Three years back today - still happy!
May 30th 2016, 7:14 am
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Re: Three years back today - still happy!
Hello my Phish Food loving friend ha ha! Yes nearly three years for you too isn't it? Most days I feel like I've never been away, I'm reallly happy and totally settled here now.
A good friend of mine was over from Oz recently and I met his new fiancée, she's a really lovely girl and we got on famously. They have invited me to their wedding in Qld next year and, I'm sorry to say, I have no intention of going. I am so happy for them as its a 'late in life' relationship but I just hate the thought of going back, it holds no appeal for me whatsoever.
Well I'll be looking out for your update in a few weeks then, great to hear from you x
A good friend of mine was over from Oz recently and I met his new fiancée, she's a really lovely girl and we got on famously. They have invited me to their wedding in Qld next year and, I'm sorry to say, I have no intention of going. I am so happy for them as its a 'late in life' relationship but I just hate the thought of going back, it holds no appeal for me whatsoever.
Well I'll be looking out for your update in a few weeks then, great to hear from you x
I was invited to a family wedding in Adelaide last year, unfortunately I couldn't attend because of health reasons, and the bride's father (my niece's husband) has since died from cancer. He was younger than me, a quiet but a true blue Aussie, it shows that we never know what life has in store.
May 30th 2016, 7:19 am
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Good to hear from you again, it's funny but I was only thinking we hadn't heard from you for a while about a month ago. Glad everything seems to be coming together for you and that you are getting over the toxic time you had in OZ.
May 30th 2016, 8:04 am
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Re: Three years back today - still happy!
Hello my Phish Food loving friend ha ha! Yes nearly three years for you too isn't it? Most days I feel like I've never been away, I'm reallly happy and totally settled here now.
A good friend of mine was over from Oz recently and I met his new fiancée, she's a really lovely girl and we got on famously. They have invited me to their wedding in Qld next year and, I'm sorry to say, I have no intention of going. I am so happy for them as its a 'late in life' relationship but I just hate the thought of going back, it holds no appeal for me whatsoever.
Well I'll be looking out for your update in a few weeks then, great to hear from you x
A good friend of mine was over from Oz recently and I met his new fiancée, she's a really lovely girl and we got on famously. They have invited me to their wedding in Qld next year and, I'm sorry to say, I have no intention of going. I am so happy for them as its a 'late in life' relationship but I just hate the thought of going back, it holds no appeal for me whatsoever.
Well I'll be looking out for your update in a few weeks then, great to hear from you x
I love the Ben & Jerry's Nutella core ice cream too now
As aries says....it may be an idea to attend the wedding as it will be a good memory of OZ for you, rather than a hurtful memory of toxic colleagues.
I am not adverse to visiting Canada again, in fact I am ready now and could probably quite enjoy a couple of weeks there. I had no issues of toxic colleagues like yourself, I just didn't feel at home and was bored of Nova Scotia. My hubby on the other hand is not ready to return as he didn't want to leave, he was happy there. Likewise we do not want to take my youngest back yet for fear it would set her back settling here.
KARMA is a bitch!
May 30th 2016, 9:43 am
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Re: Three years back today - still happy!
Great !
Glad it's all good.
I was wondering where you had got to. Thanks for the update.
You went through hell at a certain level in Aus.
Now you're back and despite riding the highs and lows you've got your life back.
Yeah, karma regarding the crappy company that 'let you go' when your Dad had cancer and only had a year left to live.
(There was a front page article in our local paper here in NZ that several posts in the local authority are being cut, with the name and job title of each person affected. (New Chief Executive started earlier this year, I guess that's what his brief was.) One of the posts affected, which is the personnel guy that has been on every interview panel regarding a job I was being interviewed for there, as is standard practice. His name is on the list, publicly named and 'shamed' well, effectively having your redundancy notice on the front page of the local paper, can't be great. Gee that's just to bad.) Yeah, karma.
Glad it's all good.
I was wondering where you had got to. Thanks for the update.
You went through hell at a certain level in Aus.
Now you're back and despite riding the highs and lows you've got your life back.
Yeah, karma regarding the crappy company that 'let you go' when your Dad had cancer and only had a year left to live.
(There was a front page article in our local paper here in NZ that several posts in the local authority are being cut, with the name and job title of each person affected. (New Chief Executive started earlier this year, I guess that's what his brief was.) One of the posts affected, which is the personnel guy that has been on every interview panel regarding a job I was being interviewed for there, as is standard practice. His name is on the list, publicly named and 'shamed' well, effectively having your redundancy notice on the front page of the local paper, can't be great. Gee that's just to bad.) Yeah, karma.
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May 30th 2016, 12:07 pm
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Re: Three years back today - still happy!
