Hilton`s

I have written on here a few times over the past year about the trouble I`m
having getting my mum and dad to come to terms and talk about the fact
that we are emigrating. I told them last year when we were visiting Brisbane
for a holiday that we had applied for our visa and they were upset but never
mentioned it again. Then I told them in May that we had received our visas and again they didn`t really want to talk about it because they were so upset, and they never have since. Anyway we have now got the contract
to sign for our house sale and it is looking like we are going to complete at
the end of Oct, so my husband decided to go round and try to talk to my
mum and dad. When he got there he just said that he thought we should
talk about things and my dad just angrily said "why, there`s nothing to talk
about" anyway the bottom line is that my dad seems so hurt and angry that
I feel the need to move away from all my friends and family and they both
just cannot understand how I can just move away from such a great life
here. When my husband tried to tell them that I`m having a really hard time
of this and this is not at all easy for me to do they just say "well, why is
she doing it then?" They also said it is harder because they know it was not
my husband pushing me into this decision and that it was me that pushed for
it in the beginning and so I think they are taking it as a personal insult that
I am leaving them. I really do understand how they feel, I am the only
daughter, (I have 2 brothers) and am really close to my mum and dad and
when I really think about it I`m quite shocked at what I`m doing myself but
I am trying to do what is best for my family, my 2 sons are 15 and 17 and
it is basically now or never. I think that we are really lucky that the boys
have agreed to give oz a go at their ages and I don`t want us to have
regrets in the future if we do not take this opportunity. My mum and dad
are not particularly old (mum`s 63 and dad`s 68) and they do travel but
all my dad says to my brother is "I`m not getting any younger" and "I`ll
only see them once again in my lifetime" of course my brother tells me all
this because he knows that I want to know how they feel, but it is really
hard!

Anyway any words of wisdom appreciated, I just felt the need to get this
all off of my chest.

Tracey x

TrickyTrev

Oh Tracey, What can anybody say to you to make things easier? There are many on here that are having a similar time. There is no easy answer. You just have to hope and pray that they will come round - and they probably will but in their own time. Our parents are glad for us but we know that deep inside they are hurting. They just put on a brave face for us. I think of how I would feel if it was me that was the parent and it was one of my kids going to Oz. Gutted would probably sum it up! Stay strong and always remember why you are doing it. You and YOUR family MUST come first. Good luck.
Love Trev. xx

Vic&jase

[QUOTE=Hilton`s]I have written on here a few times over the past year about the trouble I`m
having getting my mum and dad to come to terms and talk about the fact
that we are emigrating. I told them last year when we were visiting Brisbane
for a holiday that we had applied for our visa and they were upset but never
mentioned it again. Then I told them in May that we had received our visas and again they didn`t really want to talk about it because they were so upset, and they never have since. Anyway we have now got the contract
to sign for our house sale and it is looking like we are going to complete at
the end of Oct, so my husband decided to go round and try to talk to my
mum and dad. When he got there he just said that he thought we should
talk about things and my dad just angrily said "why, there`s nothing to talk
about" anyway the bottom line is that my dad seems so hurt and angry that
I feel the need to move away from all my friends and family and they both
just cannot understand how I can just move away from such a great life
here. When my husband tried to tell them that I`m having a really hard time
of this and this is not at all easy for me to do they just say "well, why is
she doing it then?" They also said it is harder because they know it was not
my husband pushing me into this decision and that it was me that pushed for
it in the beginning and so I think they are taking it as a personal insult that
I am leaving them. I really do understand how they feel, I am the only
daughter, (I have 2 brothers) and am really close to my mum and dad and
when I really think about it I`m quite shocked at what I`m doing myself but
I am trying to do what is best for my family, my 2 sons are 15 and 17 and
it is basically now or never. I think that we are really lucky that the boys
have agreed to give oz a go at their ages and I don`t want us to have
regrets in the future if we do not take this opportunity. My mum and dad
are not particularly old (mum`s 63 and dad`s 68) and they do travel but
all my dad says to my brother is "I`m not getting any younger" and "I`ll
only see them once again in my lifetime" of course my brother tells me all
this because he knows that I want to know how they feel, but it is really
hard!

Anyway any words of wisdom appreciated, I just felt the need to get this
all off of my chest.

Tracey x[/QUOTE

Hearing you loud and clear Tracey,

I, like you think I am doing a rotten thing sometimes but I try to override these thoughts with my reasons.

Mum is upset beyond belief. And it is very hard to swallow that I am causing her so much pain. She still will not talk to us about Australia but I hope that one day she will eventually be able to accept our reasons.

Thinking of you,

Vics xxxxxxx