irishbloo

They have outstayed their welcome.It is time to go.Your relationship has been ruined by this.They have to go.Its a shame but you cant live like this.Ask them to go before something serious happens.

eddie007

When you're done snogging Dotty...

We sat down "as a family" and presented a united front .. Discussed openly and calmly ALL the issues and asked him what he wanted to do about it... Actually felt for the kid... he has not had too much stability in his life TBH... And not a lot of unconditional love.... I still believe there is a good kid somewhere in there...

He has another chance to make a go of things... "Girlfriend" goes home the end of the week... She is a nice girl... But shouldn't have come....

So watch this space.... And keep yer fingers crossed for me eh?

sonlymewalter

Most people in their right minds would feel bad enough asking to stay at someones for two weeks -but to stay, with family members, beyond this is taking the piss and it's a train wreck waiting to happen.

Be calm and give them their marching orders they've had long enough.

ub40fan

Eddie, it sounds like you handled things a whole lot better than I/we did.

I just wanted to slap him in the face and knock the attitude problem right out of him.

Thing is, my boys would never have dreamed of speaking to someone like he spoke to me, especially if they were living under their roof.

I will keep my fingers crossed for you, but I reckon it will be fine

old.sparkles

I'm with you - my boys also wouldn't speak like that, plus they would know better than to lay hands on a girl no matter what the provocation.

I hope you manage to get things sorted

eddie007

If one of my kids did that they would have been eating carpet too

Bernieboy

You have carpet

carolinephillips

I feel for you all with family problems. Violence is wrong, whether it comes form a male or a female. I can understand people snapping under pressure, but once it is done, there is no going back, and it becomes easier to do it again. Remove the parties from the situation asap.

northernbird

Sorry to hear of your problems S, hope you get them sorted out soon with as little damage to the family as possible.

scrubbedexpat098

I once called my father in law a cu next tuesday, threatened to knock him out, and told his missus to eff off out of my house as she was no longer welcome. I charge $60 for initial consultation and $50 per threat, you can find me on www.englishmediationservices.com.au

Bernieboy

Violence is not the answer,you need to reeellllaaax and visit Berniethebuddhist.co.tibet

ub40fan

Oh well, that went really badly!

His father (my brother) thinks it is acceptable for his son to scratch my daughter as he grabbed her by the neck, put her on the ground and hold her there because she went for him. And he (my brother) assured me if I went for him he would do the same.

That is something I cannot come to terms with at all.

A lot more screaming and shouting was done.

Apparently the nephew fronting up to Steve, goading him to hit him and screaming and shouting at me was to protect his mother!

They are currently moving out - get this though - moving in with their 22 year old who is on his own because they guy he shares with is overseas - that guy is my 22 year old son!!!

No-one is speaking to me at all - so I am holed up in the bedroom out of the way while they pack. My daughter and I are being made to feel this is our fault, her for starting it and me for standing up for her.

And I have no wine in here and I so need a drink!

Time to take a deep breath and say, thanks for listening guys x

Tomorrow is another day.

old.sparkles

So sorry for you - ((((hugs))))

Hopefully a bit of time and space will help everyone

eddie007

And once they are gone you can start to rebuild your life.... See it as the blessing it is that they are going.... And move onwards and upwards from here.

Never does a Good turn go unpunished!

carolinephillips

Have a virtual wine, and hugs from me. ((()))