Oh help!Neighbours!
#1
Oh help!Neighbours!
Haven't needed to put a thread on for a while, but need some advice. We've settled in really well where we live (didn't expect to with our initial probs). Get on well with our neighbours who are mostly elderly. To 'celebrate' our arrival, one of the neighbours is organising a formal dinner party for us (yes we're truely horrified). Whilst its such a sweet gesture, we just don't do dinner parties with the neighbours, in fact I don't think I've ever been to one, or had neighbours for that matter! How do you politely decline, when they've gone to such an effort? How many excuses can we come up with? Do we, or don't we? We don't want to offend anyone and they really are nice people. We're just not ready for aussie socialising. We initially thought it was a ploy to get our life histories out of us, however I'm reliably informed that our wonderful kids have already spilled the beans on our darkest secrets (don't you just love em), so it can't be that. Maybe I just don't trust people!
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
#2
Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
I'd go, but if they ask you to put the car keys in a bowl, then make your excuses and leave .
Would they get the 'huff' if you declined - might be handy having some good locals to rely on.
Would they get the 'huff' if you declined - might be handy having some good locals to rely on.
#3
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Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
If they're going to such effort it would be rude to decline and you never know you might enjoy yourself.
If you find you don't enjoy it then don't do it again, but try opening your mind to a new experience and you might surprise yourself. As for not being in a party mood, I've often found that I enjoy myself more when I've not really been wanting to go to something than when I've been looking forward to it. Would it really kill you to spend a few hours in their company?
Is there any reason why you "don't do dinner parties" or socialise with your neighbours?
If you find you don't enjoy it then don't do it again, but try opening your mind to a new experience and you might surprise yourself. As for not being in a party mood, I've often found that I enjoy myself more when I've not really been wanting to go to something than when I've been looking forward to it. Would it really kill you to spend a few hours in their company?
Is there any reason why you "don't do dinner parties" or socialise with your neighbours?
#4
Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by Tumbleweed
If they're going to such effort it would be rude to decline and you never know you might enjoy yourself.
If you find you don't enjoy it then don't do it again, but try opening your mind to a new experience and you might surprise yourself.
Is there any reason why you don't go to dinner parties or socialise with your neighbours?
If you find you don't enjoy it then don't do it again, but try opening your mind to a new experience and you might surprise yourself.
Is there any reason why you don't go to dinner parties or socialise with your neighbours?
#5
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If you are not party people why did you decide to go to oz???
Seriously, I suggest you bite the bullet and accept with good grace.
Entertaining neighbours and friends is probably the no 2 social activity in OZ
behind watching sport. Make the most of it I'm sure you will grow to like it.
Seriously, I suggest you bite the bullet and accept with good grace.
Entertaining neighbours and friends is probably the no 2 social activity in OZ
behind watching sport. Make the most of it I'm sure you will grow to like it.
#6
Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by glittababe
Haven't needed to put a thread on for a while, but need some advice. We've settled in really well where we live (didn't expect to with our initial probs). Get on well with our neighbours who are mostly elderly. To 'celebrate' our arrival, one of the neighbours is organising a formal dinner party for us (yes we're truely horrified). Whilst its such a sweet gesture, we just don't do dinner parties with the neighbours, in fact I don't think I've ever been to one, or had neighbours for that matter! How do you politely decline, when they've gone to such an effort? How many excuses can we come up with? Do we, or don't we? We don't want to offend anyone and they really are nice people. We're just not ready for aussie socialising. We initially thought it was a ploy to get our life histories out of us, however I'm reliably informed that our wonderful kids have already spilled the beans on our darkest secrets (don't you just love em), so it can't be that. Maybe I just don't trust people!
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
We were in a similar situaion last Friday - were invited around our Aussie friends house for a meal and a few drinks but we'd had a very stressful day that day (medicals for PR at Paramatta then travelling back in rush hour traffic with a daughter crying all the way because she'd missed her first Aussie School Disco!!) so we would rather have gone home to an early night - we made the effort though and were glad we did. We got to meet their friend so thats another 'friend' we can add to our list! Its only one night and no doubt you'll be needing their help with the house in future again. You never know you might enjoy it!
