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We need help , we left oz two years ago after obtaing PR, to come back to UK to sell our house, which we did quite quickly. But we are still in the UK in a rented house, we can not decide if we want to return to OZ (I did have a job to go to but had to turn it down when we could not decide what to do).
The weather here is crap!! what happened to the british summer???? Sould we give OZ another go our lives feel like they are on hold, not settled her but not sure if we sould go back.:confused:

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Do a search for pingpongs. There are stacks of people both here and there who have done it or doing it. It's a tough one to advise on because obviously everyone is different. If you still have that itch and can afford to scratch it then go for it, if you're happy and settled and it's only the weather bothering you then don't.

Sorry not very helpful. Do do a search though, may make things clearer.

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We left Oz after 5 years and have been back for 3. We are headed back on 3rd Nov. More nervous this time as now have 2 school age kids to think about.
Indeed, as I am typing it has started to rain again.
Good luck with your decision - not sure what the answer is - we know 1 thing - we are not happy with our lives here and we were happier there.:)

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Yup me too a ping pong pom and still in the UK. I can honestly say that the weather here at the moment is terrible. I too think what has happened to the summer. A right shocker.

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were in the same position, do we stay or do we go, Im deffo going bk the UK one day, then Im deffo not the nxt, need to sort it out asap!

I know one thing, you do have a better quality of life , as in outdoors life!

bluekipper

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Yep we in same position, only been back since Nov last year and OH feeling very unsettled, very hard decision, we have a major tie here as my father is elderley and was one on the main reason to come back, but we are struggling with life back here.

Any advice on taking elderely relatives back would also be gratefully received as I dont know what visa we could take him back on as he's 78:(

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We spent 18months in Australia and have been back for less than a year. Heading back over in 2 weeks for good! Coming back to the UK helped us confirm that will were happier in Australia and believe we will be happier there in the future.

Major issue for us was the close family and friends we're leaving behind. Guilt plays a big part in that we feel, and sometimes you have to be a bit selfish for the sake of you and your family.

At the end of the day if it is feasible to return without majorly stalling your life's plans, I think its better to take the leap if you're wondering, rather than live life thinking what if. Whats the worst that can happen......go back to the UK again knowing Australia is not for you.

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I pingpongd as a child with my parents and then again as an adult – done the shift back and forth 9 times so far and I’m only 23! (Don’t ask)....Move number 10 is coming up next year, lol hopefully the last!

You never know unless you go. If you come out to Oz and can’t settle again, you can always go back (what ping ponging is all about, lol). Or if you are not sure about coming back, sit down and work out the reason why you left the first time? Why didn’t you settle?

A lot of people come here, doesn’t work out and go back to the UK only to realise that Australia wasn’t that bad after all and then come back again, you’re not alone. Doing a pong pong can also sometimes make you realise which one you really want and can also make you appreciate it more.

Also, if you’re not happy in the UK but not sure about Australia, what about somewhere else? The world is a big place, plenty of other countries. Or maybe a different city in Oz this time?

Good luck.

Mikey

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Hi we are pingponger's too!!! are currently in the UK but are not settled. Are planning on returning to Oz next Aug/Sept if all goes well. Main reason to come back to UK as the family tie thingy!!! should never have done it as never see family that much now anyway!! We miss loads of things about Oz and our lives there, the kids miss it to. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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Good luck,, do you have a house to sell??? this is what will stop us just upping and leaving, hope to get ours up 4 sale early nxt year!

were the same,, we should never have returned:mad:

Bluekipper

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As I said above we are going back 4th Nov (just booked flights 2 mins ago).
1st car boot Sunday, 1st sale of furniture item last night - now we know it is really going to happen. Going to Wales to say goodbye to MIL next weekend (early I know but she doesn't do travelling !!!!!!!).
I'm more excited about buying a camper trailer - we have ordered a Jayco which will be ready for when we get there - guess where we will be spending Christmas !
Still cr@pping myself but that is only normal.
Can't wait :D

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I might be a ping-ponger, who knows:D gotta get out of here first then i'm sure i will find out.

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Hi no we sold up last year when we went out so now just got a rental in UK till March, got a baby due Dec then got a family wedding in July then will be back !!! yahoo.

