Originally Posted by TraceyW (Post 5262754)

You know what, even after 3.5 years here I am still feeling as unsettled as I did when I landed.

I don't believe it's anything to do with mindset at all; I have worked my butt off trying to settle. I CANNOT do anything more. I WANTED to make this work. I can see how fantastic life is for my kids. I can see how relaxed my Hubby is everyday. I can see all of the good things that are here, believe me.

Homesickness, and people sickness, hits you like a tonne of bricks. I don't understand why it affected me in this way. I am not one of those people who was extremely close to my family. I only have a very small family who we would only see once every few weeks, if that. Don't get me wrong I love them dearly, but never felt the need to be with them every day.

I am also not one of those people that have never left the town they were born in. I left home at 18 to work at a holiday camp as a Red Coat, moved around quite a bit after that, so I've never clung onto my roots. I've always thrived on spontaneity and adventure and never been afraid to try new things.

So why did it effect me? I haven't got a damn clue. I wish I did, then I could find the answer and change it, and YES, I would stay in Australia because this is where my kids and husband are happy. But, this life I'm living here is making me ill. I am now doped up to the eyeballs on anti-depressants :( some days I find it hard to function. I never felt like this before I came here. I feel like a pathetic failure when I read posts like the OP's. No offence to you and the others who've settled, but I just want to scream "Why did you settle and I can't?"

So please don't judge me, or anyone else that suffers with this *ucking awful feeling, because, believe me, I would give anything to settle in Australia.

Originally Posted by TraceyW (Post 5262754)

You know what, even after 3.5 years here I am still feeling as unsettled as I did when I landed.

I don't believe it's anything to do with mindset at all; I have worked my butt off trying to settle. I CANNOT do anything more. I WANTED to make this work. I can see how fantastic life is for my kids. I can see how relaxed my Hubby is everyday. I can see all of the good things that are here, believe me.

Homesickness, and people sickness, hits you like a tonne of bricks. I don't understand why it affected me in this way. I am not one of those people who was extremely close to my family. I only have a very small family who we would only see once every few weeks, if that. Don't get me wrong I love them dearly, but never felt the need to be with them every day.

I am also not one of those people that have never left the town they were born in. I left home at 18 to work at a holiday camp as a Red Coat, moved around quite a bit after that, so I've never clung onto my roots. I've always thrived on spontaneity and adventure and never been afraid to try new things.

So why did it effect me? I haven't got a damn clue. I wish I did, then I could find the answer and change it, and YES, I would stay in Australia because this is where my kids and husband are happy. But, this life I'm living here is making me ill. I am now doped up to the eyeballs on anti-depressants :( some days I find it hard to function. I never felt like this before I came here. I feel like a pathetic failure when I read posts like the OP's. No offence to you and the others who've settled, but I just want to scream "Why did you settle and I can't?"

So please don't judge me, or anyone else that suffers with this *ucking awful feeling, because, believe me, I would give anything to settle in Australia.

Originally Posted by TraceyW (Post 5262754)

You know what, even after 3.5 years here I am still feeling as unsettled as I did when I landed.

I don't believe it's anything to do with mindset at all; I have worked my butt off trying to settle. I CANNOT do anything more. I WANTED to make this work. I can see how fantastic life is for my kids. I can see how relaxed my Hubby is everyday. I can see all of the good things that are here, believe me.

Homesickness, and people sickness, hits you like a tonne of bricks. I don't understand why it affected me in this way. I am not one of those people who was extremely close to my family. I only have a very small family who we would only see once every few weeks, if that. Don't get me wrong I love them dearly, but never felt the need to be with them every day.

I am also not one of those people that have never left the town they were born in. I left home at 18 to work at a holiday camp as a Red Coat, moved around quite a bit after that, so I've never clung onto my roots. I've always thrived on spontaneity and adventure and never been afraid to try new things.

So why did it effect me? I haven't got a damn clue. I wish I did, then I could find the answer and change it, and YES, I would stay in Australia because this is where my kids and husband are happy. But, this life I'm living here is making me ill. I am now doped up to the eyeballs on anti-depressants :( some days I find it hard to function. I never felt like this before I came here. I feel like a pathetic failure when I read posts like the OP's. No offence to you and the others who've settled, but I just want to scream "Why did you settle and I can't?"

So please don't judge me, or anyone else that suffers with this *ucking awful feeling, because, believe me, I would give anything to settle in Australia.

Originally Posted by Weirdstone (Post 5262776)

It isn't something I can understand ....

Originally Posted by Wendy (Post 5262752)

Was your homesick feeling for people or the place though?

I think there is a big difference in missing someone and wanting to go back.

For instance if you went back just because you wanted to pop down your mates house, then you'd also want to come straight back here once you'd seen them.

Missing the place means that you wouldn't want to come back here.

Does that make sense? :confused::unsure::D

It's probably hard for those of us who haven't felt like that to understand what 'homesickness' is really.

Originally Posted by framac (Post 5262793)

Wendy, I don't get it bad like some people. Normally I am a happy person but I expect that I can't be up all the time and a down side must occur. This could be it and I'm calling it homesick. I don't know. But I would like my close friends and family nearer so I could drop in and just talk shit but I know thats not possible so I've just got to live with it.:unsure:

Originally Posted by TraceyW (Post 5262788)

Then why try?

Originally Posted by Weirdstone (Post 5262807)

Because I am interested in how people think.

Originally Posted by Weirdstone (Post 5262807)

Because I am interested in how people think.

Originally Posted by framac (Post 5262829)

You don't want to get into my head coz its too scarey. I'm terrified of what goes on in there and I own it. :rofl::rofl:

Originally Posted by Sally (Post 5262761)

...but I do feel the need to meet British people some of the time! And watch Poirot!

Originally Posted by moneypen20 (Post 5262893)

I haven't had it and none of the family have. Miss people occasionally and first born missed her friends really badly for the first six months but then she didn't want to come anyway. When we came out to Perth 20 odd years ago, I hadn't even got to the SIL's house before wanting to go back, really missed England. Now I love England but love it here more.

I find the "you will suffer homesickness after 3 months" similar to "you will suffer jetlag" - I've never had that either :D I have no idea why some would suffer and others don't. From reading stuff on here, some don't even get it until they've been here 10 years plus. Is that homesickness or just a vague yearning for something else and homesickness is an easy term.

Home is where WE are, for 4 days in November 2005 home was either an aeroplane or a hotel in Singapore :lol:

Originally Posted by Vim Fuego (Post 5262910)

Maybe a better term in some cases would be Elsewheresickness?