shirlw

We are in possesion of our very sparkly much sought after PR Visa however it currently feels like a carrot dangling in front of my nose.

Unable to sell up our business and property after trying for 2 years I am becoming impatient.Has anyone been in the position where you have just said screw it let's do it and make the move anyway?The idea would be for us to go to Aus together me,OH and kids and validate in December.I am the main visa applicant and as mum too I would stay behind with the kids while OH went back to S.Africa in our case to carry on and try to sell up(unless a miracle happens before December)!

Not ideal but kids are getting older and need to be more settled in school 15,13 (littly 6) as the longer we stay here the more subject choices need to be made especially for the older one.I could get part-time work nursing if need be after a few months of getting everything settled.Hubby would visit after say 6 months or possibly by then we could be together for good!We do have a bit of leeway with NOT HAVING to work immediately but it could'nt be a permanent thing to be jobless!

Anyone split their family in desparation to get out of a status quo situation ?

joydot

we used to live long term in 2 countries a while back - exhausting never again awful. we did it for 6 mos coming from london and looks like we will leaving nz. not ideal but you'd be amazed how quickly the first 6 months go, you hardly notice. mind, we had some pretty amazing communications bills. its the money really, much easier to weather the addit excitement and trauma of the first 6 months if you arent scratching around for pennies. also good to have friendly back-up on the ground when you arrive or shortly thereafter, even if its paid (like an au pair). 2 years is a long time to be in limbo ... limbo is worse.

CosmicBertie

I'm currently in the middle of this. My wife + 2 youngest are over in Oz., whilst im back in Blighty with the eldest. My wife is working (had a job offer before we left) and my M/FIL are looking after them all.

I found it to be very tough for the first couple of weeks. I miss my wife and kids very much, but staying focussed is the key. I'm on with decorating the house whilst the eldest is studying for her exams. It will have been 4 weeks this Friday that we've been apart, but we talk/text everyday; working for a mobile telecoms provider helps here

It'll all come good. Around July time we'll be back in Oz for good, then it'll be happy days!

shirlw

Thanks Bertie and joydot for your responses,I guess like anything in life if you work hard enough at it you can succeed.........even if it does seem like a long way around at the time

CosmicBertie

It seems like forever at first (and to be honest, it still does). I've been tasked with sorting out everything in the house, so at times, its a bit like going through possessions when someones died (odd thought, eh?).

You just have to keep telling yourself that its all for the greater good, and it'll all be worthwhile.

I've just put my motorbike up on eBay.....now THATS distressing.

For. The. Greater. Good.

joydot

maybe think of the process as childbirth without the drugs. you have 6 contractions 1 month apart, then one morning you wake up to sunshine and the child is beside you in bed smiling, cooing with generous tax credit docs draped round its neck ...

if you negotiate well the tax credits can be used to buy new harley

shirlw

Bermudashorts

My family is just me and OH. We are going over to validate next month, but I am contracting at moment and due to finish this contract before we go. Am talking to the company about another but they are being very slow, so ... we are thinking if I am between contracts we have nothing to lose by me staying on a few months and taking a look arouind job market.

Husband will come back and he even has resigned his old job but has a new and really good UK job lined up. However if I find something goodin Sydney he will pack up house and cats and come over. Could be up to 6 months apart, but we are not brave enough to just take the plunge so this works for us.

CosmicBertie

Child birth sounds like a doddle. But then again, I would say that, being a man and all (so they tell me!).

I'm liking the idea of a new bike though...

JAJ

A business may lose value rapidly once you no longer run it. Is your pricing strategy over-optimistic?

discobay

Not exactly your situation but I have a work colleague who left Cape Town before selling his property because it was taking so long. It sold (eventually) but he has no regrets about leaving when he did. Job offers don't wait for you (unless you're a specialist) and if you feel that it's time to leave then it must be right.