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Old Jun 1st 2005, 4:09 am
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I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
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Originally Posted by jwinch
I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
Hey there,

Chin up. FWIW I think you did the right thing There's nothing worse than hating your job - you spend too much time at work for it to be somewhere that makes you unhappy. I'm sure something fabulous will come along. I've got my fingers crossed for you!
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Originally Posted by jwinch
I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
c'est la vie.
It was probably going to happen anyway from the sounds of it. You just done added a bit of the shock factor.
Sometimes it's the best way.
Sure you'll get another job, anyone who can stand up for themselves like that can succeed. Good luck in your next job.
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Old Jun 1st 2005, 4:28 am
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Hey don't worry, things will work out. There is nothing worse than staying in a job you hate, it is sould destroying, after all you spend most of yur waking hours there.
Don't worry abput references, they have to give you one. if they do put anything negative i.e left giving no notice, just make sure you explane why you left and that you worked for your previous employer sooooo long with no problems.
Good luck, keep smiling

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Originally Posted by jwinch
I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
Good for you!
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Good onya!

No point in making yourself miserable. Sounds like you're a pretty strong person with a good head on your shoulders. I'm sure you'll find something much better soon.

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Sorry to hear your news, but I dont agree with the others here, every penny counts in a new country and maybe you should have looked for a new job while still getting a wage or at least have put a few feelers out.
Hope you get sorted soon.
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Sorry to hear your news, but I dont agree with the others here, every penny counts in a new country and maybe you should have looked for a new job while still getting a wage or at least have put a few feelers out.
Hope you get sorted soon.
Well yes that's obvious, but too late now. I wouldn't advise people to chuck in their jobs without thinking of the practical issues, but shit happens.
The only thing to do now is focus on the positives, you can't save spilt milk.
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I walked out of a job years ago in the uk. I had been there for years - I won't go into the reasons, but it was making me very unhappy. At the time I was the main earner with a mortgage and two small children. From the outside it must have looked like a mad decision - it ended up being one of the best decisions of my life.

Sometimes risks are worth taking. It depends what is more important to you - sanity/health or money/security.

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No point in staying somewhere you hate. Why put them on your CV - 4 months isn't long - just say that you have been settling in up until now! That way you can refer them to your employers in the UK.
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Good for you. Most people (me included) wouldnt have the guts to do that, no matter how unhappy they were. As you said "its not what you moved there for" Well done.
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No point crying over splilt milk and all that but I know Malc has warned me that if I do get a job somewhere (rather than work from home) the Aussies may well make my life hell for a bit just to see what type of person I am. He had same happen to him when on his WHV and going round fruit picking etc. he said a lot of them give you stick just to see if you are a whinging Pom or not!
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Originally Posted by jwinch
I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
hi, I totally agree with unco. We spend so much of our life at work, and I've seen enough friends terribly unhappy due to work circumstances. It affects the rest of your life and it's just not worth it. I loved my last job, but the office politics just got too much at the end, and I was relieved to be leaving to come here.

I'm not actually working yet, but I sympathise and sending you karma
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Originally Posted by jwinch
I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
Hi jwinch,
If it's making you that unhappy you have done the right thing. There will be other jobs. Unfortunately, it happens all over. I have been very happy in my job for 6 years well that was until they found out I was going to Oz. Since September my life has been hell with all the bitching and back stabbing. I just can't wait to leave but cannot do this until we have exchanged contracts on the house. As soon as that is done, I'm handing in my notice.
You will find another job soon, in the mean time try not to worry. Good luck.
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Originally Posted by jwinch
I have never been one to act on impulse. I worked for my last employer in the UK for nineteen years and was very happy there.

I have been in my first job in Oz for four months and today I have just walked out and told them I am not going back. I have been trying to make it work for several weeks now but the people there are making me really unhappy and at the end of the day thats not what we moved here for.

The Manager is a really old fashioned typical male chauvanist pig who has absolutely no respect for women, The moral in the whole office is at an all time low with lots of bitching and back stabbing.

I know I was probably silly to just jack it but I got to the stage where I just couldnt cope with the crap any longer it was making me miserable and eating away my self confidence, and i was taking it out on the kids.


Looks like I have probably blown a reference too !

Just got to break the news to the old man now
You're not alone, after finding what I though was a fantastic job - I loved it, thought all my Xmas's had come at once - it started of brilliant for the first couple of months, then the boss started to show his true colours (I should have been more concerned about the two previous employees who didn't last more than two months) a corporate psychopath I believe is the correct title. I walked out after three months and a lot of soul searching. I have worked in the same type of industry for over twenty years but you cannot let yourself become someones punch bag - you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror each day.

I'm still looking and still very happy about my decision to quit - Enjoy the beer something will turn up

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