Hello M! Wow not long for you now, so pleased for you as I know it's been such a long process!
It's funny isn't how nasty people can be and for no reason, it seems so many people mistake kindness for weakness, they think they can treat you like crap and get away with it. That's why I love working with my elderly patients, they're so stoic, polite, grateful and generally just lovely - they have a wicked sense of humour too!!!! There will never be another generation like them - sadly!
Like I said before, even though it was an awful experience it made me quit that job and place and, like you, it's the best thing I could have done. I got to spend that last year with my Dad and now my life is pretty good while they're all still there, bitching, fighting and being evil to my replacement. I'm still in touch with Gay Boss and he tells me all the news, nothing's changed and I'm so glad to be away from all those toxic people!!!
Good luck with everything I'll be looking out for your news
It's funny isn't how nasty people can be and for no reason, it seems so many people mistake kindness for weakness, they think they can treat you like crap and get away with it. That's why I love working with my elderly patients, they're so stoic, polite, grateful and generally just lovely - they have a wicked sense of humour too!!!! There will never be another generation like them - sadly!
Like I said before, even though it was an awful experience it made me quit that job and place and, like you, it's the best thing I could have done. I got to spend that last year with my Dad and now my life is pretty good while they're all still there, bitching, fighting and being evil to my replacement. I'm still in touch with Gay Boss and he tells me all the news, nothing's changed and I'm so glad to be away from all those toxic people!!!
Good luck with everything I'll be looking out for your news
I have been volunteering with some older folk and I love them too. Of course, I am not far away from them age-wise, and OH is already there! I plan on continuing to do that in the UK. Am on all kinds of charity Twitter accounts for the elderly and following along with the good stuff they do over there. DD works a lot with the elderly in her job as a cvicu nurse. They are her favs too.
Getting excited about packing up and leaving. Would like to be out of here before election day
May 30th 2016, 5:04 pm
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I'm wondering if going back for the wedding will be something more pleasing to associate Oz with compared with your other experiences. I know what you went through and I don't blame you for being bitter, but your friends are different.
I was invited to a family wedding in Adelaide last year, unfortunately I couldn't attend because of health reasons, and the bride's father (my niece's husband) has since died from cancer. He was younger than me, a quiet but a true blue Aussie, it shows that we never know what life has in store.
I was invited to a family wedding in Adelaide last year, unfortunately I couldn't attend because of health reasons, and the bride's father (my niece's husband) has since died from cancer. He was younger than me, a quiet but a true blue Aussie, it shows that we never know what life has in store.
I did go back 5 months after I arrived in the UK for work and stayed on for a few weeks with friends in Qld but I didn't enjoy it. I'd just resent spending thousands of pounds of my hard earned money to go somewhere I don't like, I'd rather spend the money on a trip to Japan or something!
May 30th 2016, 5:05 pm
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May 30th 2016, 5:12 pm
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I love the Ben & Jerry's Nutella core ice cream too now
As aries says....it may be an idea to attend the wedding as it will be a good memory of OZ for you, rather than a hurtful memory of toxic colleagues.
I am not adverse to visiting Canada again, in fact I am ready now and could probably quite enjoy a couple of weeks there. I had no issues of toxic colleagues like yourself, I just didn't feel at home and was bored of Nova Scotia. My hubby on the other hand is not ready to return as he didn't want to leave, he was happy there. Likewise we do not want to take my youngest back yet for fear it would set her back settling here.
KARMA is a bitch!
As aries says....it may be an idea to attend the wedding as it will be a good memory of OZ for you, rather than a hurtful memory of toxic colleagues.
I am not adverse to visiting Canada again, in fact I am ready now and could probably quite enjoy a couple of weeks there. I had no issues of toxic colleagues like yourself, I just didn't feel at home and was bored of Nova Scotia. My hubby on the other hand is not ready to return as he didn't want to leave, he was happy there. Likewise we do not want to take my youngest back yet for fear it would set her back settling here.
KARMA is a bitch!
May 30th 2016, 5:19 pm
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Re: Three years back today - still happy!
Great !
Glad it's all good.
I was wondering where you had got to. Thanks for the update.
You went through hell at a certain level in Aus.
Now you're back and despite riding the highs and lows you've got your life back.
Yeah, karma regarding the crappy company that 'let you go' when your Dad had cancer and only had a year left to live.
(There was a front page article in our local paper here in NZ that several posts in the local authority are being cut, with the name and job title of each person affected. (New Chief Executive started earlier this year, I guess that's what his brief was.) One of the posts affected, which is the personnel guy that has been on every interview panel regarding a job I was being interviewed for there, as is standard practice. His name is on the list, publicly named and 'shamed' well, effectively having your redundancy notice on the front page of the local paper, can't be great. Gee that's just to bad.) Yeah, karma.
