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Oh Bundy,
she's lovely bought tears to my eyes seeing a photo of Bundymum, thanks so much for sharing
hugs
Rach x

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Thanks Rach.

And here's one of her peeing herself with laughter at my *little* brother's best man speech....I like this one of her

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Originally Posted by bundy

And here she is, the BundyMum, at one of the BundyBrother's wedding a month or so back....not the best picture, mind, but it'll do.

Ahhhh, thankyou!!

Is that your dad on the right??

How was the wedding btw, I think I missed that?!!

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Originally Posted by Simone

Ahhhh, thankyou!!

Is that your dad on the right??

How was the wedding btw, I think I missed that?!!

Nope, it's my mum's cousin (one of the many :rolleyes: ). Don't seem to have any of my mum and dad together because my dad spent the whole time rushing about with his camera.

The wedding was....okay. Don't get on with my older brother that well, or my new SIL who is evil. They both work in event management so it was a very well managed event, totally lacking in emotion or evidence of love. But that's what they wanted, so who am I to say different. It was a very lavish affair that they'll be paying off for the next 3 decades.

Highlight was my baby brother's best man speech - absolutely cracking, but I've never been so nervous in my life! Poor boy, he's only 21....

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Hiya Bundy m8
So so glad to here about your mum. It is absolutely fantastic we are so pleased for you and all your family.

I have been deliberating whether to answer your thread but didn't know how too.
I will explain as best i can, my lovely mum passed away 24/7/04. She had been on kidney dialysis for about a year and very poorly with it. However even through her illness Lilian was a tower of strengh to me. Insisting that we didn't dare alter any of our plans because of her illness.
Mum even managed a hectic day In Leeds as i received my degree, she soldiered on like a proper good un. I never told her how proud I was of her that day. I wish i had!!!
Lilian was then diagnosed with cancer of the liver and the ovaries. It came as a great shock knowing that we were probably going to lose her. Mum would hear none of it and battled her illness as though she had a minor headache. When i tried to cancel our weeks holiday in Majorca she went ballistic telling me that she wouldnt expect that of me, that I needed a break and that she would be fine. I believed her, knowing how strong she was I went. Lilian died three days after we departed. It was the saddest day of my life.

I am not after sympathy as we have had loads and I must say it does ease the pain though.
What I do want people to know is this though, and these are actually Lilian's words.
Hear them well, or like me you may feel the back of her hand!!!! Christ mum i am 44 you can't keep threatening me with that one.

"Follow your dreams and ambitions Chris, remember you only get one chance at this. It is not a rehersal!!!" "Nobody will laugh and tell you were wrong even if it all blows up in you face. At least you will have tried"

I promised her that i will get to Aus one day and I will. I am just thankful that I knew someone with a strength and will as great as hers.
Good on ya Mrs Bundy xx
good luck to all who are trying
Regards Chris and Andrea

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I've just read your post with tears pouring over my keyboard, your dear mum sounded like a remarkable lady and i can only begin to imagine how proud you must be of her. I hope that one day you get to Australia and fullfil your dreams
thanks for being so honest and open in your post
kind regards
Rach xx

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Bundy babe - you know how chuffed I am about your mum, and you know how proud I am of you and how you dealt with everything. Here's to the future eh! ;)

Handyandy, your mum sounds like an absolute diamond! Can tell by how you speak of her that she'll always be with you. A remarkable woman who's left good memories to make you smile. All the best mate.

:)

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That's good news, very inspiring. It reminds you not to take anything for granted.

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Bundy,
glad to hear the good news that all is well with your mum.

Seeing as I have all extremities crossed at the moment for Warren & Jills house sale I'm doing the german "daumen drÃƒÂ¼cken" for your mum. So both thumbs tightly pressed that her recovery continues apace and she is soon on that plane to visit you in OZ (typing this with my knuckles now :D :D )

Love and Hugs to your mum
M&C

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Chris,
all of a sudden your signature line has a whole new significance.

Just make sure you continue to do what your mum told you :D :lecture: :D

M&C

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That's great news Bundy.

I know how traumatic the whole experience can be; not just for those who are diagnosed, but for those around them. The feeling of not being able to do anything is so frustrating, but the love and support that you can give makes all the difference.

Way-to-go the Bundy Mum!

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Handyandy....

What can I say? Sounds like our mums were hewn from the same rockhard granite! Strong women indeed.

You say you don't need any more sympathy, but I know that it helps, so I'm sorry for your loss. Really sorry. But I'm glad you shared that post with us all because it helps. My mum is the same - doesn't want us to put off our plans for going to Oz and feels incredibly guilty that it's been delayed. But I got such a shock when she fell ill and I'm promised myself there and then never to let things go unsaid that should be said. So I've had time to tell my mum how much I love her, how much she inspires me, how very proud of her I am and how much I'll miss her when she goes (whenever that may be). The fact that she knows that now gives me a huge sense of relief. Sometimes we all need to stop for a minute to realise what's important to us.

I know I'll have to go through this again sometime, that this cancer will kill my mum in the end, but I also know that I have more strength now than I did then. I'm better prepared. I've learnt how to ask for help. I've seen my whole family at their lowest point and I've seen them get back up again. That makes me proud.

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Thanking you all for your very kind words. They mean a lot to me and my family. Once again thankyou.

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That is fantastic news Bundy. Give her big hugs. How are the wedding plans going? Well I hope.

Hugs
Sarah

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That is fantastic news Bundy. Give her big hugs. How are the wedding plans going? Well I hope.

Hugs
Sarah

Thanks Sarah. Wedding plans on hold at the moment because I've just been way too busy running the summer schools - too much time organising them to think about organising anything else right now!