saoghalbeag

Funny you say that: I got the impression from the website that the UK CSA were pretty slapdash. I cannot believe about the ex and Xmas presents. What a git. My ex is nowhere near as bad but I did loan him my all-terrain pram, which he has returned to me because "it's broken" (um, he broke it! 2 tyres flat, stained, handle mangled, reeking of cat p***???) He also decided not to repay me for a wooden playpen I picked up for him from shop as a favour - instead, as our daughter has now outgrown it - he's simply going to hand it back to me. So now I'm $100 out of pocket and I never even used the bloody thing!

stumo

Yes but the PWC would need to apply to the Aus CSA, the UK CSA can only deal with NRP's who habitually reside in the UK (with some exceptions if employed by British companies abroad) - as you may have guessed by now I work for the Agency and yes it has a looong way to go

wheeliein2minds

Seeing as you work for the agency,could I ask you a question?
In your experience, put the regulations to oneside for a minute. In practice-would a NRP living in Oz be forced into sending Aus dollars back to the UK? If i`m not then I could voluntarily send an amount back each week on the proviso my ex allows my kids to keep in contact with me. I know it sounds like blackmail but if she won`t allow it then i`m not going to Aus. I`ve already got my PR .

Ian & Sharon

Mate I know where you are coming from on this, I was the same. But when there older you will be in the position to offer them an escape route from the UK.

Ian

andrew63

I know you didn't ask me but:
In practice-would a NRP living in Oz be forced into sending Aus dollars back to the UK?
Not by the CSA but possible by a Court Order if proceedings commenced by th e mother.

I could voluntarily send an amount back each week on the proviso my ex allows my kids to keep in contact with me.
Nothing to do with the CSA. That would be between you and the mother and the Courts to enforce. Legally you have rights to see and keep in contact with your children if you live abroad irregardless of money. Similarly, legally you have an obligation to contribute towards their upbringing. Two separate issues. No matter what you agree with the mother, only the Courts can enforce.

Andrew

stumo

If you are habitually resident in Australia then the UK CSA could not enforce an MC. However, going by the link provided earlier, it is possible your ex could apply via the Australian CSA but that's outside of my experience so couldn't advise on that.

wheeliein2minds

That`s my dilemma-as their father i`m duty-bound to do the best I can for them both short term AND long term.Short term it`s best I stay and support them here in the UK,their long term future must belong in Aus because this country will offer them nothing in 3 1/2 years time when they leave school.Opportunities in Aus are plentiful. Plus they will have a choice who they live with then.
The problem is,because of my age,I have only 6 months to make up my mind whether to go or not.I have been to or lived in Aus 3 times and I love it.
I welcome any contructive comments.

Ian & Sharon

I'd go for it!
Why, because if you don't you'll wish you had.
I thought long and hard over this, I came to the conclusion that my lad had come to the age were he didn't want to come to my house at the weekend. He would rather stay at his Mum's and play with his mates. I had to except that I would more than likely only see him every so often,I knew deep down it would be better for him, opportunity wise if I went.
I ring him every weekend but 7 times out of 10 he's not in, he's out playing, but It would be the same if I was in the UK, now he has an option there to use when he's older and when that time comes,which it will, it will then sink in that I have done the right thing.
At the end of the day your not here long so don't waste your time, as you have said you have not got long.
Also if it all goes wrong you go back, but at least you have given it a go!

Ian

Australia_bound?

I'd second the go for it option. Kids not going to forget you as and if you let em know prior to going where they can contact you and that you want the to come with you etc, of ex tries to stop em contacting you if they have you address and a phone no there's not much she can do about it..... and get kids for medicals to smooth the route for them to follow you once they decide where they want to be and are old enough to make that decision.

I think you'll regret it if you don't, judging by your previous comments.

Good luck with whatever you decide

Ian & Sharon

2nd that

andrew63

Go to Oz
Set up your own web site (<$50/year) with URL your kids will know to keep them updated.
Set up a trust/savings fund for them here too.

Andrew