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Old Jun 29th 2005, 5:21 pm
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Have got two kids (boy, 11 and girl, 7). Haven't told them anything yet as we're not likely to reach Oz until early 2006. However, does anyone have some advice as to how, when to tell them that this is the long term plan??? (and to make this seem as attractive as poss?)

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Originally Posted by Jim&Sus
Hey,

Have got two kids (boy, 11 and girl, 7). Haven't told them anything yet as we're not likely to reach Oz until early 2006. However, does anyone have some advice as to how, when to tell them that this is the long term plan??? (and to make this seem as attractive as poss?)

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Just tell them.....We have two girls at 11 and a boy aged 8. They were ecstatic when we told them of our plans and they are now asking us how long till we go.. It makes a refreshing change from.....

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Default Re: When do we tell the kids we're moving??

Originally Posted by Jim&Sus
Hey,

Have got two kids (boy, 11 and girl, 7). Haven't told them anything yet as we're not likely to reach Oz until early 2006. However, does anyone have some advice as to how, when to tell them that this is the long term plan??? (and to make this seem as attractive as poss?)

Sus
Write to them & tell them once you get to Aus Susan.
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tell them tell them tell them!!! children are funny critters and mum and dad keeping something from them???!!! a big no no, either they will be very excited or they will have time to adjust. how can you keep it secret? it would be impossible for us!! australia is talked abour daily in our house!! we are planning on early next yr but it is dominating our lives so much, what with application etc etc.
goodluck and let us know what you are going to do

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i advocate telling children early on. mine have known for an age despite the fact it may not be until next year and they are 9 and 10.

it gives them time to digest the information i think and whilst mine say that they don't want to go they have independantly sort out books from the school libruary or actively watched programmes on oz. i think it helps then to adjust to the idea and the more time the better.
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Default Re: When do we tell the kids we're moving??

Originally Posted by Jim&Sus
Hey,

Have got two kids (boy, 11 and girl, 7). Haven't told them anything yet as we're not likely to reach Oz until early 2006. However, does anyone have some advice as to how, when to tell them that this is the long term plan??? (and to make this seem as attractive as poss?)

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Hi Sus,

We are in the same situation - we haven't told our kids (ages 8 and 3) yet as we don't want to get them too excited/anxious about the whole thing until we know we have the visa and have a concrete plan for when we will be moving.

The other thing that worries us is that our oldest daughter (8) has a few very close friends in our neighborhood and we are worried about how she will take the news that we will be moving away from them. We've taken the kids to Australia (back in 2003), and they loved it, but it's one thing to go there for a month on vacation and another to move permanently.

Sorry I can't be of any more help, but I can certainly sympathize with your situation. I'm hoping that like lots of people on here my kids have a favorable reaction to the move when we tell them as I think it would make the move much harder if they are not excited about it!

Cheers,
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Write to them & tell them once you get to Aus Susan.
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Default Re: When do we tell the kids we're moving??

Originally Posted by Jim&Sus
Hey,

Have got two kids (boy, 11 and girl, 7). Haven't told them anything yet as we're not likely to reach Oz until early 2006. However, does anyone have some advice as to how, when to tell them that this is the long term plan??? (and to make this seem as attractive as poss?)

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Hi,
It's a good question! I think a lot depends on your children's personality, you know how they react to things. We included ours ,( 5 and 8) when the process began, taking them there on a trip to experience it first ( that was for me too). Once we were home and the novelty had worn off, we had a family meeting and put the idea to them, yes was the answer.

Since then we have kept them updated and they kept it quiet until we said they could tell people.

Our 9 year old is beside herself with excitement, the 6 year old is a bit more reserved, but knows what it means.

They finish school today and are excited as they are having parties in class, getting shirts signed and photo's taken so they feel very important.

Keep them informed, even if you play things down a bit. You know them best at the end of the day, what works for one of us may not for another.

Good luck and I'm sure they will be really excited and start making plans about things like a pool, trampoline, and colour of their rooms, mine have!

Best wishes
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Write to them & tell them once you get to Aus Susan.
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Our 7 year old son has ADHD and we debated whether or not to tell him because of his behaviour when changes occur and let's face it this is a biggy. However, we decided that because it was dominating our lives so much that we couldn't keep it from him and our 12 year old daughter. They both surprised us by being pretty darn excited. Our 7 year old has needed a lot of time to digest the magnitude of the change and asks a lot of questions and we hope with each one answered he is gaining more confidence about leaving. It also means that the children get time to spend quality time with friends and family making the most of the time they have with them.
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Hiya,

We are in a similar situation to you, probably be in Oz early 2006 (hopefully) . Our children are 11 and 2 and we have put off telling them until now.

We are thinking of telling them on Saturday, but my hubby has two children from previous, which we see every week, but relationship is non-existant with their mother . So we have to tell them all together, but are unsure whether to tell the ex first! She's gonna freak out no matter what, - enter solicitor me thinks (again) .

We have put off telling the kids until now, as we did not want them to be disappointed if we failed TRA and it would take much longer for us to get there!

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We told our daughter right from the start. We have talked about it for so long now there is no doubting it. It is just a fact that it is going to happen like it going dark every night.
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Great thread as my wife and I were debating recently when to tell the kids. We have a difference of opinion. (not the first time) I am the one applying for the visa (skills assessment currently with ACS) coupled with the fact that I am a very cautious person I want to tell the kids when I am absolutely sure we are going. My wife wants so to tell them once the skills assessment comes back.
Problem is my argument falls flat as I will probably not really believe it until I am at the airport.
(My kids are both six)

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Originally Posted by Jim&Sus
Hey,

Have got two kids (boy, 11 and girl, 7). Haven't told them anything yet as we're not likely to reach Oz until early 2006. However, does anyone have some advice as to how, when to tell them that this is the long term plan??? (and to make this seem as attractive as poss?)

Sus
You tell them right from the beginning...involve them in everything....gives them plenty of time to ask all the questions........it is their life too after all, so they should have a say in it!!!!!!
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