Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Sep 12th 2007, 3:19 am
#61
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
It could be that they have just found new friends closer to where they are, they might not have 'dropped' you as such. I am sure it isn't that they don't like you either just that they have got caught up with their new lives. Only assumptions as I obviously don't know the people concerned.
Anyway, not overly concerned... I know who my real friends are
It was just an example really.
Sep 12th 2007, 3:20 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
There's food for thought (not for you for me) cos I don't have many friends either 
Still, I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone has or doesn't have, where they live or don't, what they drive or how big or new this or that is.
If they are nice to me I will be nice to them, they don't have to be my best friend and I don't want to live in anyones pocket or vice versa, but it would be nice to be able to go out for a coffee once in a while with a like minded person.
Still, I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone has or doesn't have, where they live or don't, what they drive or how big or new this or that is.
If they are nice to me I will be nice to them, they don't have to be my best friend and I don't want to live in anyones pocket or vice versa, but it would be nice to be able to go out for a coffee once in a while with a like minded person.
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Sep 12th 2007, 3:40 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Have read this post with interest.
Has `flakey` changed its meaning? I thought `flakey`meant someone slightly but- ever -so- nicely loopy.You are all using it in a different way.
Pls explain and I may send you all the secret to making true,lasting friendships!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Has `flakey` changed its meaning? I thought `flakey`meant someone slightly but- ever -so- nicely loopy.You are all using it in a different way.
Pls explain and I may send you all the secret to making true,lasting friendships!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sep 12th 2007, 3:42 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I wondered if any of you had similar experiences?
Since we've been here, we've made a huge effort to make friends and settle. However *most* of the expats we've befriended (or tried to befriend) have been really flakey - by this I mean they say they'll turn up for something, then ten minutes before it's due to start they phone with a feeble excuse to cancel.
People seemed more concerned with 'what they've got' than they were in the UK. We know a family who were building two houses, one to live in whilst they built their 'proper' home and whenever you asked them how the house was coming along, they'd ask 'big house or little house?'. I just wanted to slap them!
Do you think it's the Brits that are overly concerned with what everyone's got - how big it is and how much it cost? The Aussies we've met don't seem to give a rats a*se!
Sorry - bit of a rant tonight. I'm just sick of people's attitudes at the moment. Everyone seems to be prepared to take but no-one wants to give!
Jules x
(P.S. In no way, shape or form does any of the above relate to the lovely lot who came to our last BBQ
Honest )
Since we've been here, we've made a huge effort to make friends and settle. However *most* of the expats we've befriended (or tried to befriend) have been really flakey - by this I mean they say they'll turn up for something, then ten minutes before it's due to start they phone with a feeble excuse to cancel.
People seemed more concerned with 'what they've got' than they were in the UK. We know a family who were building two houses, one to live in whilst they built their 'proper' home and whenever you asked them how the house was coming along, they'd ask 'big house or little house?'. I just wanted to slap them!
Do you think it's the Brits that are overly concerned with what everyone's got - how big it is and how much it cost? The Aussies we've met don't seem to give a rats a*se!
Sorry - bit of a rant tonight. I'm just sick of people's attitudes at the moment. Everyone seems to be prepared to take but no-one wants to give!
Jules x
(P.S. In no way, shape or form does any of the above relate to the lovely lot who came to our last BBQ
Honest )YES VERY MUCH so, a great post can I say.
We have made some very good TRUE friends here but I have to say it is hard going with others, (and yes some from this site
) it's like pulling teeth. We have , in the past, made Big efforts with newies and they use you and spit you out when something better comes along 
Didn't think we were that strange
Sep 12th 2007, 3:46 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
YES VERY MUCH so, a great post can I say.
We have made some very good TRUE friends here but I have to say it is hard going with others, (and yes some from this site) it's like pulling teeth. We have , in the past, made Big efforts with newies and they use you and spit you out when something better comes along
Didn't think we were that strange
We have made some very good TRUE friends here but I have to say it is hard going with others, (and yes some from this site
) it's like pulling teeth. We have , in the past, made Big efforts with newies and they use you and spit you out when something better comes along Didn't think we were that strange
Sep 12th 2007, 4:00 am
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Sep 12th 2007, 4:02 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Really beginning to wonder why we bother
Sep 12th 2007, 4:03 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I know everyone doesnt get along, but there is such a thing as being polite, we make efforts to welcome new poeple, show them around, invite them to do's, invite them to BBQs, coffee, you name it. THEN ZILCH
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Really beginning to wonder why we bother
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Really beginning to wonder why we bother
Sep 12th 2007, 4:06 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
Have read this post with interest.
Has `flakey` changed its meaning? I thought `flakey`meant someone slightly but- ever -so- nicely loopy.You are all using it in a different way.
Pls explain and I may send you all the secret to making true,lasting friendships!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Has `flakey` changed its meaning? I thought `flakey`meant someone slightly but- ever -so- nicely loopy.You are all using it in a different way.
Pls explain and I may send you all the secret to making true,lasting friendships!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sep 12th 2007, 4:13 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
If you want someone to meet up with then i will come along! I would love to be invited out!
