Leaving wife

Old Jan 20th 2012, 7:19 am
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Hi,

I need some advice to anyone who might help. I am on a 176 visa and living
in Australia. I am the primary on this visa.

Since arriving I have been thinking about divorce. We have no kids.
We are only a few months here. We are also only married a few months.

Please do not judge me - you do not know my situation so please
do not point fingers.

My question is if i go ahead with this how will this affect my visa?
will i have to return home? will my wife have to return home?
will this rule out becoming a citizen? will this raise eyebrows
with immigration.

Again please do not judge the reasons for getting married were legitimate as
is the reason to consider a divorce as certain matters have come to my attention
in recent weeks.

Thanks
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Old Jan 20th 2012, 7:24 am
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So much for a fresh start then ?
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Since you are both living here, splitting up won't affect anything.

It would only matter if your wife hadn't at least validated her visa - then it would have meant her's would be no longer valid. Yours would have been fine, since you were the primary applicant (I am not sure how it would work if you used her skills to get a visa, but that's irrelevant anyway at this stage)
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You both hold 176 visas. These are PERMANENT residency visas - they do what they say on the tin.
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Originally Posted by gregan365
Hi,

I need some advice to anyone who might help. I am on a 176 visa and living
in Australia. I am the primary on this visa.

Since arriving I have been thinking about divorce. We have no kids.
We are only a few months here. We are also only married a few months.

Please do not judge me - you do not know my situation so please
do not point fingers.

My question is if i go ahead with this how will this affect my visa?
will i have to return home? will my wife have to return home?
will this rule out becoming a citizen? will this raise eyebrows
with immigration.

Again please do not judge the reasons for getting married were legitimate as
is the reason to consider a divorce as certain matters have come to my attention
in recent weeks.

Thanks
Tom
You are the main applicant and you got a skilled migrant visa, I can't imagine why you would think your personal life would impact this?
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As has been said, you are a permanent resident and now that DIAC have given you Permanent residency, they couldn't care less if you get divorced, remarried, quit your job or sell your car. So unless you intend to commit a crime in the process of getting divorced, your permanent residency status is safe and you can become a citizen when you qualify timewise, with or without a wife.
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Getting out of jail after a few months, you lucky barstard, some of us have got years left to serve
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Getting out of jail after a few months, you lucky barstard, some of us have got years left to serve
yup, I served 20
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Thank you for the replies,

No I did not use any of her skills to get the visa ... everything was done by me. My idea to come here also. (With every intention of being happily married).

This also makes me feel very bad as she has no work and no one here.
She left a job and family to come here and start this new life.
I can not simply walk out the front door. Anyone here who has gone through divorce must have experience here.

The first mental hurdle for me is that only a few months ago I
stood in front of my family and hers and made promises.

feeling down at the moment hopefully there is answers out there
somewhere although I perhaps know they won't be easy.

Thanks
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Originally Posted by gregan365
Thank you for the replies,

No I did not use any of her skills to get the visa ... everything was done by me. My idea to come here also. (With every intention of being happily married).

This also makes me feel very bad as she has no work and no one here.
She left a job and family to come here and start this new life.
I can not simply walk out the front door. Anyone here who has gone through divorce must have experience here.

The first mental hurdle for me is that only a few months ago I
stood in front of my family and hers and made promises.

feeling down at the moment hopefully there is answers out there
somewhere although I perhaps know they won't be easy.

Thanks
Before you decide anything why not see a counsellor? Either together or on your own. Emigrating to a new country is very stressful and even the most solid relationships can be shaken by it. You've only been here a few months, so it could be that you're having a bit of a wobble.

Where abouts are you guys? Have you tried getting out with other couples and making some friends? It might be helpful for your wife (and you) if you guys have other people to hang out with besides each other.
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Either as Dorothy says or buy her a one way ticket back home!
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Originally Posted by Dorothy
Before you decide anything why not see a counsellor? Either together or on your own. Emigrating to a new country is very stressful and even the most solid relationships can be shaken by it. You've only been here a few months, so it could be that you're having a bit of a wobble.

Where abouts are you guys? Have you tried getting out with other couples and making some friends? It might be helpful for your wife (and you) if you guys have other people to hang out with besides each other.
Very good advice!
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Originally Posted by gregan365
Thank you for the replies,

No I did not use any of her skills to get the visa ... everything was done by me. My idea to come here also. (With every intention of being happily married).

This also makes me feel very bad as she has no work and no one here.
She left a job and family to come here and start this new life.
I can not simply walk out the front door. Anyone here who has gone through divorce must have experience here.

The first mental hurdle for me is that only a few months ago I
stood in front of my family and hers and made promises.

feeling down at the moment hopefully there is answers out there
somewhere although I perhaps know they won't be easy.

Thanks
Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. Do you have anyone here you can confide in? Have a beer with?

Although it must be a horrendous thing you are going through, your situation will eventually improve so best of luck.
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Originally Posted by gregan365
Thank you for the replies,

No I did not use any of her skills to get the visa ... everything was done by me. My idea to come here also. (With every intention of being happily married).

This also makes me feel very bad as she has no work and no one here.
She left a job and family to come here and start this new life.
I can not simply walk out the front door. Anyone here who has gone through divorce must have experience here.

The first mental hurdle for me is that only a few months ago I
stood in front of my family and hers and made promises.

feeling down at the moment hopefully there is answers out there
somewhere although I perhaps know they won't be easy.

Thanks
Originally Posted by Dorothy
Before you decide anything why not see a counsellor? Either together or on your own. Emigrating to a new country is very stressful and even the most solid relationships can be shaken by it. You've only been here a few months, so it could be that you're having a bit of a wobble.

Where abouts are you guys? Have you tried getting out with other couples and making some friends? It might be helpful for your wife (and you) if you guys have other people to hang out with besides each other.
Totally agree with Dorothy on this

I am just about to apply for a divorce, and it's probably one of the hardest things I've ever done - and that includes migrating here and making a new life!

But I went and saw a counsellor. I was really glad I went to see her, she helped me so much.
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the reason to consider a divorce as certain matters have come to my attention
Makes me think its not due to stress of moving etc...
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