First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
Jan 28th 2013, 6:16 am
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First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
I have just been back to the uk at Christmas and bloody hell did I not kiss the ground when I arrived back home in Australia 
I spent 5 weeks back in Yorkshire after being away for 7 years and bloody nora nothing had changed and things seemed so crap and alot worse since i had left.... I will always thank my lucky stars for the life I have here in Australia
I do miss my family and friends
and I am sad that they are still in the same postion as when I left them ..... i feel if it was that bad they would do something about it as we did and we are no different to any of them we had no money really to come out to Australia 7 years ago.
Anyway what do you think is the best time to visit back to the uk after being here in Australia? I think leaving it this long till going back was a blessing we could not wait to get back home after being there a week !!! I know now I am going to make more of an effort here friends wise as thats all that is missing you can never replace my family and why would you want to ? so I am so happy that now after all this time I can safely say this is home Australia
I have had some bad times over the past 7 years but do you know what i have changed so much since being away as a person and being here in Australia as made me like this and I am glad
I spent 5 weeks back in Yorkshire after being away for 7 years and bloody nora nothing had changed and things seemed so crap and alot worse since i had left.... I will always thank my lucky stars for the life I have here in Australia
I do miss my family and friends
and I am sad that they are still in the same postion as when I left them ..... i feel if it was that bad they would do something about it as we did and we are no different to any of them we had no money really to come out to Australia 7 years ago. Anyway what do you think is the best time to visit back to the uk after being here in Australia? I think leaving it this long till going back was a blessing we could not wait to get back home after being there a week !!! I know now I am going to make more of an effort here friends wise as thats all that is missing you can never replace my family and why would you want to ? so I am so happy that now after all this time I can safely say this is home Australia
I have had some bad times over the past 7 years but do you know what i have changed so much since being away as a person and being here in Australia as made me like this and I am glad
Jan 28th 2013, 6:27 am
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
An interesting update. I do have a theory (not shared by many! 
) That it probably takes 7 years for your life to really turn round and adapt to new surroundings.
It can take that long, unless you are lucky enough to fall on your feet in EVERY area of life, to completely assimilate.
Happy for you anyway.
) That it probably takes 7 years for your life to really turn round and adapt to new surroundings.It can take that long, unless you are lucky enough to fall on your feet in EVERY area of life, to completely assimilate.
Happy for you anyway.
Jan 28th 2013, 6:35 am
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
An interesting update. I do have a theory (not shared by many! ) That it probably takes 7 years for your life to really turn round and adapt to new surroundings.
It can take that long, unless you are lucky enough to fall on your feet in EVERY area of life, to completely assimilate.
Happy for you anyway.
) That it probably takes 7 years for your life to really turn round and adapt to new surroundings.It can take that long, unless you are lucky enough to fall on your feet in EVERY area of life, to completely assimilate.
Happy for you anyway.
Jan 28th 2013, 6:52 am
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It's funny.. Haven't been back yet and as many on here might know I'm fairly desperate to do so.... But your experience sums up my biggest fear of doing it..
I have wonderful memories and don't want them tarnished with the reality of what it's really like... My rose tinted glasses may not cope.. Of people who have stayed as is whilst I have moved on...
Have decided.. July 2014... Come he'll or high water.
I have wonderful memories and don't want them tarnished with the reality of what it's really like... My rose tinted glasses may not cope.. Of people who have stayed as is whilst I have moved on...
Have decided.. July 2014... Come he'll or high water.
Jan 28th 2013, 7:32 am
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
we went back on visits and always came away wanting more time there (but happy to be back in Aus).
For various reasons, we ended up spending 2 years in UK (been back 4 months) ...and have to say although the time there was interesting and not as awful as many say, I am happy we are able to chose to live in Aus. Saying that the place does feel crowded!
Also glad we can just visit UK when the mood takes us. Australia- for us- offers far better opportunities for our family
For various reasons, we ended up spending 2 years in UK (been back 4 months) ...and have to say although the time there was interesting and not as awful as many say, I am happy we are able to chose to live in Aus. Saying that the place does feel crowded!
Also glad we can just visit UK when the mood takes us. Australia- for us- offers far better opportunities for our family
Jan 28th 2013, 7:54 am
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
we went back on visits and always came away wanting more time there (but happy to be back in Aus).
For various reasons, we ended up spending 2 years in UK (been back 4 months) ...and have to say although the time there was interesting and not as awful as many say, I am happy we are able to chose to live in Aus. Saying that the place does feel crowded!
Also glad we can just visit UK when the mood takes us. Australia- for us- offers far better opportunities for our family
For various reasons, we ended up spending 2 years in UK (been back 4 months) ...and have to say although the time there was interesting and not as awful as many say, I am happy we are able to chose to live in Aus. Saying that the place does feel crowded!