Glad it's all good.
I was wondering where you had got to. Thanks for the update.
You went through hell at a certain level in Aus.
Now you're back and despite riding the highs and lows you've got your life back.
Yeah, karma regarding the crappy company that 'let you go' when your Dad had cancer and only had a year left to live.
(There was a front page article in our local paper here in NZ that several posts in the local authority are being cut, with the name and job title of each person affected. (New Chief Executive started earlier this year, I guess that's what his brief was.) One of the posts affected, which is the personnel guy that has been on every interview panel regarding a job I was being interviewed for there, as is standard practice. His name is on the list, publicly named and 'shamed' well, effectively having your redundancy notice on the front page of the local paper, can't be great. Gee that's just to bad.) Yeah, karma.
I'm not a vindictive person but it's nice to see them and that guy you mentioned get their comeuppance - faith in the universe restored
Yes all good here now, quite settled, just finished work for the week not back in til Sunday now so this week am going dog walking, lunching and reading my latest library book. Might even go to the pics this week, 'Me Before You' is out, I may go alone with my hanky as I know I will blubber - the book was a real tear jerker lol!!! Plus I've got a night out Fri dancing, it's been a while but I'll give it a go!
Great to hear from you hope all is well with you and your hubby
May 30th 2016, 5:25 pm
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Re: Three years back today - still happy!
I am still in touch with a few of my old work mates. One tells me that the atmosphere is toxic for her to. She needs to work until December and then she starts work as a teacher. She can't wait to get out of there. Makes you wonder how Gay Boss has stuck it out this long. Anyway, it seems that my health was taking a hit being there, so now I am in much better shape - and I have recovered my sanity, haha!
I have been volunteering with some older folk and I love them too. Of course, I am not far away from them age-wise, and OH is already there! I plan on continuing to do that in the UK. Am on all kinds of charity Twitter accounts for the elderly and following along with the good stuff they do over there. DD works a lot with the elderly in her job as a cvicu nurse. They are her favs too.
Getting excited about packing up and leaving. Would like to be out of here before election day
I have been volunteering with some older folk and I love them too. Of course, I am not far away from them age-wise, and OH is already there! I plan on continuing to do that in the UK. Am on all kinds of charity Twitter accounts for the elderly and following along with the good stuff they do over there. DD works a lot with the elderly in her job as a cvicu nurse. They are her favs too.
Getting excited about packing up and leaving. Would like to be out of here before election day
Gay Boss never gets any hassle, he's been in the job 30 years, has loads of friends in high places and he's a senior officer. I lost my rank and some of my advanced skills when I went to Oz even though I've got 20 years in, I didn't mind but it made me an easier target than him.
Yes things are easier now, I like being part time, I've taken a drop in money but I don't 'spend it like Beckham' now because I'm happy and don't need to comfort shop. I've learnt to save up for things and manage my money better, the alternative would be to go back to work full time but there no way I'd want to do that unless I had no choice whatsoever!
May 31st 2016, 11:12 am
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Ooh yes Election Day - best off out of there me thinks!
Gay Boss never gets any hassle, he's been in the job 30 years, has loads of friends in high places and he's a senior officer. I lost my rank and some of my advanced skills when I went to Oz even though I've got 20 years in, I didn't mind but it made me an easier target than him.
Yes things are easier now, I like being part time, I've taken a drop in money but I don't 'spend it like Beckham' now because I'm happy and don't need to comfort shop. I've learnt to save up for things and manage my money better, the alternative would be to go back to work full time but there no way I'd want to do that unless I had no choice whatsoever!
Gay Boss never gets any hassle, he's been in the job 30 years, has loads of friends in high places and he's a senior officer. I lost my rank and some of my advanced skills when I went to Oz even though I've got 20 years in, I didn't mind but it made me an easier target than him.
Yes things are easier now, I like being part time, I've taken a drop in money but I don't 'spend it like Beckham' now because I'm happy and don't need to comfort shop. I've learnt to save up for things and manage my money better, the alternative would be to go back to work full time but there no way I'd want to do that unless I had no choice whatsoever!
May 31st 2016, 1:57 pm
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Nutella ice cream?!!!! Sign me up lol! I see what your saying but, like I said to Aries, I wouldn't mind going back to Perth to see my friends and family I just don't want to go back to Qld ever again. I just have no interest in going back to that particular part of Oz and I'd resent spending thousands of pounds that I'd rather spend on something I really want to do. I only work part time so I have to be very careful with my money. I could earn a lot more but tbh my time is far more precious to me these days, a trip to Perth might be on the cards next year - never say never!
