circumstances it was now or never. My husband has a better job earning more, my 19yr old has a fantastic appenticeship for the next 4 years (although plans to return once he is qualified), my daughter loves school and has settled well.
So why am I so fed up about it all?

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Six months is a normal time to get the blues. All the hard work is over, life is vaguely normal, you've got nothing to do with regards moving here and you suddenly realise this is it. It's a normal feeling. Whether you'll move on from it or not I can't say. Most do though, by getting out, taking time to remember why you wanted to come over in the first place and maybe planning a weekend sightseeing somewhere you've not been but fancy that's not too far away.

Hope you get through to the other side.

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Because your heart and your head are heading in different directions :(

I felt like this too, but for me it was the first year and a half, it's only been these last 6 months that I've chilled a little and I've stopped panicking about being here.

Things will improve, give it time. :)

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Reality sets in and you realise it isn't a holiday, it's real life.

Have you made some friends? Finding the right ones can really help.

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I've been here about 15 months and the thought of moving back to the UK is well...not even a thought, but I know what you mean I guess place becomes part of our identity and who we are...when you remove a person from their normal surrounds you can feel a bit out of place somewhere else. I hate not knowing my way around....not knowing where all the 'in places are' not knowing all the little quirks that you just take for granted in the UK. If you throw into that mix being away from friends and family and all your normal routines, being here can feel quite strange at times. Moving overseas is a wrench, but you have to remember why you came and it is a fantastic country to live in I love the natural environment and our lifestyle is great, but I have a small list of pet peevs with the place, but its a balancing act and which side you come down on is down to how you feel and what makes you happy. I hope you are feeling a bit better about things soon I guess this is something a lot of people go through...myself included! :thumbup:

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Think you're right. Good friends are the key. My best friend was in holiday in Goa recently. He said one night he was on his own for a couple of hours in a bar. Normally he is surrounded by people he knows there etc. He said he suddenly realsed how I felt. He was in a fantastic place but he knew no-one.

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I could have written that myself ............... we have been here two years now and we feel exactly the same as what you have just described, still can't get my head around what we gave up (our choice I know) but didn't expect to still feel like this two years down the line. It just doesn't seem to improve, just feel more and more resentful as time goes by and I don't want to feel like that, I want to love it but I just don't ........... hopefully the love will come one day!!!

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I do think If I feel the same in 2 years that I'll be outta here. I hope that's not going to be the case though.

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Think if we knew we could walk back into jobs we would go but nothing going unfortunately so really don't have a lot of choice at the mo ...........
Surely things have got to get better soon!!

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I feel like this nearly 2 yrs down the line.
'They' say 2 years is the length of time you need to give yourself before you know if you've done the right thing...i'm still waiting for that 'thank god i moved here' feeling.
I'm just 'doing time' at the moment

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I didn't mean you saw it as a holiday but when you first arrive, particularly in warmer weather you start by doing touristy stuff once you have somewhere sorted to live. Once the kids are sorted with school, house is sorted and you have done some of the tourist stuff then real life starts. The first 6 months aren't really like real life. I hope you manage to sort through it, I have heard a glass of wine helps ;) If you fancy one with a complete stranger sometime then let me know :D

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I think there is a lot to be said for either loving it or hating it clearly in the first year. Doing time can't be good mate.....

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accurate post and responses here- your not alone

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Yeah, seen as youve been in prison countless times :rolleyes:

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Can you change your username? Mine would now be Abottleortwooffwinehelps :)