Also glad we can just visit UK when the mood takes us. Australia- for us- offers far better opportunities for our family
its not horrible its just not for us anymore
Jan 28th 2013, 7:57 am
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It's funny.. Haven't been back yet and as many on here might know I'm fairly desperate to do so.... But your experience sums up my biggest fear of doing it..
I have wonderful memories and don't want them tarnished with the reality of what it's really like... My rose tinted glasses may not cope.. Of people who have stayed as is whilst I have moved on...
Have decided.. July 2014... Come he'll or high water.
I have wonderful memories and don't want them tarnished with the reality of what it's really like... My rose tinted glasses may not cope.. Of people who have stayed as is whilst I have moved on...
Have decided.. July 2014... Come he'll or high water.
You do need to go back and lay it to rest either way
Jan 28th 2013, 8:05 am
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
I guess it just shows how different people look at the same thing really, it does seem very dependant on where you are based obviously.
Jan 28th 2013, 8:18 am
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I would love to like in York for example but the reality is a no no job wise and being able to afford to live comfortable for me and my family is just so out of reach 
Jan 29th 2013, 6:10 am
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Yes exactly, as with anywhere there are places we wouldnt dream of living but we have been lucky.
Jan 29th 2013, 11:05 am
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
I hated it the first year here, just didn't feel connected or whatever.
Been here 4.5 years and not been back yet either. We're not in any rush as I'd rather put the money towards the mortgage/house/holidays this end of the world.
Been here 4.5 years and not been back yet either. We're not in any rush as I'd rather put the money towards the mortgage/house/holidays this end of the world.
Jan 29th 2013, 11:49 am
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I haven't returned since I arrived many, many years ago. although my wife has. We might be returning this year if we can try and get non-Australian flight prices. Things are different now because we can keep up so easily with British TV and news, etc.
I know the economy has done nothing but nosedive there since I left, and I know from friends and family that this is being reflected in increasing numbers of shops being boarded up and small businesses shutting down. Also when I watch British TV the thing that hits me front and centre is the obsession with class, and frankly I do not miss that at all in Australia.
One day we might well return for a longer period but a lot of conditions will have to be right. For one thing I refuse to commute by road or rail in the UK because the experience was so dreadful for me before, so work will have to be local or home-based. For another I refuse to have neighbours there because our experience of living in close quarters to people in England was pretty unpleasant also so we would need to rent a fairly expensive rural property I would think.
Decisions....decisions....
I know the economy has done nothing but nosedive there since I left, and I know from friends and family that this is being reflected in increasing numbers of shops being boarded up and small businesses shutting down. Also when I watch British TV the thing that hits me front and centre is the obsession with class, and frankly I do not miss that at all in Australia.
One day we might well return for a longer period but a lot of conditions will have to be right. For one thing I refuse to commute by road or rail in the UK because the experience was so dreadful for me before, so work will have to be local or home-based. For another I refuse to have neighbours there because our experience of living in close quarters to people in England was pretty unpleasant also so we would need to rent a fairly expensive rural property I would think.
Decisions....decisions....
Jan 29th 2013, 12:11 pm
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Oh give it a rest FFS, the British are not obsessed with class although you seem to be for whatever reason. For someone who IS obsessed by class you come across as snobby and elitist oddly enough.
Jan 29th 2013, 12:42 pm
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Re: First visit in 7 years back in the uk at Xmas
I haven't returned since I arrived many, many years ago. although my wife has. We might be returning this year if we can try and get non-Australian flight prices. Things are different now because we can keep up so easily with British TV and news, etc.
I know the economy has done nothing but nosedive there since I left, and I know from friends and family that this is being reflected in increasing numbers of shops being boarded up and small businesses shutting down. Also when I watch British TV the thing that hits me front and centre is the obsession with class, and frankly I do not miss that at all in Australia.
One day we might well return for a longer period but a lot of conditions will have to be right. For one thing I refuse to commute by road or rail in the UK because the experience was so dreadful for me before, so work will have to be local or home-based. For another I refuse to have neighbours there because our experience of living in close quarters to people in England was pretty unpleasant also so we would need to rent a fairly expensive rural property I would think.
Decisions....decisions....
I know the economy has done nothing but nosedive there since I left, and I know from friends and family that this is being reflected in increasing numbers of shops being boarded up and small businesses shutting down. Also when I watch British TV the thing that hits me front and centre is the obsession with class, and frankly I do not miss that at all in Australia.
One day we might well return for a longer period but a lot of conditions will have to be right. For one thing I refuse to commute by road or rail in the UK because the experience was so dreadful for me before, so work will have to be local or home-based. For another I refuse to have neighbours there because our experience of living in close quarters to people in England was pretty unpleasant also so we would need to rent a fairly expensive rural property I would think.
Decisions....decisions....