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This post is on the money for us. We feel like going home (UK) quite regularly then other days we don’t give it a thought. Can’t help but wonder when the feeling goes. What happens if it never does? In some ways this could have been the worse decision of our lives. If we did go back would we feel unsettled back in the UK and long for Oz again? Quite possibly. Has this emigration thing opened a huge can of emotional worms? Life seems so temporary at the moment we even have boxes in the garage that we haven’t unpacked yet and that’s after 3 years. Its funny though some days are big up’s and others are big downs. I guess its just that grass being greener on the other side thing again and some days you feel like you just shouldn’t have mowed it at all.:huh::huh:

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My best advice for you is to stay where you are, unpack everything and treat it like home, I know you will always have the UK in your heart as home, but believe me, we were exactly like you and didnt fully unpack saying we would stay a yr then see, looking bk we knew all along we were just waiting for that yr to be up to have the excuse to come bk, and yes you will still have the pull to go bk to OZ if you return, I promise you that, I swore it was the worst thing I ever did in my life but you remember what was there for you & the kids, the lifestyle they have the friends they made and you do regret bringing them bk when they were settling but it was you who was`nt! hope this helps you decide. In the grand scheme of things 3 yrs really isnt long either to put roots down, it may take a life time however if you are serious about living in OZ you ahve to fully throw yourself into it, that means unpacking all your boxes haha

Bluekipper

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I'd have to agree with Bluekipper, wait a while longer, unpack all the boxes or get rid of the crap in the boxes unopened (tell I have done this before !!), then you will be able to make your house a home and not a temporary stopover as it seems as present.

It takes a long time to make a house a home - no matter what country your in!

Each country has its good points and bad points and neither will be perfect so stick it out a bit longer and set up home, then maybe you can decided for definite where you want to be.

Having done this 4 times now and each time for what we thought were valid reasons we are now in a situation where hubbie finally has a good job we now discover that our 15 year old son didn't want to come back here this time but couldn't tell us. He now wants to return to Perth, go to Uni and set up home there. As he has spent 10 of his 15 year life in Perth, its understandable. We have no idea whether to go back next year or not now.

Plants

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Really feel for you, its sending us loopy,, one day its `Im deffo going bk very soon` and on another day ` we cant go bk because blah blah blah` its so easy to talk yourself out of something,, we need to just bite the bullet and go 4 it AGAIN!!!! lol

This is we are wanting to head to this time `Perth`, I hope you sort it out and do whats best for all of you,,isnt it hard?

bluekipper

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Tell ya, Bluekipper, its driving us loopy too! Just like you one day we are def going back then decide the next we cant cos of GCSE exams and all the implications associated with them, if he wants them at all.

We thought the first decision we made to emigrate was the toughest but I have to say that each subsequent decision has been equally as hard, its seems as though no one way is the easiest to take, all are hard. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind hard work but mental hard work is absolute torture on me and I find it harder and harder as I get older to make decisions. There are so many more things to think about too, or is that just cos I am wiser (or like to think so anyway!)

We thought we had a great relationship with our son being able to talk to him about anything, we thought, but this only came to light because his married sister is still in Perth and they obviously have talked more. I suppose I have to be thankful its come to light now rather than in a few years time accompanied by a lot of resentment from him, at least this way its out in the open and we can discuss it openly.

I still say, stick it out a tad longer, then try and decide, sooner or later you will start leading to one side rather than the other.

Plants

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acb, join the club of the confused! Sorry I am not much help but hope you finally make the right decision for you.

British Summer, yes exactly what british summer. I may be getting old but I swear summers were warmer when I was younger!!!

Good luck

Plants:thumbup:

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Totally agree, I feel like we moved to the tropical rainforest or something,, so sick of it,, my Ausie BBQ is still wrapped up in the shed, thought id use it loads, how wrong was i?

I am swayed towards going bk mainly due to weather and nice beaches space etc etc,, cant imagine retiring here in the UK how scary, sorry if its where you prefer, but each to their own,, I also agree with your statement on how hard it is to make the desicion to go home & then bk again... glutton for punishment or what?

Just dont want my kids (18 & 13) to blame me for not getting bk whilst we had visa`s and chance to. I know il never have the job I have here over there,,, doubt it anyways, but I cant let that sway me into staying just because I love my job, more to life and all that!

good luck to all

Bluekipper