Funerals and children
Nov 27th 2006, 6:30 am
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
Thank you everyone for your support, this past fortnight has been like a form of torture, seeing the sparkle disappear slowly from my granda.
My parents are trying to sort the funeral out as my granma is in no fit state, she still had not accepted that he was dying.
AS the eldest of all the grandchildren ive been asked to do a reading and i know that is going to be so hard to do . But it will also be an honour.
Unfortunatly my husband can not get home for the funeral.
To all of you a big thank you for advice and support, it has helped an emotinal wreck feel a little stronger.
Mandy
My parents are trying to sort the funeral out as my granma is in no fit state, she still had not accepted that he was dying.
AS the eldest of all the grandchildren ive been asked to do a reading and i know that is going to be so hard to do . But it will also be an honour.
Unfortunatly my husband can not get home for the funeral.
To all of you a big thank you for advice and support, it has helped an emotinal wreck feel a little stronger.
Mandy
Take care
Love Kath xxx
Nov 27th 2006, 6:32 am
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by poppets
Mandy deepest sympathy to you & your family. My Grandad died suddenly Sat lunchtime, he had parkinsons & i too am relieved his suffering is now over. My children will not be attending the funeral basicially cos of teh cost of getting us all from NZ to UK, so i will travel alone. My kids now 5 & 3 have attended family funerals before teh last being when my nan died in july last yr, i found that having them there gave me great strength, & my nan would have been pleased that they were there. My kids now understand that i have too go to GG (gt grandad) funeral to say goodbye, & that yes i will be sad, but i'll return home to be mummy again. (quite how i'm going to cope with them & hubby not there & with jet lag i'm not sure 
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good luck with the reading your grandad would be proud. My mums friend died last year, & her granddaughter read poems & reading out , they were 8 , 12,& 14 . they were fantastic, they just made me sob , cos i know i couldn't have done what they did.
take care, thinking of you xx
) good luck with the reading your grandad would be proud. My mums friend died last year, & her granddaughter read poems & reading out , they were 8 , 12,& 14 . they were fantastic, they just made me sob , cos i know i couldn't have done what they did.
take care, thinking of you xx
Sincere condolences to you Poppets, I don't envy you that journey on your own.
Take care
Kath xx
Nov 27th 2006, 9:13 am
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
Thank you everyone for your support, this past fortnight has been like a form of torture, seeing the sparkle disappear slowly from my granda.
My parents are trying to sort the funeral out as my granma is in no fit state, she still had not accepted that he was dying.
AS the eldest of all the grandchildren ive been asked to do a reading and i know that is going to be so hard to do . But it will also be an honour.
Unfortunatly my husband can not get home for the funeral.
To all of you a big thank you for advice and support, it has helped an emotinal wreck feel a little stronger.
Mandy
My parents are trying to sort the funeral out as my granma is in no fit state, she still had not accepted that he was dying.
AS the eldest of all the grandchildren ive been asked to do a reading and i know that is going to be so hard to do . But it will also be an honour.
Unfortunatly my husband can not get home for the funeral.
To all of you a big thank you for advice and support, it has helped an emotinal wreck feel a little stronger.
Mandy
My Gran who died earlier this year would have been 95 last week, when we went to the crem on her birthday, there were lots of windchimes people had hung up in the garden of rememberance. I thought this was a lovely thing to do, so maybe you could take your children to choose one they think he would have liked and hang it somewhere nice. Niki x
Nov 27th 2006, 2:08 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
My granda died peacefully on Fri.Im sort of relieved that his suffering is over, but feel guilty for feeling this way.
Mandy
Mandy
Nov 27th 2006, 5:30 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
I had rather sad news that my granda has not got long left .
i havent told my children yet. They are 8,6 and 4 and so far have not managed to tell the boys the their great granda is dying.
Now i know i will be going to the funeral when the time comes. Possibly with out my husband as he may not be able to have time off from the army.
As this is the first time ive been in this situation, im not sure whether my boys should go to the funeral.
Ive had a sleepless night trying to decide what i should do when the time comes.
I know this is an emotinal time for any one but how have other people coped with taking children to funerals.
My boys know their great granda but just dont have a special bond with him, the way they do with their grandparents.
My husband thinks the boys are too young to underestand about funerals.
Mandy
i havent told my children yet. They are 8,6 and 4 and so far have not managed to tell the boys the their great granda is dying.
Now i know i will be going to the funeral when the time comes. Possibly with out my husband as he may not be able to have time off from the army.
As this is the first time ive been in this situation, im not sure whether my boys should go to the funeral.
Ive had a sleepless night trying to decide what i should do when the time comes.
I know this is an emotinal time for any one but how have other people coped with taking children to funerals.
