Originally Posted by bluekipper (Post 6201017)

makes you wish you`d never have gone in the 1st place---ignorance is bliss!!!;)

Bluekipper

Originally Posted by ausi dream (Post 6200793)

Hi trejon, same here we went to Brisbane and going back third time, lasted a week first time and eight months second. Have just secured a job to be able to go back before visas run out but now every thing looks set for us i my self do not know whether to go.
I feel different this time where as the last two times i went with the flow and thought no matter what i will make it work, seem to be worrying a lot more and being unsure about every thing, perhaps its because i know this is our last chance before visas run out to make it work.
The children are a lot older now than the first time we went and leaving home stage and eldest says he wont go so i suppose that contributes towards feeling uneasy about things.
The webcams are a good idea, but for me i think it would probably make the missing home worse as seeing them on there would make me want to come back knowing i was missing that time with them.

We all assume that our story and trials and tribulations that we experience are uniique. Well they aren't are they cos there are so many stories out there that could have been written by us and all the things that we go through have been happening to others as well. There is NO right or wrong way to handle what we all have to handle when moving to another country far away and leaving our families and friends.

All we can do is share our experiences with others and offer any help along the way that we can. In my experience, the hurt from the guilty feelings that we get, do get less as we get older. You have to focus on whats best for your particular circumstances.

When people back in the UK (when we were back there) used to ask me about what it was like in Australia, I used to tell them that if they were happy with their lives as they were, don't think about what its like elsewhere, just get on with life and enjoy it. If they weren't happy with their lives as it is, then get off their bums and go and try somewhere else. It's a big world out their waiting to be explored and if you don't do anything about it you will be just another one of the millions that say "I wish I would have done that when I were young enough"

Originally Posted by bluekipper (Post 6201368)

Originally Posted by pompeyblonde (Post 6204338)

a restless spirit is what Im left with!

Originally Posted by cooksdownunder (Post 6204864)

Glad I stumbled across this thread this morning, we have just made the decision to return to Australia having only come back from there last September. I am not a regular on this site but have sent the odd supportive post to others, never thought I'd be posting about my own situation. My husband said he knew within a couple of hours of landing here in the UK that Australia was where he wanted to be even though he really struggled to settle over there. It has been a very difficult time trying to decide what is for the best but for us our quality of life in Australia was better even though we could not see it, we spent too much comparing our old life in the UK to where we were in Australia, big mistake. My heart goes out to everyone in this situation it is really tough. It is so hard to explain how you feel, friends here don't understand. It has been good for me to see that I am not going mad and there are other people who understand how this all feels. We are half way through the purchase of a lovely house, I feel really bad letting the Seller down and I feel like a spoilt brat not being satisfied when others are struggling. We have thought of going through with the purchase and renting the house out but as someone else said on here that would make it too easy to come back again and I really need to settle but want us both to be happy plus have rented out houses before and had problems. Anyhow good luck to everyone and thanks for posting I don't feel so alone in this now.

Originally Posted by cooksdownunder (Post 6204864)

Glad I stumbled across this thread this morning, we have just made the decision to return to Australia having only come back from there last September. I am not a regular on this site but have sent the odd supportive post to others, never thought I'd be posting about my own situation. My husband said he knew within a couple of hours of landing here in the UK that Australia was where he wanted to be even though he really struggled to settle over there. It has been a very difficult time trying to decide what is for the best but for us our quality of life in Australia was better even though we could not see it, we spent too much comparing our old life in the UK to where we were in Australia, big mistake. My heart goes out to everyone in this situation it is really tough. It is so hard to explain how you feel, friends here don't understand. It has been good for me to see that I am not going mad and there are other people who understand how this all feels. We are half way through the purchase of a lovely house, I feel really bad letting the Seller down and I feel like a spoilt brat not being satisfied when others are struggling. We have thought of going through with the purchase and renting the house out but as someone else said on here that would make it too easy to come back again and I really need to settle but want us both to be happy plus have rented out houses before and had problems. Anyhow good luck to everyone and thanks for posting I don't feel so alone in this now.

Originally Posted by ausi dream (Post 6205607)

Hi just wanted to ask what problems did you have renting your house out, as this will be third time going back to aus and both times we sold house to move but this time my OH wants to rent and i don't. But it looks like we are going to have to rent just for the security of settling there.
I have heard of all sorts of problems about renting, is it really that bad?:unsure: