Am I losing my mind

Thank you. I have PM'd Sue.

I accept I have emotionally cheated. I just have to hope that because I have stopped before it went to the next level, that I haven't completely screwed up my marriage. All I can do at this stage is make sure I don't see him again, don't let anything happen, and work very hard on my marriage.

derbyflan

Exactly!

Now stop being a knob and go and act out your fantasies on your husband

RenShen

You can dress it up how you like, but you have already betrayed your husband. You are now in a situation where you have lost all dignity and any right to the moral high ground.

How you recover from this, I don't really know, but I suggest that you get your shit together, and quick. I find it quite repulsive that as well as betraying your husband with another man, you are also flaunting it on here behind his back. If there are problems within your marriage, you talk about them with your husband or wife.

You don't feather your nest elsewhere then present them with a done deal. Do unto others and all that................it means a lot.

I can never understand a man or woman who would take somebody's husband or wife. I mean, how could you ever ever relax? You have the dubious honor of living with a cheat and a liar who will drop you as soon as a whiff of something better comes along.

There you go, my opinion, for what its worth.

Dorothy

If the OP wants the thread closed they are welcome to ask. Threads are not closed simply because other posters think they should be.

stevenglish

I think the fact that the OP feels badly enough to spill her guts on here really should be enough to spare her the 'you've been unfaithful' stuff.

Clearly if she didn't value her marriage then she wouldn't have posted

Obviously it has to stop now, cut all ties and move on. But don't comdemn her to a life of guilt for getting to the brink and stopping.

kporte

Ask yourself if you truly love your husband and want to grow old with him. If not, end it. You only live once.
It will be very difficult to resist the temptation to take this affair further and all the time you are investing in this emotionally takes you further away from your husband and closer to this other man.

lonndongeek

You don't spill your guts on a public internet forum and get to choose who posts a response or what they say. If the OP 'felt bad', she wouldn't have gone where she did in the first place.

Also, I don't see what valuing her marriage has to do with posting on here? Surely she'd be trying to patch things up if that was the case? Given the moral high ground taken by most of the posters on this forum, I'd say there's bugger all chance of the OP getting a pat on the back for stopping after "a few little kisses".

hereandthere

Yes quite. This thread has the potential to become an interesting "generic" debate on affairs and so on. FWIW I think the OP is doing the right thing in going back to her husband, so long as the marriage really is happy, as she describes.

To those saying she shouldn't bring this up on a forum - then what are these things for? She has the capability on this forum to ask for advice, and she can do so anonymously. What is wrong with that?

moneypenny20

I see where you're coming from but I think those comments are a bit harsh but hey, they're your opinion so they're valid. I don't see it as flaunting, I see it as a cry for help to be honest, whilst knowing really what they have to do. Sounds like a horrible situation and one, thankfully, neither I nor you (presumably) have found ourselves in.

Am I losing my mind

Of course I feel bad! That's why I've stopped it before it goes any further! I feel bloody awful, as indeed I should.

As I said, it has stopped before it goes any further. It is not going to happen, and I am going to do whatever I can to work on my marriage.

ozzieeagle

We are all human..... EO.

stevenglish

I would advise the OP to get the thread closed now, it's set to become a bit of a circus already. Sorry you've not received a little more support.

Amazulu

Absolutely, but she has said she is going to end it - what's the point in continuing the thread? It's now just opinions and they mean shit all in this case.

Dorothy

The unsubscribe link is just below and to the left of the last post on any thread.

lonndongeek

If you don't like it, stop reading. I'm sure if you ask nicely, we can all go back to "Is Perth as boring as it's made out to be?" and "Will my rabbit work in Australia?".