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Can anyone confirm that they too (as the big day approaches), are getting panicky about the whole move. One minute I am up:thumbsup: and the next:thumbdown:. Oh my god - will I get a job, where are we going to live? why, when who the list goes on and on.........:eek:

And then as I am feeling right now, i think what the hell and think well its just another adventure!

I am confident that positive thoughts make positive things happen but can't get these bad negative thoughts out of my head. I have 3 weeks left here in the UK!!!

ARGGHHHH
Tatyana

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Completly normal behaviour you are not alone one minute high next low.

This will also happen once you arrive and nothing will prepare you for it.

Good luck with your adventure the amount of times I actually ripped up stat decs that we had to send to DIMIA because I was freaking out and decided I was def not emigrating.

Jesus my solicitors bills were high having to get stat decs done agin lol.

The first 4 weeks here bliss holiday mode.

The next 6 months hell reality kicked in and felt so homesick swore I was going back to Scotland many times.

The amount of people that told me its a phase and it will get better ( **** I hated them lol ).

A few months later found a job I enjoyed made good friends, great social life etc.

3 Years later would I return?

Never say never but at this moment in time NO.

I love my life here even though we will have to relocate from Perth to Tassie to be able to afford a property.

It has been a positive move and one im so glad we did even though I was sooooooooooooooo ready to throw the towel in 3 years ago.

Good luck with your future and remember we all panic its the unknown.

Mags

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OMG!!! you are me....lol....we dnt go till september and im like this now!!!

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don't be such a tart lee.........:lol:

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We also go in 3 weeks haven't completely panicked yet but the packers are in mon/tues so then I will be left with nothing to occupy my mind so am expecting it may happen then. Good Luck with your plans

Andreaxx

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Where are you heading? We are going to Sydney on 24th. You?

Best of luck!

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My goodness, I would love to say it's going to get easier but hell no it gets worse and I guess worse still once you arrive and its the unknown:eek:

Starting to feel a little more normal!:rofl:

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I think I should be saying thanks:) but you do not fill me with pleasant thoughts...its going to get worse. aRGGHHHHH:eek: I guess its honest though and wouldn't want to be told its all excellent when you get there and then wonder why I am so different and homesick.

Glad you are happy and will bear in mind that I need to stick it out for a while before making any rash decisions.

Best of luck;)

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:D

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I think this is normal...I get regular panic attacks about emigrating too! Here I was thinking it was just me!
It will be a rollercoaster journey but you've gotta keep that long term goal in mind...our year-old daughter will be so much better off growing up an Aussie instead of a Pom!!
Even though I seem to have a straighforward case to emigrate (married to an Aussie for 4 years now and we have a child), it is just as unsettling, time is ticking on fast, hope to get away to Oz in Nov as hubby's visa expires, and not yet sent off the forms, will we make it in time??! Got the process underway now though, just waiting on a few more documents to be certified/posted from Oz/returned etc, then we can fill out the form.
Go for it and enjoy the ride - you gotta take the rough with the smoooove...
Good luck!!

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Good words of wisdom! Good luck to you, a friend of mine is also married to an aussie so totally understand that it is not straightforward being married to a citizen! Although it would make sense to be a bit easier. But the very best of luck to you and hope baby has the happy, healthy outdoor lifestyle that you want for him/her.

Tatyana

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Life is an adventure enjoy every minute without ever having to say what if.

You will be fine doll.

Loads of karma coming your way

xxxx

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I am the nervous wreck of all nervous wreck's!!!!

Tantrums, crying then happy, then sad.

We leave in just over 4 weeks.

Tonight I'm meeting up with some friends and instead of being happy - I feel like going for a bubble!!!!!!!

I do actually want to go to Perth - but sometimes I do question myself.

Men on the other hand seem far laid back.

I'm sure it will all work out in the end.

Yesterday I looked at homes in the UK on the internet and even set up a viewing.

What am I all about????????????????????????

'PM' me if you need a shoulder to cry on - then again, maybe not, you'll end up depressed if you speak to me!!!

Chin up!

