Telling parents your leaving
#1
Telling parents your leaving
poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.
#2
Re: Telling parents your leaving
poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.
We have told my sister in law and she's said she won't come and visit because she doesn't like spiders
Oh well - we're going anyway
#3
Re: Telling parents your leaving
Hopefully after the initial shock they will see the reasons behind it. How close are you leaving it before telling them?
#4
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Hi there, it is horrible having to tell family that you are leaving to go to the other side of the world, we told my mum just a wee while ago we were officially going (she knew we were thinking about and had been on holiday) but she took it really badly saying we were making a huge mistake and she wouldnt come and visit - the usual guilt trip stuff, however I think she is accepting it now also our house is now in the market. Now I wish I had told her earlier as she has handled it better than expected (believe me we were expecting major arguments), when we told her we were thinking about it she had a massive sulk, fell out with us, her boyfriend and my brother so this is actually okay. As for hubbies family they have been grand, we never see them anyway and they are happy for us. Hope you wifes siblings are alot more supportive. Good luck when you go anyway.
Clairex
Clairex
#5
Re: Telling parents your leaving
poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.
Richard
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I am really wooried about telling my in-laws (my family all know and, to my face, are fine about it). MIL is very sensitive and takes everything to heart. She also tends to take things very personally . It was always going to be difficult to tell her and FIL (who will also be very upset) as my husband and his parents are very close and we have the only, much longed-for, granddaughter but in December their other son died (there is a daughter too).
How on earth do we tell them that, having lost a son in December the other one is going to move to the other side of the planet, taking their granddaughter (and me!) with them?
How on earth do we tell them that, having lost a son in December the other one is going to move to the other side of the planet, taking their granddaughter (and me!) with them?
#8
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Re: Telling parents your leaving
I am really wooried about telling my in-laws (my family all know and, to my face, are fine about it). MIL is very sensitive and takes everything to heart. She also tends to take things very personally . It was always going to be difficult to tell her and FIL (who will also be very upset) as my husband and his parents are very close and we have the only, much longed-for, granddaughter but in December their other son died (there is a daughter too).
How on earth do we tell them that, having lost a son in December the other one is going to move to the other side of the planet, taking their granddaughter (and me!) with them?
How on earth do we tell them that, having lost a son in December the other one is going to move to the other side of the planet, taking their granddaughter (and me!) with them?
Good luck
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Re: Telling parents your leaving
[QUOTE=Malcs66;4389910]poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.[/QUOTE
My parents were at first a bit upset but they have come round, the OH folks were totally fine. With technology todayI think it is much easier i.e webcams, e.mail etc etc.......
My parents were at first a bit upset but they have come round, the OH folks were totally fine. With technology todayI think it is much easier i.e webcams, e.mail etc etc.......
#10
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Joined: Jan 2007
Location: Ashingdon, Essex
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Re: Telling parents your leaving
My inlaws are fine about us going, infact when our son joked he'd changed his mind MIL moaned we still had to go as she was looking forward to the holiday!! Haven't really talked to my folks about it but figured i barely see my mum now so it won't matter if we're half way round the world. My brother in law has said he wishes us all the best and admits he'd love to go but my sister won't leave my mum.
The way i look at it is "you only get one life so grab it by the balls and enjoy, life is not a dress rehersal".
Good luck x
The way i look at it is "you only get one life so grab it by the balls and enjoy, life is not a dress rehersal".
Good luck x
#11
Re: Telling parents your leaving
poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.
she is not alone. I told my parents back in August that my hubby had been offered a job in canada and that we were going to go. To say that she went ballistic is a bit of an understatement
Here I am in Feb with my hubby in Canada waiting to start his job tomorrow and she still cant talk about it and all i get is sarcastic replies to everything I say about our new life - so your wife could be in for a great time with her parents. Hubby flew out last sunday and she still hasnt asked if he got there safely !!!!!
Good luck and dont let anyone spoil your dreams as peeps are doing to mine.
Gayx
#12
Re: Telling parents your leaving
I am really wooried about telling my in-laws (my family all know and, to my face, are fine about it). MIL is very sensitive and takes everything to heart. She also tends to take things very personally . It was always going to be difficult to tell her and FIL (who will also be very upset) as my husband and his parents are very close and we have the only, much longed-for, granddaughter but in December their other son died (there is a daughter too).
How on earth do we tell them that, having lost a son in December the other one is going to move to the other side of the planet, taking their granddaughter (and me!) with them?
How on earth do we tell them that, having lost a son in December the other one is going to move to the other side of the planet, taking their granddaughter (and me!) with them?
#13
Re: Telling parents your leaving
poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.
#14
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Looking at some of the parents' reactions described here, it's probably a good thing that people are getting away from such negative controlling influences in their lives.
My parents have always been of the "it's your life, make of it what you will" attitute - for which, seeing how different it is for other people, I will always be grateful.
Sure, they were sad when I moved to oz (where their first grandchild was born), but they understand and respect my own decisions.
Good luck.
Big.
My parents have always been of the "it's your life, make of it what you will" attitute - for which, seeing how different it is for other people, I will always be grateful.
Sure, they were sad when I moved to oz (where their first grandchild was born), but they understand and respect my own decisions.
Good luck.
Big.
#15
Re: Telling parents your leaving
poor wife!! had the wonderful job of telling her parents of our plans to move yesterday. Dads reply "no your not". Mothers reply "not discussing it, don't want to know" so that went down well...... just her brothers and sister to tell now. Mine died a few years back so i've got it easy.
mine all chipped in for my ticket