surfdude

I'm know she has more important aspects to her life but i'm getting increasingly concerned that we haven't heard from her in a long time. I know she can't log on at work anymore - anyone heard from her ?

Hope she and BM are OK.

SD.

mlbonner

I thought she posted about a week or so a go... will have a look....

... Okay, looked like it was about a month ago (time flies hey). Maybe Simone or someone may have some more info??

Simone

Nope

Tired with Twins heard from her last as far as I can tell, and she was going to Jersey for her mum's birthday, but that was already a few weeks ago too....

Bix

Her life has been rather busy lately but she will be back with us soon.

DIMO8

Dont believe a word he is saying....Grayling and Bix have kidnapped her

moneypenny20

Now that's a scary thought. As if she hasn't got enough on her plate already.

If anyone speaks to her, please pass on best wishes.

Pollyana

Won't be speaking, but I do have an email address, and will pass on best wishes - think she has a bit on her plate right now, you're right.

Bix

It's really okay.
I look after my pride....as long as they feed me

tiredwithtwins

I had an email from her yesterday and shes fine. she cant log on at work now, so cant get online.
as others have said she does have rather a lot on her plate at the moment......but bundymum is doing very well! what a marvellous woman she is!

Sue

Grayling

Sue

Send her all our best wishes if you talk to her again

G

tiredwithtwins

shall do G

ub40fan

Glad to hear Bundy and her mum are both doing ok, I am sure there are a lot of us out here worrying about her.

Thanks for letting us know Sue

Shirley

surfdude

Thanks for the update, please pass on our best wishes and let her know we are thinking about her.

SD.

bundy

Hello everyone,

Look at me! Logged on at work! Maybe the exile is over….

Thanks for your concern guys, and sorry for having disappeared for so long. The firewall was one thing, but as others have said, things have been a little hectic of late and to be honest, the forum has been rather a long way down my list of priorities.

So, where to start? With BundyMum first. She's ok, but not great. She's halfway through her chemo now, still has all her hair and hasn't lost any weight (about which she whinges!), but the third dose has knocked her for six. She had a DVT which was a bit scary, and ulcer that won't heal and then an infection that put her in hospital in isolation (amusing pictures of BundyFamily in gowns and purple gloves to follow). She is back home now, but not feeling her best. We were all out there for her birthday a couple of weeks ago, just before she was admitted to hosp, and she was pretty cheerful about having seen another year go past. We'll know where we are in a couple of months when she finishes her chemo, but for now she continues to battle on, smiling as she goes.

And on to the rest of my life….it's been, erm, a little bit strange, these last few months. Sadl, but somewhat inevitably, Mr B and I have split up. The trials of the last year, heaped on top of various niggles from way before, have proved too much and there was no answer but for things to end. After 5 years it is pretty sad, but we were both miserable and despite our best efforts for nearly a year, couldn't put right the things that had gone wrong. It was my decision, so I'm ok with it, but Mr B is less so. Things got a little out of control for a while, hence copious amounts of time off work and a stint staying with friends, and we're not much closer to the whole 'amicable' thing, but we'll get there and both move on. Just think it's happening a little quicker for me than for him and he's having trouble accepting and adjusting. Hence my going AWOL from the forum - since I will no longer be going to Australia, I've not really felt the inclination to spend all day on the Aussie forum.

As if all this wasn't enough, I've now been told that my job is being changed in dramatic fashion, but without any hope of redundancy, leaving me little choice but to resign. The letter is written and was to be handed in this week, but various serious internal wranglings mean that I'm waiting a week or so. There is no future for me here and I'm not that enamoured with my job that I want to cling onto it through thick and thin! So the aim is to leave before the Summer Schools (and don't tell anyone, it's all a big secret at the moment).

All this means that I'm working to the theory that if I'm going to change one thing in my life, I may as well change them all. So I'm going to leave Cambridge and head north where I have good friends. I'm looking for work with Leeds Uni and have a couple of options. I'm leaving behind all the unhappy bits of the last couple of years and looking ahead to a better future with me towards the centre of it rather than somewhere out on the edge. I'm re-establishing old friendships that have suffered in the light of ever-about-to-emigrate focus. The people in my life are proving to be worth way more than their weight in gold and I'm suddenly very positive about my future, excited about where things will lead. It's not easy letting go of a lot of dreams, but it's a relief to do so when those dreams aren't fitting any more. New dreams, new direction, new life. New Bundy. It's not all bad!

I'll still be around on the forum, still be giving you BM updates, but forgive me if I don't dwell on the Aussie forum too much. Bit raw, for now, at least. Some of you knew about all this and I'm really grateful for the support and words of wisdom you offered (you know who you are).

That's all for now. Bundy's chin is bruised but firmly pointing upwards! And remembering the wise words of my younger brother - sh*t happens, but it doesn't need to stick. Tis my motto these days.

Bye for now!

Bundy

Brissiegirl

sorry about your news Bundy. Take care.. do you what you say, put yourself in the middle for a change.

B.