Re: Jacking in Nz - at this point in time
 

I already spoke to Paul a while back and he seems to be getting on well. Good luck to him. Theres a massive music scene here so I'm not too worried that it wouldn't work here, but if the wife doesn't want to work then by the time the Bus plan is approved then we'll have hammered the capital and thus wont qualify. We can either work and hope to get the business application approved, but see nothing of NZ, or see NZ and blow the dosh (coz if we get a no to the bus app, at least it wont have been a wasted trip)....

I don't know which way to turn now to be honest, the whole thing has been a strain financially and on our relationship. What survives at the end of the 6 months is anyones guess now.....

After all the preparation of the bus app, the wife said she'd get a job soon as, and we'd be sorted because we'd get PR. Not her fault but the category was removed yesterday. Add to tha her illness, and she wants out. Maybe time will change things, but who knows....

Rich

So sorry to hear trhat things haven't worked out for you and that the move has had such a detrimental effect on your wifes health.

Hope the news that you are moving back to blighty has had a positive effect on her

Good luck to you and your wife on your return to the UK.

Diane

Re: Jacking in Nz - at this point in time
 

Snap! Good luck in the next phase of your life.

According to one Derek Trotter (DelBoy) 'the world's your lobster'!
:D

OzTennis:)

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Hi Rich

I've just PM'd you if you'd care to check.

My home email is in second PM to you

Cheers

Jamie Smith

Rich, I'm so sorry to hear that your wife hasn't been well but I'm shocked to hear that you're coming back. I've always thought that you of all people would succeed in NZ because of your positive atitude. You're absolutely right that family has to come first and if your wife isn't happy then you don't have a choice. I'm just surprised at the sudden U turn after all your positive posts and the steps you've had to take to get there. I know you've had a tough time in the last few weeks and am sure this isn't a decision that you came to lightly. In the circumstances it's probably the right decision for you both at this time.

I can't add anything to what's already been said, just wish you the best of luck for the rest of your stay in NZ and return to the UK. Flick me an email if you get up to Auckland in your travels. Would be good to meet up.

Take care,
Ben

Hey that's a real nice post Ben, well put.

OzTennis:)

Hi Ben,

Thanks for the email. To be honest, I don't think we've given it a chance, but the wife is adamant that she wants to return to the uk, despite my suggestion that we could give it longer. I must admit, my positive attitude in the face of her negativity has taken the fire from me...but if I want to saty, I'll be staying alone, and as such I wish we'd just saved the enormous amount of cash we sunk into this move and stayed put and made the most of what we had. The idea was that she get a job when we arrived, I'd get a work permit and be able to trade. It was her idea to come early and "jump the gun" a little...however PR category has been removed and as such she can't see the point now, which means that I cant trade. I could always get an average job, but she refuses to work, and with 2 of us on one average wage, we'll still nail the capital we have to the point of not qualifying for the LTBV. I just wish we could go back 6 weeks and forget this - she did not think it through at all......


I'm prepared to keep going for a while, but I doubt it will work out now. I'll give you a shout if we're Auckland bound. Thanks for your positive postings anyway...all I get here is negativity..

Rich

Rich, it's probably none of my business but having gone through a divorce because I put work before family and wouldn't move to NZ with my Kiwi wife, I've got to say that I think you are doing the right thing. I've regretted the choices I made ever since. All I would say is do whatever it takes to keep your relationship together. You never know, as you are staying a few months and your wife won't be under the same pressure because she knows you'll be leaving soon, she might even grow to like the place.

At the end of the day, if you hadn't tried you would have been left wondering what if? At least you've given it a good shot and have the satisfaction that you gave it a try.

Try to stay positive mate.

Ben

Hi

Just wanted to say, I couldn't wait to get back to UK after being in NZ for a few months.

I even thought about leaving husband and kids to go back on my own. I was so desperate.

We were living in North Island, decided to move down to South Island. Last chance, got a job and just got on with life. I love it now it just takes TIME. Working in cafe lots of English tourists telling me how bad things are back home, and I just look out of the window fantastic view I know I willl never find anything like this back in UK.

Just go back and you will see what I mean. Though living in one of the best places in NZ does help.


Best wishes in your decision

:)

yes, your relationship with your wife is the most important thing.

I think you should try not to get too disappointed with all of this. It may look like a waste of time and effort, but you've learnt something about yourselves, about NZ, and about your relationship. For me, that's what emigration is all about - learning.

If you can take a little time to travel around NZ - all the better. At least you will see some of it.... you'll return to the UK financially worse off than when you left, but you will have an interesting life experience!

If at all possible, just try and relax somehow - forget about all the pressures - have a few beers, paddle in the ocean, do a bungee jump - just anything to turn it all into a holiday for while.

Good advice :)

Do a bungee jump - of the 'gee that's gonna hurt in the morning' type?:D

OzTennis:)