Laura

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Hey Laura

Sounds like we are at the same stage! and will be probably be here for a very long time!!!!

Where are you off to and have you got stuff sorted etc that end?

I am heading to Sydney first of all and then probably Brisbane after 6 months when I want to join the police but will be working and living in central Sydney hopefully - near the beach would be good;)

T

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Dont get me started on men Laura lol.

Im so glad im here now cant imagine being back in Uk but it did take time to settle.

I have some fab mates here one in particular Alison who is like a sister to me we met 3 years ago at work and have been inseparable since, holidays together etc.

Siren AKA Christina my very first friend and the one who really helped me settle here in Perth, we met 3 years ago and although now live in different suburbs meet up weekly.

Old posters Jill The Banana Diaries, Vegemite Kids, Teresa, Jopualus.

We used to have regular coffee meets at each others houses thats how we met each other even started a thread the glass shoe diaries accounting our weekly meets lol.


Going from leaving all my mates in the UK to starting a fresh was daunting but I now find it hard to keep in touch with my mates over here.

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Glad to hear you have settled well, despite the obvious lack of help from your man! and yes we all know that one only too damn well.

Am looking forward to meeting new friends and hopefully I and Laura and all the other people about to embark on this adventure will have sucha good experience as you are having!

Tx

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I have regular panic attacks and I wake up feeling sick to my stomach most mornings, its the first thing i think about in the morning it drives me mad and we are not even going till end of August.

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DITTO, I am exactly the same!!!!!!! Good luck with it all, the feelings are all "normal" so I've been told!

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Yes have that feeling this morning. Been getting up to trek to work in London all week and packing all evenings and still wake up on a Saturday at 6.45:thumbdown:AM!!!! with it all on my mind.ARGHHHHH:eek:


Absolutely annoy the hell out of myself thinking about.

Hope it goes well for you. The very best of luck

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You too:thumbsup:

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At least I know that I am not the only one that goes through this.
Good luck too guys.
xxxx

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Hi no worries we have about 6 months before we move over (fingers x'd) and we are losing about 2 hours sleep a night waking up with totally random thoughts going through what little brain hasn't been turned to mush yet :curse: but it will be worth it wont it ( well thats what i keep tellimg myself any way) Good luck:thumbsup: Darren

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I've started getting the ups & downs as it gets nearer & actually seems real! Before if I heard people saying this, I was like just get on with it, it's an opportunity, all good experience, blah blah blah but in practice it's difficult to ignore the panicky feelings. I try to keep a lid on it but I'm finding selling the house very hard as it's our first house & I really like it, esp with the garden looking nice this time of year :unsure:

Still, on the plus side maybe the stressing will help me lose a few pounds :rofl:

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hi all,

we are flying out to sydney on 17 july and we are in the same boat. do we go or stay? hubby been given great job, house provided etc and we are renting out our uk house as a fall back. we hear all the horror stories and all the great things about oz and feel oh crap and oh great. what shall we do?:blink::blink:

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I sometimes think are we doing the right thing but I know we are really. I don't want to be one of those people that say to me "I had the oppotuninty to go but I didn't and now I regret it". If at worst I want to be one of those that say yes we tried it but it didn't work out or at best yes we love it here ten years down the line. But I do think about it all the time and sometimes it can be quite overwhelming.

Take a deep breath in everyone and exhale, all is well.

xxxx

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I am so glad to hear that others are finding it difficult.
I have so much to sort out before I go to NZ...and it is a scary prospect as I don't have much time to do it in.
Also keep wondering whether i am making the right decision (which deep down I know I am) and how I will find missing my family!
So....my emotions are up and down constantly :curse:

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Thats us as well,don't want to go to my maker thinking "what if" we have been given an opportunity and we are grabbing it by both horns even though it is costing a fair bit, :eek:but worth it anyway friends and family are only an e-mail away also a good way to find out your true friends and those who are just after a cheap holiday.:thumbsup:

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I must have missed this thread first time around. We fly in just under 2 weeks, has anyone felt guilt??? this last couple of weeks I have experienced a proper choking feeling where it feels someone has their hand on my throat and guilt at taking my husband and kids away from his side of the family and my kids away from their friends. I am normally a heavy cryer, but now I just stand there choked so poeple think I am not upset - its really wierd.

