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I've never looked good in either court shoes or heels

shelly1

I was quite similar to you but went to canada, I think before we left the UK i knew that i didn't really want to go but once the ball's rolling it kind of bowls you over and you feel that your going with the flow, it'll be alright once you get there, well for me it wasn't alright, i put on a brave face because i thought i would be letting hubby and the kids down, so i got on with it stiff upper lip, well that stiff upper lip started slipping and something had to give, i eventually started telling the friends I'd made how i felt, they we're very supportive once i discussed it with my husband we both found out we we're putting a brave face on for each other. we stayed three months in canada, yes we lost a lot, we got our pet back on Friday we are all back and happier than ever, a very wise person once told me emigrating not for everyone, she was so right.
good luck darling talk to your man
Shelly x

zbettyboop

Hi

Sorry to hear about the way you are feeling.

Where about are staying.

Use the forum anytime you are feeling down thats what we are here for.


Beth

possoms

Hi I've posted this link before but hope it is of some help,

http://www.doctortravel.ca/culture_shock.asp

try not to give in yet, you've been through such a lot to get out there

Luke I Amyofath

You haven't lost your confidence you are simply nervous as to how you will be accepted by Australians. You start your new job soon and naturally are anxious like everyone else who is about to begin a new job. What may make it worse is the added anxiety of knowing that you are "different" and may not fit in while the contrary is the reality. People love meeting a new colleague in work who's not from "around here", you'll find yourself immediately popular especially in the teaching profession where there is always a genuine interest in cultural / geographical differences between staff.
I think you will quickly find new friends in work as well as others who will make an extra effort to be friendly because they know that you would be feeling a bit anxious.
If you believe the way you could stay is if you know you're leaving at the end of the year well just hold on to that mindset and give it that time. Dont get yourself a ticket though since you may find yourself growing to love your new life in Australia.
Good luck to you and your husband

diddy

Scared,

Where in Oz are you?

Paul.

Nice Guy

3 weeks may seem a little over 2 weeks which is the basis of a European holiday…….not knocking this at all.

However, the least time that I am aware of is 2.5 days in New Zealand…………then the person went “home.”

In the words of Vince Martin……."Beat that!”.

Luke I Amyofath

The apron strings must have spanned a few thousand miles

svinnes

I know how you feel, I have gone through more emotions here in 4 months than i have gone through in my life. I still wonder why my husbands stil here, Cause he has had a dogs life. I know with sticking with it, Its getting better and my confidence is coming back. Hopefully next time it will be you giving out advice to someone feeling the same way as you. Good luck.
Suzanne

philian4

hi,

I've yet to be homesick but have known friends/family go thru it. I can speak from experience and say what a huge step it is to move (this isn't our first time). No one can get you thru this but don't think of it as forever cos it doesn't have to be. It is a fantastic adventure and take it week by week, or day by day if necessary. Be good to yourself, not hard on yourself. No matter how alien or down you feel join in with something, anything. A sport club, a short pottery course, sea weed knitting. Having something to do kills time and stops you dwelling on the negative. As someone already said getting out to work starts the process of settling and feeling not totally alone. nothing can be a miracle cure just don't be hard on yourself.

Fingers crossed things work out for you to make you happy,

Phil x

NickyP

Hi there sometimes it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when everything feels out of control. You have a teaching job to go to but I must admit that I would be feeling the same travelling half way around the world and knowing that I am going to have to walk into a classroom of kids no matter how much I love teaching. I have to do my diploma to be able to teach here and will apply to start that in 2007 and I am glad in a way that I will have that time to get my head around it all. No matter how confident I was in the UK with the stress of moving here I would have had serious difficulties in throwing myself into a teaching job straight away. What age will you be teaching? Where are you in Australia?
Pm me if you fancy a chat. I have been here 3 months now and am finding the summer holidays difficult with 4 kids, the routines that I had built up to get me through the day have disappeared and it is all a lot harder.
Keep going.
Nicky

trehere

Just wanted to say I felt exactly the same when I arrived as well. My partner was working straight away when we got here and I had 3 weeks of doing nothing. Even though the language is the same and you drive on the same side of the road a trip to coles made me feel scared and uncomfortable. Just asking for a coffee was an adventure. Please try and stick it out though, 3 weeks is not long at all and after 2 years I'm much happier. I will always look forward to my next trips home to the UK and they do keep me going but life here is really good as well
If you're in Melbourne then it would be great to meet for a coffee or a drink some time if you'd like to
Stick it out - once you start work and have you home comforts with you things will seem better I promise!

binbird

Poor you, feeling like this, but you have got lots to look forward to over the coming few weeks that should help you settle - a loved pet coming out of quarantine and a new job. I know you are probably feeling nervous about the job but the pure fact that it will allow you to integrate with people in your local community will help, believe me. I am not working as I have three young (ish) children to look after but once they started school and both they and I started to meet people and make friends that really turned the corner for us.

I have had days too that I have not felt so bright (we have been in Sydney for nearly 3 months) but try and think positive and give it time and I hope things get better for you. See you've made lots of friends on here already just for being brave enough to speak your mind! Whether you are in Sydney or somewhere else there are loads of us out here in similar positions who would be only too happy to meet up for a coffee and a chat. Take one of us up on the offer.

Keep your chin up.

Binbird

BadgeIsBack

he's got a point, to be honest. What scared needs is support, but she needs to be a bit more positive! 3 weeks is long enough just to get over jetlag! If you seriously feel like this then you shouldn't have left your comfort zone!

Polyphemus

I feel the previous posts are covering your moving shock, so I'll just try to answer this question;

Cannot have a 'Pet Passport' without a current rabies vaccination [it is invalidated and would require new blood tests].

However the last booster may still be valid - I cannot tell without brand and date - most UK vaccines are 2-3yrs between jabs, so if the prev jab is less than 2yrs old you should still be able to travel under PETS without quarantine.

http://www.defra.gov.uk/animalh/quarantine/index.htm [Check here for import requirements/applications]

Shipping methods are v similar - search prev. threads.

Need more info PM or shout.

Clinical bit over. Give yourself time to make this decision. I wish you the best in whatever you decide, G.