Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Jan 20th 2006, 7:51 pm
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Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Hi for those of you that have been lucky enough to escape my posts I will be brief, went to oz sept 2004, came back may 2005 planning to go again end of this yr start of next.
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
Jan 20th 2006, 8:23 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
i personally would do it sooner this way if the family fall out with youit will give them time to get used to the idea and come round to your way of thinking and understand why your doing it
if you leave it too late on they may think your just dumping it on them then doing one
good luck whatever you do
jan xx
if you leave it too late on they may think your just dumping it on them then doing one
good luck whatever you do
jan xx
Jan 20th 2006, 9:04 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Originally Posted by robos
i personally would do it sooner this way if the family fall out with youit will give them time to get used to the idea and come round to your way of thinking and understand why your doing it
if you leave it too late on they may think your just dumping it on them then doing one
good luck whatever you do
jan xx
if you leave it too late on they may think your just dumping it on them then doing one
good luck whatever you do
jan xx
I think there should be a new sub forum on here for all those grandparents left behind
They could all get together and swap photos and groans. BTW - anyone notice how they only ever talk about missing their grandkids - not us!!!!!Good luck with it.
Jan 20th 2006, 9:40 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Originally Posted by fishface
Hi for those of you that have been lucky enough to escape my posts I will be brief, went to oz sept 2004, came back may 2005 planning to go again end of this yr start of next.
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
I would tell them sooner rather than later so they can get all their upset and possibly anger out of their system well before you go. This way you might have better contact with them when you are in Auatralia. I say this because as we came on a student visa it was a quick process and some people (not family) that I am extremely close to were so upset that we did not have much contact when we moved. We had not had time to talk things through before we left and it is only after going back this Christmas and having the time to talk things through that our relationship is back to where it was. The people in question could not come to terms with us leaving but maybe they would have if they had had more time to get used to the idea.
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Jan 21st 2006, 12:58 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Originally Posted by fishface
Hi for those of you that have been lucky enough to escape my posts I will be brief, went to oz sept 2004, came back may 2005 planning to go again end of this yr start of next.
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
)The same dreading to talk to my mum again ...The same can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are closed and she can't try to convince me not to go
.Just to let you know that you are not alone
Jan 21st 2006, 1:11 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Originally Posted by fishface
Hi for those of you that have been lucky enough to escape my posts I will be brief, went to oz sept 2004, came back may 2005 planning to go again end of this yr start of next.
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
Will be good to keep in touch with you on this one! Keep me updated, and good luck
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Jan 21st 2006, 3:20 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Originally Posted by fishface
Hi for those of you that have been lucky enough to escape my posts I will be brief, went to oz sept 2004, came back may 2005 planning to go again end of this yr start of next.
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
Hi FF
Good luck I think tell them sooner rather than later. Gives them time to get used to it ..again..!!!
All the best
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Jan 21st 2006, 6:11 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Good luck ! It's an awfull thing but you have to do it,my mil in still so upset and we only told we're going for a holiday!Other posts on here have said it all before really but you have to live your lifes,I found out today i guy who I know has just died,aged 45,non smoker but got the big c,was thought to be over it but got him in the end! this is not a dress rehearsal,so please go live your lifes and be happy that your happy and have the chance to do it.
Wish you nothing but good luck!
Wish you nothing but good luck!
Jan 21st 2006, 6:57 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
We have all just come back from Spain to say a sad goodbye to family my parents mum and dad who we see twice a year and my other half auntie and uncle they all took it bad but at the end of the day we only c them once or twice a year.......then come back to england were mom inlaw idllisses the grand children and my name is muck........taking her daughter and grand children away from her but at the end of the day its about our children havin a better life than living in England...i have offerd to pay for all to travell and see us.......please not evrey one at the same time.its about US the life we want to give HELLO..........
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Jan 21st 2006, 7:28 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Originally Posted by geary11
We have all just come back from Spain to say a sad goodbye to family my parents mum and dad who we see twice a year and my other half auntie and uncle they all took it bad but at the end of the day we only c them once or twice a year.......then come back to england were mom inlaw idllisses the grand children and my name is muck........taking her daughter and grand children away from her but at the end of the day its about our children havin a better life than living in England...i have offerd to pay for all to travell and see us.......please not evrey one at the same time.its about US the life we want to give HELLO..........
Geary and family
Geary and family
Jan 22nd 2006, 5:49 pm
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Hi there
Think you should tell them now. We were in same position although we went in 1997 and came back 3 months later. It has taken us this long to realise that we made a mistake and to get the courage up to do it again. We have had to start from scratch again with the whole immigrating process but it is what we want to do. My parents extremely upset, not because we are going but for the grandchildren. Tell them now so they can grieve bit strong but I know that is how my family feels, sis didn't speak to me for 2 weeks!
Take a deep breath and go for it. All the best.
Sandra
Think you should tell them now. We were in same position although we went in 1997 and came back 3 months later. It has taken us this long to realise that we made a mistake and to get the courage up to do it again. We have had to start from scratch again with the whole immigrating process but it is what we want to do. My parents extremely upset, not because we are going but for the grandchildren. Tell them now so they can grieve bit strong but I know that is how my family feels, sis didn't speak to me for 2 weeks!
Take a deep breath and go for it. All the best.
Sandra
Originally Posted by fishface
Hi for those of you that have been lucky enough to escape my posts I will be brief, went to oz sept 2004, came back may 2005 planning to go again end of this yr start of next.
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
DREADING telling family, they think we are back for good, "Got it out our systems!!". However we plan to go and stay for good but how do you tell family again :scared:
Just been chatting to mum on the phone, shes reading out a letter from a friend singing praises of how great it is that we are back again and she can see the grandchildren again. Feel awful, dreading telling her, but can't not go either. Real bummer. Can't decide if sooner is better than later, or to wait until plans are more finalised. Any advice would be gratefully received
Feb 8th 2006, 8:54 am
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Re: Telling family.....Again!!!- help!!
Thanks for all your advice everyone. I know you are right and we should do it now but I cannot bring myself yet! The earliest hubby will get into police is Jan next yr now, so it seems a long way off. Sleep deprivation is common now! Good luck to everyone and keep smiling (at least on the outside!!)