My boys know their great granda but just dont have a special bond with him, the way they do with their grandparents.
My husband thinks the boys are too young to underestand about funerals.
Mandy
I was a similar age to ALL of your kids when losing mine, understood that they had died, but had not desire to sit in a church saying goodbye to someone I hardly knew, or to be honest, cared about!
Nov 29th 2006, 5:21 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Tomorrow is the funeral and im certainly not looking forward to it.
My eldest son is going to come with me, but the other 2 will remain in school.
Ive got a reading prepared i just hope i manage to do him proud.
The kids have suprised me on how well they have coped far better than me
.
Once again thank you for support, karma and the messages. They have helped .
Mandy
My eldest son is going to come with me, but the other 2 will remain in school.
Ive got a reading prepared i just hope i manage to do him proud.
The kids have suprised me on how well they have coped far better than me
.Once again thank you for support, karma and the messages. They have helped .
Mandy
Nov 29th 2006, 5:23 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
Tomorrow is the funeral and im certainly not looking forward to it.
My eldest son is going to come with me, but the other 2 will remain in school.
Ive got a reading prepared i just hope i manage to do him proud.
The kids have suprised me on how well they have coped far better than me .
Once again thank you for support, karma and the messages. They have helped .
Mandy
My eldest son is going to come with me, but the other 2 will remain in school.
Ive got a reading prepared i just hope i manage to do him proud.
The kids have suprised me on how well they have coped far better than me
.Once again thank you for support, karma and the messages. They have helped .
Mandy
Glad the kids are coping well
Kxx
Nov 29th 2006, 5:24 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
My granda died peacefully on Fri.Im sort of relieved that his suffering is over, but feel guilty for feeling this way.
Mandy
Mandy
Only just found this thread Mandy. So sorry to hear it. I hope your OK babe. E-mail me if you want a chat.
Nov 29th 2006, 5:38 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
Tomorrow is the funeral and im certainly not looking forward to it.
My eldest son is going to come with me, but the other 2 will remain in school.
Ive got a reading prepared i just hope i manage to do him proud.
The kids have suprised me on how well they have coped far better than me .
Once again thank you for support, karma and the messages. They have helped .
Mandy
My eldest son is going to come with me, but the other 2 will remain in school.
Ive got a reading prepared i just hope i manage to do him proud.
The kids have suprised me on how well they have coped far better than me
.Once again thank you for support, karma and the messages. They have helped .
Mandy
Nov 30th 2006, 9:22 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Thank you everyone, for your support.
The funeral went off as well as they can do . Im sure granda would have been happy.
My 8 year old son came with me and was really good. He has been very quiet today but hasn't seem outwoodly upset.
Ive had a few drinks tonight but feel ok.
RIP Granda
Mandy
The funeral went off as well as they can do . Im sure granda would have been happy.
My 8 year old son came with me and was really good. He has been very quiet today but hasn't seem outwoodly upset.
Ive had a few drinks tonight but feel ok.
RIP Granda
Mandy
Nov 30th 2006, 10:03 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
Thank you everyone, for your support.
The funeral went off as well as they can do . Im sure granda would have been happy.
My 8 year old son came with me and was really good. He has been very quiet today but hasn't seem outwoodly upset.
Ive had a few drinks tonight but feel ok.
RIP Granda
Mandy
The funeral went off as well as they can do . Im sure granda would have been happy.
My 8 year old son came with me and was really good. He has been very quiet today but hasn't seem outwoodly upset.
Ive had a few drinks tonight but feel ok.
RIP Granda
Mandy
Deb
Nov 30th 2006, 10:04 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
Thank you everyone, for your support.
The funeral went off as well as they can do . Im sure granda would have been happy.
My 8 year old son came with me and was really good. He has been very quiet today but hasn't seem outwoodly upset.
Ive had a few drinks tonight but feel ok.
RIP Granda
Mandy
The funeral went off as well as they can do . Im sure granda would have been happy.
My 8 year old son came with me and was really good. He has been very quiet today but hasn't seem outwoodly upset.
Ive had a few drinks tonight but feel ok.
RIP Granda
Mandy
Dec 1st 2006, 4:34 am
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Re: Funerals and children
I am glad that the funeral went off OK. It is hard to know what to say really as each person deals with things in their own way. I hope that things start to settle again now and you are able to remember him without thinking too much about the past few weeks.
Nicky xx
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Dec 1st 2006, 5:05 am
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
My granda died peacefully on Fri.Im sort of relieved that his suffering is over, but feel guilty for feeling this way.
Mandy
Mandy
In my thoughs
regards
lolly
Dec 1st 2006, 1:27 pm
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Re: Funerals and children
Originally Posted by possoms
glad it all went well Mandy, here's to your Granda