Devastated
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Devastated
I'm not really a religious person but could do with prayers or something at the moment....
Had a great visit with my husbands brother last Friday, in fact was probably the best visit we've had with him... very relaxed and we were worrying we'd have to delay our plans to fly around mid August out to Oz as we really believed he could still be here...
Had the call everyone dreads this morning to say that his body is shutting down and only has a few days left
Mr JenJen is gonna try and go into work this afternoon cause he'll prob need end of the week off.
Which leaves me to tell the kids later after school....
Gonna try and get them out of school early tomorrow or Wednesday so they can see him at least one last time...
I believe he'll soon be in a better place and free from all the pain and distress of the last few months but it doesn't help the fact that he'll be so very missed
Had a great visit with my husbands brother last Friday, in fact was probably the best visit we've had with him... very relaxed and we were worrying we'd have to delay our plans to fly around mid August out to Oz as we really believed he could still be here...
Had the call everyone dreads this morning to say that his body is shutting down and only has a few days left
Mr JenJen is gonna try and go into work this afternoon cause he'll prob need end of the week off.
Which leaves me to tell the kids later after school....
Gonna try and get them out of school early tomorrow or Wednesday so they can see him at least one last time...
I believe he'll soon be in a better place and free from all the pain and distress of the last few months but it doesn't help the fact that he'll be so very missed
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I'm so sorry to read this Jenjen, the only comfort is knowing you got to spend good time with him before the end
((hugs))
Tx
((hugs))
Tx
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I don't think you need prayers but then I'm a non believer. I think you have to remind yourselves again and again how he will no longer be suffering and how lucky you've been to have a great visit and actually spend quality time with him. Celebrate the life and celebrate the fact that you knew him and how many people have loved him.
Hope the end is peaceful.
Hope the end is peaceful.
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I don't believe either Moneypenny but we need something.
Having spoken through a medium to both my grandparents I know he'll still be around us but I've always hated goodbyes no matter form they take.
His little boy won't remember his daddy as he's only 20 months old that in itself is devastating as altho he could be a stubborn sod Mr JenJen's brother has been a real character and part of the heart of the family
Thank you for all your kind wishes
Having spoken through a medium to both my grandparents I know he'll still be around us but I've always hated goodbyes no matter form they take.
His little boy won't remember his daddy as he's only 20 months old that in itself is devastating as altho he could be a stubborn sod Mr JenJen's brother has been a real character and part of the heart of the family
Thank you for all your kind wishes
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I don't believe either Moneypenny but we need something.
Having spoken through a medium to both my grandparents I know he'll still be around us but I've always hated goodbyes no matter form they take.
His little boy won't remember his daddy as he's only 20 months old that in itself is devastating as altho he could be a stubborn sod Mr JenJen's brother has been a real character and part of the heart of the family
Thank you for all your kind wishes
Having spoken through a medium to both my grandparents I know he'll still be around us but I've always hated goodbyes no matter form they take.
His little boy won't remember his daddy as he's only 20 months old that in itself is devastating as altho he could be a stubborn sod Mr JenJen's brother has been a real character and part of the heart of the family
Thank you for all your kind wishes
shears
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Such as sad sad post. I am a nurse and have spent time with families when their loved ones have been in their final hours. I don't know if he is in hospital as I only have experience in this setting but I have often found that a calm comes over all involved and it can be made into a special time. I have had families return to the ward after their loved ones have passed away to thank staff for making a sad time a special one. Incase you don't know (excuse me if you do) hearing is the last sense to go so loving words will be heard even if he appears not to be conscious. My thoughts are with you, may he have peace and calm on his final journey.
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I'm not really a religious person but could do with prayers or something at the moment....
Had the call everyone dreads this morning to say that his body is shutting down and only has a few days left
Mr JenJen is gonna try and go into work this afternoon cause he'll prob need end of the week off.
I believe he'll soon be in a better place and free from all the pain and distress of the last few months but it doesn't help the fact that he'll be so very missed
Had the call everyone dreads this morning to say that his body is shutting down and only has a few days left
Mr JenJen is gonna try and go into work this afternoon cause he'll prob need end of the week off.
I believe he'll soon be in a better place and free from all the pain and distress of the last few months but it doesn't help the fact that he'll be so very missed
So sad Jen, my thoughts are with you xx
Such as sad sad post. I am a nurse and have spent time with families when their loved ones have been in their final hours. I don't know if he is in hospital as I only have experience in this setting but I have often found that a calm comes over all involved and it can be made into a special time. I have had families return to the ward after their loved ones have passed away to thank staff for making a sad time a special one. Incase you don't know (excuse me if you do) hearing is the last sense to go so loving words will be heard even if he appears not to be conscious. My thoughts are with you, may he have peace and calm on his final journey.
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so sad. our thoughts are with you Jen
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Very sad Jen. So sorry for everything your family are going through.
I hope the end is peaceful and dignified.
His little boy will have you guys to tell them what his Dad was like.
Hugs.
I hope the end is peaceful and dignified.
His little boy will have you guys to tell them what his Dad was like.
Hugs.
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Thinking of all of you Jen, I hope the end is peaceful and that you can take some solace in the fact that he's going to a much better place.
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Its important to still talk about him after he's gone - even (especially!) the stubborn soddery bits
My thoughts are with all of you x x x
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I'll be thinking of you and your family over the coming days. I hope you all find some peace.
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Oh Jen, I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. Our thoughts are with your whole family at this very difficult time.
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Oh that is so sad, my heart goes out to you all. Thinking of you at this very difficult time xxx