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Sep 12th 2007, 4:29 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I`ve made a few good friends through this forum - some of whom are in Perth and who I don`t see very often because I don`t drive and they work, but we still enjoy the old phone conversations. My trouble is that Im not really bothered about going out there (and my riends do nag me to make more effort)- I know I should really, but I just feel if Im meant to make friends they will come along-and indeed they have. I would far rather have a few good friends whose company I enjoy, than a wide group of aquaintences, that I feel I can`t be myself with(In my old age, I`ll be the scarey old woman woman living at the end of your street with a house full of cats and smelling of pee
). Back in the UK I made most of my friends through work - here I don`t work, so I make sure I say hello to people when walking the dog and as they say out of small acorns large oak trees grow. As in the words of the Frankie Miller song "I`ve lost the friends that needed losing and made others on the way" - the migration process is good for reassessing relationships and friendships and I dropped a once good friend who I felt was wanting me there for her but not the other way round.
I had a very sobering thought a few weeks after we arrived here - I suddenly wondered who would come to my funeral if I dropped dead the next day and the answer on reflection was, only those who mattered.
). Back in the UK I made most of my friends through work - here I don`t work, so I make sure I say hello to people when walking the dog and as they say out of small acorns large oak trees grow. As in the words of the Frankie Miller song "I`ve lost the friends that needed losing and made others on the way" - the migration process is good for reassessing relationships and friendships and I dropped a once good friend who I felt was wanting me there for her but not the other way round.I had a very sobering thought a few weeks after we arrived here - I suddenly wondered who would come to my funeral if I dropped dead the next day and the answer on reflection was, only those who mattered.
Sep 12th 2007, 4:43 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I wondered if any of you had similar experiences?
Since we've been here, we've made a huge effort to make friends and settle. However *most* of the expats we've befriended (or tried to befriend) have been really flakey - by this I mean they say they'll turn up for something, then ten minutes before it's due to start they phone with a feeble excuse to cancel.
People seemed more concerned with 'what they've got' than they were in the UK. We know a family who were building two houses, one to live in whilst they built their 'proper' home and whenever you asked them how the house was coming along, they'd ask 'big house or little house?'. I just wanted to slap them!
Do you think it's the Brits that are overly concerned with what everyone's got - how big it is and how much it cost? The Aussies we've met don't seem to give a rats a*se!
Sorry - bit of a rant tonight. I'm just sick of people's attitudes at the moment. Everyone seems to be prepared to take but no-one wants to give!
Jules x
(P.S. In no way, shape or form does any of the above relate to the lovely lot who came to our last BBQ Honest )
Since we've been here, we've made a huge effort to make friends and settle. However *most* of the expats we've befriended (or tried to befriend) have been really flakey - by this I mean they say they'll turn up for something, then ten minutes before it's due to start they phone with a feeble excuse to cancel.
People seemed more concerned with 'what they've got' than they were in the UK. We know a family who were building two houses, one to live in whilst they built their 'proper' home and whenever you asked them how the house was coming along, they'd ask 'big house or little house?'. I just wanted to slap them!
Do you think it's the Brits that are overly concerned with what everyone's got - how big it is and how much it cost? The Aussies we've met don't seem to give a rats a*se!
Sorry - bit of a rant tonight. I'm just sick of people's attitudes at the moment. Everyone seems to be prepared to take but no-one wants to give!
Jules x
(P.S. In no way, shape or form does any of the above relate to the lovely lot who came to our last BBQ
Honest )I am quite the opposite, i am always putting myself down, i just hate braggers.
Sep 12th 2007, 7:52 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I wondered if any of you had similar experiences?
Since we've been here, we've made a huge effort to make friends and settle. However *most* of the expats we've befriended (or tried to befriend) have been really flakey - by this I mean they say they'll turn up for something, then ten minutes before it's due to start they phone with a feeble excuse to cancel.
People seemed more concerned with 'what they've got' than they were in the UK. We know a family who were building two houses, one to live in whilst they built their 'proper' home and whenever you asked them how the house was coming along, they'd ask 'big house or little house?'. I just wanted to slap them!
Do you think it's the Brits that are overly concerned with what everyone's got - how big it is and how much it cost? The Aussies we've met don't seem to give a rats a*se!
Sorry - bit of a rant tonight. I'm just sick of people's attitudes at the moment. Everyone seems to be prepared to take but no-one wants to give!
Jules x
(P.S. In no way, shape or form does any of the above relate to the lovely lot who came to our last BBQ Honest )
Since we've been here, we've made a huge effort to make friends and settle. However *most* of the expats we've befriended (or tried to befriend) have been really flakey - by this I mean they say they'll turn up for something, then ten minutes before it's due to start they phone with a feeble excuse to cancel.
People seemed more concerned with 'what they've got' than they were in the UK. We know a family who were building two houses, one to live in whilst they built their 'proper' home and whenever you asked them how the house was coming along, they'd ask 'big house or little house?'. I just wanted to slap them!
Do you think it's the Brits that are overly concerned with what everyone's got - how big it is and how much it cost? The Aussies we've met don't seem to give a rats a*se!
Sorry - bit of a rant tonight. I'm just sick of people's attitudes at the moment. Everyone seems to be prepared to take but no-one wants to give!
Jules x
(P.S. In no way, shape or form does any of the above relate to the lovely lot who came to our last BBQ
Honest )Ignore them and stick with real people.
Sep 12th 2007, 8:32 am
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Re: Do you find people 'flakey' here?
I don't bother with those that worried about what i've got...
then there were the ones who thought i should have loads of friends and they were going to be it!
shame they didnt ask first especially as they all belong to the 'i've got this gang' (funny that!) Found out that the people i class as friends i found myself!