Plus there isnt enough hours in the day (to get stuff shut down and organised)- so glad gave up work early. Its really heavy going this last stint for us, more than I imagined it would be.

People have decided they are coming to the airport, which I am dreading - including my son who isnt emigrating just yet with us. Dreading walking through passport control with people upset on the other side, really dreading it.

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Hey dont forget, It is yourself your husband and your kids you are doing this for. I promise you will not regret it. Rochdale vs Sunshine coast No comparison.And all those people who will be so upset at you leaving will not even bother to call you after 6 months when the novelty has worn off. Dont know about the airport though absolutely banned everyone from that .Went the night before and stayed in the Raddison.Take care and see u soon
Raven

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see you soon Raven and thank you - that makes sense and is a good driving thought. Basically thats how it used to be anyway for us, its only been recently his family have got closer and more emotional, my family are carrying on as though nothing is happening. really wierd, but will hold that thought. cheers matey you're a gooden. x

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Cant u sleep? anyway as i said dont worry about all these rellys breaking down etc. I reallyreally promise you u will be lucky if they can be bothered to pick up the phone 6 months from now. u are coming to place where your children can grow up safe and healthy and the beer flows freely:thumbsup::thumbsup:
Have a great last 2 weeks
Raven

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Hi

We were the same prior to leaving in December 2005. We found out in the September and booked flights immediately to leave end Dec. I left my job and then started panicking a bit so approached a local photographer to see if I could work voluntarily for him whilst learning at the same time. It was brilliant, took my mind of everything as I was so busy and learning something new. The day we left the UK I was hyper with excitement. My husband suffered more than me with the panic attacks as he was doing the same old thing and wasn't very busy. It's perfectly normal though and only to be expected...you just have to find ways of controlling it!!

18 months on and we have no desire to go back, not even for a holiday. I feel a bit guilty about that.

Good luck,
Sandra

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You're right there, about them phoning. My parents ring about 3 or 4 times per week but we hardly ever get phone calls from anyone else. The other friends and relatives who were in tears when we left don't seem to be able to afford the cost of a phone call!!! Despite the fact that you can get really low cost calls to Australia, 3p per minute. I was a bit upset about it initially but not bothered now. Yeah....thumbsup!

Sandra

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Thanks for all the reasurance. It is a horrible feeling, like someone sitting on my chest sometimes and I can't breathe. I'm not sure its all about leaving people behind its also about trying to organise everything and deciding what to take. I keep forgeting simple things well I say simple but I forgot to go to work last wednesday evening and I had a big panick attack I was crying for ages. I feel like our life is on hold and i'm just waiting for it to start again.

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Bless you! Perfectly normal. I didn't stop feeling like that until 6 months after I'd arrivedin OZ lol. It's all a bit of a shock no matter how prepared you think you are!

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THanks - under two weeks to go now and I am still working and trying to do everything.....Nightmare:eek:

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That's awful, I really sympathise. I've had panic attacks now and again and it's scary. My most recent was last Friday night as the gbp/aud exchange rate dropped significantly last week leaving us short of money to buy house over here which settles on 27th :eek: I see a natrupath in Perth and she gave me something a while ago to help with times like that, they really work. I do think it's normal though, to feel the way you do, just take the deep breaths etc!

Good luck,
Sandra

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Tatyana I hope all is going well for you and goes as smoothly as possible.

SJR Yes I been looking at exchange rate and it is a tad scary to say the least especially if your buying a property. I just have to keep rembering to take some deep calming breaths. Thanks chuck.

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hi again, well coming on here has been great, and we have decided to do it! kim has given up her job anyway, and my notice is in. Our daughter the 21 year old has booked her tickets to come for a holiday at xmas, so we feel happy. as you have all said, REGRETS, we can say we done it, wether we stay or not. we are planning to come back but if it is good who knows and thankyou all. as for the airport, no goodbyes and could not bear that.