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Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by tygwyn
We were in a similar situaion last Friday - were invited around our Aussie friends house for a meal and a few drinks but we'd had a very stressful day that day (medicals for PR at Paramatta then travelling back in rush hour traffic with a daughter crying all the way because she'd missed her first Aussie School Disco!!) so we would rather have gone home to an early night - we made the effort though and were glad we did. We got to meet their friend so thats another 'friend' we can add to our list! Its only one night and no doubt you'll be needing their help with the house in future again. You never know you might enjoy it!
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Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by glittababe
Haven't needed to put a thread on for a while, but need some advice. We've settled in really well where we live (didn't expect to with our initial probs). Get on well with our neighbours who are mostly elderly. To 'celebrate' our arrival, one of the neighbours is organising a formal dinner party for us (yes we're truely horrified). Whilst its such a sweet gesture, we just don't do dinner parties with the neighbours, in fact I don't think I've ever been to one, or had neighbours for that matter! How do you politely decline, when they've gone to such an effort? How many excuses can we come up with? Do we, or don't we? We don't want to offend anyone and they really are nice people. We're just not ready for aussie socialising. We initially thought it was a ploy to get our life histories out of us, however I'm reliably informed that our wonderful kids have already spilled the beans on our darkest secrets (don't you just love em), so it can't be that. Maybe I just don't trust people!
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
Oh and washing line, don't flatter yourself!
#9
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Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by rossifumi
I have heard it all now.
Oh and washing line, don't flatter yourself!
Oh and washing line, don't flatter yourself!
#10
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Personally I would just go - it`s only a couple of hours out of your life (you might actually enjoy yourself). If you go and its that bad you could always just get really drunk and fall asleep with you face in the soup - that would ensure you didn`t get invited back!!
#11
Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by glittababe
Haven't needed to put a thread on for a while, but need some advice. We've settled in really well where we live (didn't expect to with our initial probs). Get on well with our neighbours who are mostly elderly. To 'celebrate' our arrival, one of the neighbours is organising a formal dinner party for us (yes we're truely horrified). Whilst its such a sweet gesture, we just don't do dinner parties with the neighbours, in fact I don't think I've ever been to one, or had neighbours for that matter! How do you politely decline, when they've gone to such an effort? How many excuses can we come up with? Do we, or don't we? We don't want to offend anyone and they really are nice people. We're just not ready for aussie socialising. We initially thought it was a ploy to get our life histories out of us, however I'm reliably informed that our wonderful kids have already spilled the beans on our darkest secrets (don't you just love em), so it can't be that. Maybe I just don't trust people!
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
The neighbours have been good, we've been away a lot recently and they've put our bins out, taken them back in, mowed our lawns, kept an eye on the house (probably sniffed my frilly's on the washing line)! Whilst we're grateful we're not party people or in a party mood! How on earth do we get out of this one?
It would be my husbands worst nightmare as he's so shy but he'd still go and enjoy it no doubt.
#12
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Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Don't be so bloody miserable. Go!
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It sounds like they have gone to a lot of trouble for this. I'd go as its a nice gesture from them and you would probably offend them if you didn't. It sounds as though they've made you really welcome. You'll probably surprise yourself and have a great time.
#14
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Originally Posted by brisnick
Don't be so bloody miserable. Go!
They're probably just feeling sorry for you.
#15
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Re: Oh help!Neighbours!
Originally Posted by rossifumi
Do your neighbours a favour, don't go! They'll appreciate it.
They're probably just feeling sorry for you.
They're probably just feeling sorry for you.
Seriously though, it sounds like they're genuinely goos people so it would be rude to decline this offer. As was said before, during the evening, make it known that you like to keep yourselves to yourselves but that you're delighted to have such good neighbours. You could always say something like "we might not always come to the neighbourhood parties, but if any of you ever need anything, please feel free to ask" that way you're being friendly but letting them know your situation.
It's handy to have good neighbours, especially for the type of thing you've mentioned such as making the place look lived in in your absence. Also, you just never know when you might need their help!
Have a glass of wine, grin and bear it - it's just a couple of hours.
Have fun,
Gill