How has your day been?
#6166
Re: How has your day been?
Had a pretty crappy week (literally), been off sick all week with gastro, still not quite over it.
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
Sorry to hear the news about your Mum.
#6167
Re: How has your day been?
Had a pretty crappy week (literally), been off sick all week with gastro, still not quite over it.
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
#6168
Re: How has your day been?
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
Huge sympathies though.
#6169
Re: How has your day been?
Personal view would be forget christmas, go now. Sounds really bloody harsh but you may not have her around for christmas and you need to see her whilst she's aware enough to know you're there. As for the 'being there' at the end, that's likely an impossible wish. We got the call, were told the mother had at most a few months, got a flight two days time and she died two hours before we left for the airport. My brother and sister had spent the previous week at the hospital but she died whilst they were both home asleep. They both told me that I really did not want to see her at the end, it's left them with horrible memories because of how she looked.
Huge sympathies though.
Huge sympathies though.
#6170
Re: How has your day been?
Had a pretty crappy week (literally), been off sick all week with gastro, still not quite over it.
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
#6171
Re: How has your day been?
Busy but productive. We went out this morning and decided on which granite to have installed in our kitchen then bought some new block out curtains for our bedroom. Once we got home I cleaned the pool and picked a second harvest of veggies from my garden. Last week I brought in the last of the first crop of radishes and now the peas, tomatoes and some of the carrots are ready. I've also got enough chillies to keep Mexico in business!
#6172
Re: How has your day been?
Had a pretty crappy week (literally), been off sick all week with gastro, still not quite over it.
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
I'm with moneypenny on the go now if it's at all possible front. Two reasons really, one being that it's better to see your mum whilst she's still relatively good, because then you can hopefully store up a few more smiles to see you through the future. I was with my mum right through her illness, right to the end and I treasure the time we spent together and I learned a lot about her as a person rather than just her as my mum. My other reason is that, my mum had been told her cancer was terminal right from the start, so it was always just a question of time, anyway, at one point in the proceedings just after it was agreed no more chemo was to be given as the affect of it was not proving worth the extra time she might gain .... anyway, the doctor said that we should, with good luck and a following wind have her for a few more months, she died a week later. You just never know what is going to happen.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do, there is no right or wrong answer, you have to do what fits in with your life and finances and whatnot. Keep your chin up but remember to look after yourself and I hope that you have people around you to give you the support you need.
Rasen, I know you've made the decision already to go home, I hadn't realised that you were in the same sort of situation. My thoughts are with you and yours too at this time. Hope the trip goes as well as it can in the circumstances.
#6173
Re: How has your day been?
Thanks all for the kind words xx
Rasen I hope you have a safe flight and you store up some wonderful memories for the future.
I have just spoken to my brother and the outcome is he is first going to speak to her consultant. Her greatest wish is to come back to Australia, so he is going to see if that is possible.
If not I shall be speaking to my boss (who has already told me I can go at the drop of a hat) and go this coming Thursday.
Either way I shall be spending some time with my mum in the next few weeks.
Shirley
Rasen I hope you have a safe flight and you store up some wonderful memories for the future.
I have just spoken to my brother and the outcome is he is first going to speak to her consultant. Her greatest wish is to come back to Australia, so he is going to see if that is possible.
If not I shall be speaking to my boss (who has already told me I can go at the drop of a hat) and go this coming Thursday.
Either way I shall be spending some time with my mum in the next few weeks.
Shirley
#6174
Re: How has your day been?
Had a pretty crappy week (literally), been off sick all week with gastro, still not quite over it.
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
Then this morning it got a bit worse (not the gastro),
Had a message from my brother in UK this morning.
Mum has liver cancer and had had 2 sessions of chemo. The second session left her with blood clots on her lungs, which meant they had to put an umbrella in her heart, she couldn't have it done at first as her platelet level was so low, so she had an infusion, after that they did it under local anaesthetic.
That was 4 weeks ago, she was supposed to have another chemo session on Monday, but she still wasn't well enough so they were going to do it yesterday.
This morning I found out she isn't going to be doing any more chemo, the cancer has spread quite a lot and she only has weeks and months rather than months and years.
I'm absolutely devastated and really don't know when to go for the best. I want to go right now this minute, but I would also love to be there at Christmas and have a Christmas with her, and then again I want to be with her at the end and I have no idea when that would be.
With my other brother still not speaking to me I don't want to be there when he is as I don't want it to be hard on mum at all.
What a shit start to the weekend, and with still feeling like crap I can't drown my sorrows
#6175
Re: How has your day been?
Fantastic, great, super, spiffing
Should have been leaving here at 6pm... if some one had pulled their bloody finger out.... wont be leaving til nearly 8pm now... I kept hovering, offering help... and repeatedly got NO...
No worries, all hours I can take back... BUT its bloody annoying when some one wades unaided through treacle and makes you 2 hours late home...
But on a positive note...I HAVE TWO DAYS OFF WOOOHOO..... actually that would be FOUR if you count the weekend
Should have been leaving here at 6pm... if some one had pulled their bloody finger out.... wont be leaving til nearly 8pm now... I kept hovering, offering help... and repeatedly got NO...
No worries, all hours I can take back... BUT its bloody annoying when some one wades unaided through treacle and makes you 2 hours late home...
But on a positive note...I HAVE TWO DAYS OFF WOOOHOO..... actually that would be FOUR if you count the weekend
#6176
Re: How has your day been?
I stubbed my toe hard enough to take half the nail off. It really hurts and now I have to wear flip flops until my nail grows back
#6177
Re: How has your day been?
The temptation of showing him was unussually high, but I resisted.
#6178
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Joined: Sep 2005
Posts: 23,400
Re: How has your day been?
Oww! I did that last year, but took the whole bloody ( literally!) nail off, and it didn't like jolts. The next day I was limping through Heathrow and some fat bastard walked backwards into me and put all the weight his heel could put onto my throbing toe. I made an anguished but suppressed moan of rage and pain, and porko turned round and muttered " What's up, bud..?"
The temptation of showing him was unussually high, but I resisted.
The temptation of showing him was unussually high, but I resisted.
#6179
Re: How has your day been?
Personally I wouldn't be wearing flip flops... You'll get all the Aussies staring at your feet going "what the **** are those" ....try and find a pair of thongs... That way you won't spend the whole day telling them what you have on your feet
Today is going to be PERFECT!!!!
Slept in till 5.30 this morning, third cup of coffee being drunk.... Retail therapy this morning then sitting on grandbabygruffalo in the pool this arvo... May even try and teach myself to make a beach bag for the niece for chrimbo... I have the fabric (rainbow hedgehogs) I have the pattern.... Just need to learn how to sew....
#6180
Re: How has your day been?
Flashbacks occuring to when a farmer's lad stood on my toe that had just had an ingrowing toenail removed- I was 14 at the time and we were standing in the coah waiting to get off when it lurched and he stomped on me. I nearly passed out with the pain.
Eddie, can you do a patchwork type bag??? You can sew that, and then all it needs is lining and piecing together - just like your quilts.
Eddie, can you do a patchwork type bag??? You can sew that, and then all it needs is lining and piecing together - just like your quilts.