Nu-Shooz

I had a similar dream. I dreamt my OH was having it away with some slut and i walked in on them. I went nuts...got a knife and hacked off his knob, stuffed it down the sluts throat, chopped them both into pieces and put them in a plastic bag.
Then i woke up...

Does that also mean i am in love?

iamthecreaturefromuranus

I think it means you are a potential "bunny boiler".

emelems

I think some people just feel it more, thats all. A partial reason for us divorcing was his inability to love me the same way that i loved him. Of course, there are a zillion other reasons that come into play, and they all hit the nail into the coffin. However, I think if he had adored me as much as i used to him, then we would have worked it out.

I did ask him once, when we were near the end, what did he consider about his lack of love for me.. he told me that he *did*love me, a hell of a lot in the beginning, but he it changed for him.. and that it moved into platonic, friendly feelings instead, he felt a love, but nothing much. Now call me a cynic, but I think if the love disappears then it probably wasnt there in the first place.. ie, I felt it, but it was unreciprocated.. and perhaps he felt flattered and maybe just went along with it hoping? Us humans can trick ourselves into believing anything aye?!

Ah! who knows?! Matters not a jot to me anyway, I currently have a very great guy that I have just started to see! which is going very swimmingly! haha!

Em x

livinginreality

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Ems!As I said I think I might have missed something when it comes to my own love life.Its never too late is it to find it?xx PS Glad you are very happy,you deserve to be xx

BigH68

lmao nope

soapy©

laughed my head off at it all, but this line just about made me piss myself


oh and

ONCE and still there by a long shot

soapy©

shazzy lmao

sasbear

What about the dream I had with first hubby when I dreamt I had killed him. Not only killed him, but dragged him downstairs and buried him, got in the shower and cleaned myself up, and got back in bed.

It WAS so REAL!

Imagine my horror when I woke up and he was still there next to me??? I actually thought that I had yet to drag him out and bury him so I began tugging at his feet and to my amazement he woke up and said 'what the F****ing hell are you doing woman' to which I replied, 'Oh I thought you was dead'!

True dream.

Deancm

Now that sounds like a heroin addict...

Deancm

No, that means you need to be certified!

Deancm

That happens in every relationship to everyone. That's the way humans are designed. It's only a matter of time.

Human are not meant to be with one person monogamously for their entire life. Human's don't pair bond for life.

kporte

You say all this as if it were fact. A great many do bond for life, my parents for example, 67 years married.
Are humans meant to be cynical do you think?

Deancm

The reason why it's common for people of that generation to bond for life is because that is what society expected of them. It's social engineering or brainwashing for the masses.

Society expects different things of people nowadays and divorce is no longer frowned upon as it has been in the past. Ever wonder why so many people get divorced nowadays?

I prefer realist to cynic. It's more accurate and far better than being idealistic. Idealism is the land of the fairies. A bit like believing in God!

lerato

Hmm.

I thought I was with an ex-boyf. Now I know it wasn't love. Maybe it was half-love or something.

But now, I am in love - first time.

I know 100% sure that it is because I was nearly killed by some idiot guy almost 5 yrs ago and let no one in within that time. Then I met my now partner and within 3 weeks of us meeting we were beginning a relationship.

13 months later and everything is great, plans to marry, kids, the whole shehbang.

I'm not sure I could go through it all again if I had to for whatever reason. I'd rather just not think about it!!

lerato

kporte

You suggest I am idealistic because I wish to find a life bond. Not idealistic, I just know what I want and what suits my personality. As for my parents, if you saw them together you would disregard the brainwashing bit.
The simple fact is you are trying to lump humans into neat pigeon holes but we are far more complex than that. You are broadly correct but not completely